Episode 021: Breathwork Transformation

In Shake It Off Episode 21 Lauren and Kendra speak with special guest Claudia Amarsi, Master Breathwork Facilitator and trainer and owner of Amarsi.
Claudia helps you heal yourself with breathwork through trauma release, integration, and self mastery through in-person and virtual breathwork classes, facilitator training, workshops, and retreats.

Lauren and Kendra talk with Claudia all about the origins of breathwork, the impact of breathwork on our mental, emotional, and physical states, and so much more!

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Kendra Till

Welcome to Shake It Off a podcast that gives you the tools, strategies, and stories to optimize and prioritize your physical and mental health.

 

Lauren Hodge

Hi, everyone, and welcome back to shake it off. Kendra and I are speaking with Claudia Amarsi. She’s a master breathwork, facilitator and trainer, and owner of a charity. And she helps you heal yourself through breath work, using trauma release integration and self-mastery. I originally met Claudia in Denver, and we’re both members of a social club called Archipelago. This social club is all about providing spaces and opportunities for deep human connection growth and learning. And one of the workshops that I attended was Claudia’s breathwork classes. And it was incredible how she held space and guided us through this breathwork process. After the session, I felt this profound sense of calm and ease at a stressful time. And I’m so excited to introduce everybody to Claudia, thank you so much Claudia for being here with us today. I appreciate having you on the podcast.

 

Claudia Amarsi

My pleasure. Thank you for having me.

 

Lauren Hodge

So I’m curious, can you tell us your story about how you got into breathing? And what inspired you to start a Marcy?

 

Claudia Amarsi

Yeah, absolutely. It’s interesting, it was a personal journey to begin with. I didn’t expect that this would evolve into a new career path and a new business. It was originally found in breath work when I was in a deep self-exploration, a journey of self-healing. I was going through what I can only define as a night of the soul, like everything was not working, my marriage was ending, and my job was in flux. As I was getting laid off, I was coming to realize that I was deeply unhappy, even though I hadn’t had awareness of that until that point until everything started kind of crashing and I realized that I never wanted to be in that spot again. And what did I need to do to make sure that that didn’t happen again, and, realizing that I was the common denominator in all of the problems and everything that was happening, and that was hard to accept. But once I had that awareness, I was like, alright, never again, I’m gonna work with every possible teacher or tool or modality started with very traditional things like therapy, and group work, and so much content, so many books, so many podcasts, lots of yoga and meditation, which were a little bit a part of my life that became like a tool for me and helped kind of support me during some of those darker moments.

 

And then I started to veer into more nontraditional modalities and working with different healers, working with some coaches going on retreats, and working with psychedelics. And somebody had shared with me a TED talk about breath, and I thought it was so beautiful, and it wasn’t about breathwork, typically, but just about breath and spirit and this kind of universal energy, and that gentleman, Christian Delaware, was hosting a breathwork session in Denver. I was like, oh, that sounds lovely. I didn’t understand what it was, I thought maybe it was more like yogic breathing or pranayama. And sounded like it would be some beautiful self-care. So I signed up and ended up being surprised by the experience, it was a room of maybe 60 to 70 people. But having such a profound journey myself that evening, that for the first time and all of that healing and all of that learning about myself, like I was able to get out of my mind and more into my body, I was able to not be overanalyzing and overthinking and struggling with forgiveness and struggling with letting go of guilt and shame. And finally, just like accessing true compassion and true love in my heart, which then brought me one step closer to forgiveness, which I was so desperately searching for at that point. And so, after that first session, I was like, wow, I knew more of this.

 

This is, of all the things I’ve done, this feels like the most important tool that I’ve found, and I’m resonating the most with this rather than any other modality. And some of those other modalities are still very much a part of my life. You know, I’ve got a very good toolbox but breathwork has been the constant since I found it. Now, I also knew after that first time that I wanted to be able to share it with as many people as possible because I was like, This is amazing. How come I’ve never heard of this before? I want more people to hear about it, learn about it, experience it, and start bringing all my friends and family and even my ex-husband to my teacher to experience it for themselves and start an apprenticeship shortly after that.

 

Lauren Hodge

That’s incredible. I love that because so many people you know have tried these different other modalities too but like knowing that breathwork is what kind of brought you back Um, to your center. And what most resonated with you is, is really kind of profound, I think, when you say when you first learned breathwork, or that that workshop that you went to is 60 people was what type of breathwork was that?

 

Claudia Amarsi

So it’s the style that I know that I know facilitators, book conscious breathwork, which, you know, there are a handful of these deeper styles. Now, most of them have either come from the lineage of rebirthing style or the Holotropic style. And I think most people recognize Holotropic, that, for whatever reason, has the most kind of brand awareness or name recognition, but even those two lineages where the two founders knew each other, they certainly were influenced by one another, I consider them cousins. And so most of these deeper styles have evolved from either one of those two, this one evolved from the rebirthing, as I was saying, but they’ll get you basically to the same place, it’s a beautiful way of breathing on your own, it’s you and your breath, of course, you’re working with a facilitator or a guide to learn the technique and, and have somebody hold space for you, that’s oftentimes pretty important for people.

 

But breathing in a certain way starts to move through emotions, to move through energies, and to start to access an altered state of consciousness. And being able to access that, that different space, a different part of the mind of the Spirit, is a place where people find a lot of healing, you know, they’re able to kind of get out of their everyday thinking mind, they’re able to kind of separate from the ego for a little while, and get a better understanding of themselves to start to better understand their patterns, start to better understand their triggers, understand their limiting beliefs, start to explore and see where they’re holding on to unprocessed emotions or perhaps some trauma, or perhaps some conditioning from their upbringing. You know, at a bare minimum, I tell people that when you’re moving energy, and we’re for sure gonna move through some stress and anxiety, and everybody has that. I think that’s a universal benefit that everybody appreciates. The past is kind of like the bare minimum. So yeah, if people come in and get their foot in the door, just looking for relief, they’re awesome, because then we can do so much more than that. Yeah. And

 

Lauren Hodge

I liked how you differentiated between the reversing and the Holotropic breathwork because I was not sure of these different modalities. But I know for sure, whenever I sat in your circle in your ceremony that I had this altered state of consciousness there, I didn’t realize there were actually other modalities that were kind of different. But so create that altered state of consciousness started, like breathwork like learning how to do breathwork. In 2013 Wim Hof, he had a workshop in Australia and it was the Holotropic breathwork days breath, work, and plunging, which is great. And I feel like I’ve kind of dabbled, I’ve dabbled since then.

 

Claudia Amarsi

He called it Wim Hof. He’s branded it his own, but it’s based on a Tibetan practice that’s 1000s of years old, called cobra. And so he took that original practice and modified it and put it on spin on it and incorporated being able to sit in extreme situations such as ice bath or cold water or hiking at high altitude, in poor weather. So that’s his, his spin on things. And I love it when he’s doing it because he’s bringing a lot of attention to breathwork. But he’s more focused on the kind of physical benefits and more on the biohacking bio optimization that’s available with breathwork. And I love that I find that there are benefits available physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. And I feel like he plays more in the physical and mental world. Well, I tend to play more and like the emotional and spiritual. But again, you can get benefits across the board, regardless of the technique you use, it kind of just depends on you and where you’re trying to go with it.

 

Kendra Till

So it sounds like obviously, breathwork has been around for a very, very long time. And I’m curious, are you able to dive a little bit deeper into the origins and the history of breathwork in particular, the style that you practice?

 

Claudia Amarsi

Yeah, I mean, breathwork is a generic term for any time you are being intentional with your breath. So there are elements of yoga or Qigong or tai chi, which are 1000s of years old. And I find that more of those techniques tend to be a little bit more meditative is a way of active meditation using breath, they each have their benefits for sure there are practices you can do for a few minutes that will relax you or that will provide clarity, or perhaps bring you a little bit of energy. And then these deeper styles, or at least the styles that have evolved from either Holotropic or rebirthing. That rebirthing was developed I believe in the late 60s in California and Holotropic was developed in the 70s in California and again, those to be pulled are the two groups that knew each other.

 

So I know, you know, it’s in my understanding that they’ve influenced one another and then they kind of went their ways. And then now other styles have trained under the lineages. And then similar to Wim Hof made it their own, rebranded it added in their kind of philosophy and technique, but from those deeper styles, as I said earlier, it’s all about just accessing a different part of yourself getting more into the witness mindset and observing your thoughts, observing your body, observing the emotions, rather than just getting swept up into them, like we tend to do.

 

Lauren Hodge

You mentioned Yeah, kind of sorry. You go. Okay, go ahead. Are you interested in

 

Kendra Till

When I was at this beginning journey for myself with breathwork and different techniques, and just feeling so novice and not really knowing and I just remember that first experience and it was similar to Lauren’s you know, I did the breath work and in the, in the cold, cold therapy, cold plunge. But it was just truly that out-of-body experience that it’s like a detachment, but also an attachment at the same time. It’s really quite bizarre. But I remember the clarity that I got, as Lauren mentioned, the calm and the piece, you know, I resonate with that as well. And I just, I remember at that embryonic stage, thinking, wow, this is so profoundly impactful. And, but also, I will admit that I feel like I’ve kind of gone off the train a little bit in terms of just going down deeper paths into it. So, I guess I’m also curious about that, how does breathwork impact our mental emotional, and physical states?

 

Claudia Amarsi

Yeah, it’s interesting. So I always let people know when they come to work with me that they do their best to let go of any expectations or attachments, especially if you’ve done it before because you had some type of experience that you want to recreate or reconnect with. Because it’s different for everybody. And it’s also different every time you do it. So if you have done it before, I can almost guarantee that your next experience is going to feel pretty significantly different. And for some people, it shows up more physical, like the energy or the emotions or moving in the sense of movement, or muscle contraction, or sensations in the body, maybe some trembling, maybe some vibrating, maybe sensations in terms of temperature, or feeling heavy or light, while somebody else might have more of an emotional experience where that energy is coming through as either tears or laughter or even yelling.

 

Or somebody else might have what feels like a total out-of-body experience. And they have zero awareness of what’s happening in the room because they’re just so deep in this beautiful trance. And somebody else might come in with a super-activated nervous system. And what they need is just like a deep reset, and so they get a beautiful 45 to 55 minutes of bliss and euphoria. And like one’s not better than the other. They’re all super valuable and intend to provide people with a lot of insights, and a lot of nourishment. And then I’d say, and then come back, because the next time is gonna be different.

 

Lauren Hodge

Yeah, is there I’m curious about what Okay, so one time, I think whenever I did your workshop, I got like, the crab hands, I don’t know what they’re called. But like the crab hands? And is that like a blog emotionally? Or is that just like a Physiol? physiological thing? Or what is it called?

 

Claudia Amarsi

It’s called …, and why it happens to about a third of people who practice these deeper styles. And there are a lot of theories as to why it might happen. You know, some people think it’s a, perhaps an imbalance in certain minerals in the body. It’s an imbalance of oxygen or carbon dioxide. There are a few things that I advise people when that does happen. And usually, if it happens to somebody, it just happens the first few times, and it gets better and better until it goes away. I was one of the people who used to get it in the beginning and my arms would lock up and my hands would be up above my head like wild. It’s I always tell people that you have to trust it and know that it’s a very normal part of the process. I advise people to check in with their breath because there are certain patterns are there certain ways of breathing that can almost guarantee that you experienced technique, and that’s when we’re talking about their CO2 levels being off.

 

But then also and this happens, probably more than the co2 situation is checking with emotion because I’ve seen it 1000 times. There’s not a scientific explanation for this, but I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that it’ll be visible to me that somebody has an emotion that’s ready to move, either, you know, their chest is flushed or their lips are quivering. Or even, maybe they already have some fears starting to form before whatever reason in the moment, they’re not quite able to access that emotion and express it and it shows up like, like control, or like the inability to let go, or the inability to surrender that shows up is this contraction, the muscles, and then when they can tap into the emotion and express it they’ll be so locked up. And from one breath to the next. It’s just pure release and relaxation and calm. And like as that emotion is moving through, like, and it’s stunning to witness. And again, there’s no scientific explanation for that. But I’ve seen it too many times to doubt that that’s what’s happening.

 

Lauren Hodge

Yeah, and that is incredible. Are there I mean, that’s, that was my, like, initial experience with that. And then I’ve done some breathwork things here. And in Charleston, I’m actually in Maine right now, but in Charleston, and like, you know, it was different, but I was nervous. I was like, am I gonna get it sometimes I also get this agitated. I mean, I think the agitation is part of it. But I get resistant to doing breath work because of the agitation to noise. Like I have to be willing to surrender this agitation that you feel for a little bit while you’re moving into it.

 

Kendra Till

Yeah, that’s going to be a question I was going to ask, how would you guide like, what tips would you provide somebody who might feel a little bit of hesitation?

 

Claudia Amarsi

Yeah, because these things sound weird, right? Like this might turn somebody off, like, I don’t want my hands to lock up, I don’t want this patient.

 

Lauren Hodge

Feeling afterward, it’s so moving. And it’s like this surrendering of us, like

 

Claudia Amarsi

100%. And I try to, you know, when people come to work with me, I do a very thorough introduction, or people were just talking about it before somebody if they’re questioning whether or not to come to my brother’s like, these will be things that we talked about, and things that I tried to address that like, sometimes breathwork can feel edgy, for sure, like it might push you past your comfort zone. But I promise you that there’s so much beauty and exploring that space, and you are in control with breathwork.

 

You know, if you decide it’s feeling too much you can back off, you can slow down the pattern, you can take a break, and then when you feel ready, you come back to it. And my invitation is always to people like me but try one more breath. What would happen with one more breath? Like, is that an edge? Is that somewhere that you feel like you need to stop? Or is it the ego, perhaps just wanting to play it safe? Or not wanting to explore some of these depths within you that will be quite beautiful to explore, but sometimes take a little bit of courage. Yeah,

 

Lauren Hodge

it’s like reminding yourself, you are going to survive this. And on the other end of it. There. Yeah. An amazing kind of experience of feeling and release that you can feel. Yeah, I like I have

 

Claudia Amarsi

I know, something good is gonna happen once the technique starts kicking in. And I’m like, I’m so glad you feel that way. Not everybody feels that way.

 

Lauren Hodge

That is so true. And that was exactly so I should mention, like, after I had that experience, once I like, you know, was able to kind of surrender to that it did release, and it like I did have that like, sense of calm and peace and all of that afterward. I just got these things. So interesting. So I’m like, I wonder if I knew that time, I would have had all these blocks around like, you know, living in isolation, and COVID and all of these things going on. So I can only imagine what was going on, like emotionally or what was being processed emotionally.

 

Claudia Amarsi

So yeah, I love to share with people what we’re doing with these practices. It’s a somatic practice. So we’re getting in the body and we’re understanding where we’re just having an opportunity to let go of something or to hit to release or to move through blockages. I love the expression, our issues live in our tissues. You know, we’re using breathwork to find where these issues are potentially living and breathing them through. We’re using the breath as a vehicle for energy bringing new energy in and letting cold energy go.

 

Lauren Hodge

Yeah, and it feels so good afterward.

 

Kendra Till

For a lot of people that might potentially be because of physical pain or is more from an emotional mental standpoint.

 

Claudia Amarsi

I would say most people come for emotional thinking, but it’s beautiful. When I see physical healings occur they are kind of unexpected. You know, somebody comes in because they’re working through something from their past and, maybe they’ve done a lot of therapy and breathwork is a really beautiful compliment to therapy. For example, I’m thinking of this one woman who came in just working through a lot of personal issues, a lot of emotional stuff, had significant back pain in her lower back, had hydrocortisone shots, had physical therapy, and almost kind of resigned.

 

The fact that she was going to just have to live with his lower back pain, didn’t think, when she came to breathwork had a big experience, and realized that she had been holding on to something in regards to the relationship with her mother moved through a place of like deep forgiveness and acceptance and felt a pop in her back and realize that like there was an emotional component to that pain like that, that it was a contraction based on this old emotional energy that she just been holding tightly into her body. And afterward, she stood up and she’s like, My back doesn’t hurt anymore. This is amazing. And it’s fascinating to see when things like that happen.

 

Kendra Till

That is fascinating.

Episode 020: Collective Healing – Indigenous Wisdom with William Hayward

In Shake It Off Episode 20 Lauren and Kendra speak with special guest and Lauren’s good friend William Hayward.

William Hayward is a Noongar man from the Gorang/Minang clan groups. He has been raised to live with the integrity and honor of his people’s culture, their customs, and the strengths embedded in his family and community systems. He works and lectures at the Centre for Aboriginal Studies and continues to support the ‘Navigating through life project’ for children in out of home care in the Social Work department at Curtin University. ​

Will has a wealth of knowledge. Throughout his career has has worked in Government agencies and Non-Profit Organizations. He has developed a unique set of skills in delivering services to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples across Child protection & safety in the areas of counseling, policy, and law reform, cultural competency and practice, trauma-informed practice and frameworks, social work, youth work, program development, lobbying, advocacy, cultural ceremony and healing performing arts.​

He is strongly committed to empowering Aboriginal & Torres Strait Islander and Non-Aboriginal Australians to achieve equality and freedoms in a variety of practice or community environments.

Lauren and Kendra sit with Will while he shares stories about his work with Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander communities and trauma-informed practices and Aboriginal wisdom traditions for collective healing, including ceremony, ritual, connection to land, and much much more.

You can find all the podcast episodes at https://www.drlaurenhodge.com/podcast/

We created this podcast to give you the tools, strategies, and stories to handle the unexpected things that life throws your way. We plant ourselves firmly at the gates of truth-telling and we discuss how to optimize and prioritize your physical and mental health.
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Kendra Till

Welcome to Shake It Off, a podcast that gives you the tools, strategies, and stories to optimize and prioritize your physical and mental health.

 

Lauren Hodge

Hey everyone, and welcome to Shake It Off. As most of our listeners know, I am based in downtown Charleston, and before we begin, I would like to acknowledge the Kealoha, the Siwi, and the Wando People, the traditional custodians of the land on which I’m standing today, and pay my respects to their elders past, present and emerging, and I extend that respect to all indigenous peoples listening and joining us today.

 

Will Hayward

Also, I would like to acknowledge the land and the people where you’re meeting from. I too would like to acknowledge that I’m meeting from a place in Western Australia, in the southwest of Western Australia, Noongar country, which is located around Perth. I’d like to acknowledge the place of the Noongar nation, and its elders past, present, and into the future. I’d also like to acknowledge that it’s through a matrilineal or matriarchal law system that our cultural knowledge and our places of belonging are maintained and connected to the land through our mothers and grandmothers. That knowledge and our places of belonging are passed down. So, I recognize Aboriginal women and their important role as the backbone of our cultural wisdom.

Culturally, as men and as young women, first years and rites of passage would happen at around 13-14 with women, and there would be a transfer of knowledge and wisdom, even for young men during that time, in that matriarchal system. I’d also like to acknowledge our children and young people who will carry on our legacy and our future. It’s through cultural authority and wisdom that is generationally passed down. Everyone has a role and a place of belonging within that Noongar nation and within our clan groups. So I recognize that we’re in Whadjuk country and the Bibbulmun, commonly known as the Noongar nation.

 

Lauren Hodge

Thank you so much for that acknowledgment. So, for our listeners, Kendra and I are catching up with Will Hayward today, as you just heard speaking. He is a respected Noongar man from the Haring Minang clan groups in Western Australia. Will lectures and works at the Centre for Aboriginal Studies at Curtin University for the Social Work department there. His work focuses on policy reform, child protection and safety, trauma-informed practices, and supporting collective and community healing, among many other things. He wears many hats, but you’ll hear a little bit about that today. He is strongly committed to empowering Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander and non-Aboriginal Australians to achieve equality and freedom in a variety of different environments using a variety of different practices.

I met Will while I was working on my PhD project at the University of Queensland. This project aimed at evaluating and trialing new child protection strategies with Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander communities through the Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander Child Protection piece. So Will has kind of been a mentor to me, and he was really guiding me on how to properly engage with rural and remote Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander communities. His advice was key to allowing me to collaborate successfully with 14 different communities initially, and then that expanded and grew with a team that we were working with. We are very delighted to have Will here today.

This experience that I had, from working within communities and with practitioners working in communities, and getting the opportunity to meet traditional owners and elders, provided me with an understanding of the importance of a deep connection to the land that we stand on, to our homeland, to nature, and to the community. This understanding eventually facilitated my own healing journey back here in South Carolina, to my homeland. So I learned a lot from working on this project and working with Will. I’m so excited to introduce our audience to you, Will. Thank you for being here with us today.

 

Will Hayward

Thank you, Lauren and Kendra. So I just reflected on that time period in our journeys and careers. What comes to mind is that it’s really not to be underestimated, the really important work that we did. It does relate to my journey as a community person, a cultural person, and a professional. But at that time, we were actually embedding some of the strongest foundations and really important groundwork to transition a child protection sector that was predominantly invested in the acute and statutory aspects when children are at risk or have experienced harm. The work we did actually shifted that focus to prevention, early intervention, or healing work, where families were supported to stay together.That sector in Queensland, Australia, is now one of the most balanced child protection sectors in Aboriginal Australia, with a strong emphasis on early intervention, prevention, and innovative practices within Aboriginal community-controlled organizations. So that work grew to be far more than just the work we did around families and supporting children and young people. It went on to be their foundation and skill set, where those organizations and professionals continued to grow. It’s something to be really proud of, and it’s a legacy that was left. People still talk about it, and there are practitioners and families, more importantly, that benefit from that practice framework that was embedded. I’m not sure how long ago that was, but it was about 10 years ago.

 

Lauren Hodge

That was, yes, yeah, that would have been, well, the project finished in 2015, I think it was, what, about eight years ago? Yeah. And then it kind of evolved and kept moving. Like you said, the incredible thing about it, and what made me feel really good about getting behind the project, was that the core focus was to keep families together and to ensure that they had the practices and the things they needed so that they could stay together. Oftentimes, you know, the child protection sectors are removing children from homes, and when it comes to Indigenous communities and Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander communities specifically, this is, in my mind, like a reinventing of colonization in a way, but in a different aspect. But I just think I felt good about what we were doing there because it was kind of doing this new thing, just like you said. Thank you so much for giving me that background.

 

Will Hayward

I’m just thinking because you’ve touched on a really important point about the legacy of colonization. And the fact is, in any healing work, and the work that we’ve done and continue to do across government and non-government agencies here in Australia, fundamentally, it’s really important to recognize colonization and the history of colonization and its historical lifeforce in terms of collective oppression and collective intergenerational trauma. And so some of that work is actually really important in terms of reflecting and being responsive to Aboriginal people.

Part of the work that we did is recognized in a number of frameworks. Some people call it cultural proficiency, but I would choose the ideal where self-determination is celebrated and encouraged. It’s a fundamental framework in terms of Aboriginal-led and co-design and how Aboriginal-designed approaches. And it’s entrenched at every level of an organization—governance, management, leadership, policies, program development, and therefore frontline practices.It doesn’t just include Aboriginal organizations or Aboriginal professionals. It also includes the whole sector, so that includes organizations that are working with First Nations people and Aboriginal people needing those frameworks, particularly where Aboriginal people or First Nations people are overrepresented and are no longer a minority in those systems.

Here in Western Australia at the moment, we’re the majority in child protection, so 57% of children in care are Aboriginal or Torres Strait Islander, and similar stats in the youth justice system. One framework that is a part of trauma-informed responses was developed by a former Curtin employee, Tolley Coffin. And it’s recognized as the cultural security framework. Really, what that is about is approaching building your cultural awareness, cultural safety, and cultural security. And doing that through cultural protocols and guidelines and also brokerage.

So the organizations we worked with years ago, who are now leading and are really proficient in child protection practice, are a part of that framework. And so the Aboriginal community-controlled sector is a real asset in terms of collaboration, Aboriginal professionals who might hold expertise, whether it’s in social work, psychology, human services, or other professions enable those organizations to function at a really expert and higher level.

Allies in that brokerage and in that service delivery and alongside of non-Aboriginal people, I suppose, because so many non-Aboriginal professionals will work in our organizations or work in government or nonprofit organizations that aren’t Aboriginal community-controlled. It’s really about collaboration, co-leading, walking together, and utilizing those professional frameworks as a practice framework. So reflecting and responding to Aboriginal people’s needs and supporting people to reach their full potential.

An amazing asset in any trauma-informed response is our community ourselves. And so even as Aboriginal community-controlled professionals or any organization, the real asset in terms of self-determination and healing is elders and cultural authority who often really hold that key role in it, not necessarily leading in a hierarchical approach, rather than holding that wisdom and authority and the egalitarian, leading with other elders, and shaping those responses, and informing those responses. Again, other Aboriginal groups who are significant leaders or hold wisdom in that space, alongside elders and professionals within our organizations, but also really important, the families, and the children and young people that we work with ourselves are all a part of that framework.So cultural security is one lens of looking at that. Cultural proficiency is a whole-of-organization approach.

 

Lauren Hodge

So, that’s interesting to think about. Like with the one, I think that there is an importance across the board in elder wisdom. And I think that’s something that oftentimes, in, like, that’s something I learned, really specifically when I was working with you, and with these different practitioners and communities and meeting the traditional owners, that wisdom that elders hold and that it’s seen as important and it’s like curious, you know, and I think that’s something that maybe, in non-Indigenous communities that we can miss, oftentimes, you know, like getting that, like having that connection with our elders and seeing that, how important that wisdom is to pass on and being a part of that extended family kind of system. So I definitely see what you’re saying about the cultural arm of it, the cultural safety and community, and how important that is.

 

Will Hayward

The other sort of thing I’m thinking now is one of the things I’ve moved on to do is actually create ceremonial practice and healing between Aboriginal and non-Aboriginal people at a small, consciousness-shifting level. And it’s really about going back to those key learnings when I was a young person. I actually had the privilege to be taught by elders and wisdom keepers with the Wodan people, which is a clan group of the Young Nation. It’s actually the best area if anyone wants to visit.

 

Lauren Hodge

That’s the place to…

 

Will Hayward

You might have heard of the Niagara River. Oh, yeah, it’s quite a famous town for a variety of reasons. It’s got a go-to place; it’s an absolutely stunning and amazing country. So, having the privilege of walking and learning with elders, we were tasked with building an Aboriginal Cultural Center in communities. And it’s really the foundation and almost an apprenticeship of my future work in terms of culture being a part of a healing tool. Particularly within intergenerational trauma and the impacts of oppression, it often is to heal and create the opportunities that have actually been oppressed and taken away.

What I learned there was really to follow a six-seasonal cycle, which is in harmony with the land, which is everything south and west of basically a town called Durian Bay through Esperance. So it’s the southwest of Western Australia. And the land runs by six seasonal cycles and everyone has a role and responsibility and belonging culturally, and it’s actually an inbuilt sustainability and environmentalism and a reciprocal allocation to one another. It’s relationship-based. So a very different worldview. There’s no mistake that I live in a Western framework within Australia, but our people still strongly hold this worldview of relationship-based reciprocal obligation to each other. And I think it’s very different from what I call a transactional framework, a competitive framework, and a consumerist framework. And you can even say that it’s capitalism or communism or socialism. It’s actually global now. So there’s been this erosion on all people, humanity, and the global community, in terms of our relationships, our connections, and our deepest spiritual sense of belonging, and plans, not only to one another but to land.

So it’s really a privilege to actually have that and have that cultural and spiritual knowledge maintained and to be able to utilize that. So yeah, just going back, like it’s a real privilege and a real honor to have that cultural and spiritual foundation, where everyone does have that place of belonging and that responsibility to each other, and it’s interconnected with land. And so everyone actually holds the title within that system. And so it could be the kangaroo, it could be the emu, it could be the gooloo, and or at least, it could also be a food source, that’s a plant or a medicine. It can be actually a place in the land as well, where stories are interwoven in creation, and then there’s an echo in the actual land itself, of that responsibility. So in that relationship and reciprocal obligation, everyone, therefore, had a relationship with each other, and our relationship with the land through that totem system, and there was a harmony with the cycle of the six seasons where nothing was actually overused. So you would have an individual role to maintain the sustainability of that food or animals or food medicine or animal or plant source, and therefore everyone also had a relationship with the earth. So we call the nether Bucha, which is Mother Earth, and it’s matriarchal ground, which is interesting because when a woman is pregnant, it’s called Pujari. Extension, demonstrating that connection with lag, and then where your umbilical cord falls off your axle, you have a dream for that place in the country. It’s quite significant in terms of your future and your character. And also, you know, women speak of their place of conception, and the spirit coming from dalla Bucha and becoming Pujari. Other cultures have similar concepts, Yeah, and understanding because this is a sort of spiritual concept where we’re interwoven into the six-season cycle and interwoven into the food sources that resource at those times of seasonal cycles.

That then, therefore, connected to the country. Really takes me and so that will give us a very different view from an individualistic versus a collective, and that cultural authority is spoken about. And the wisdom keepers pass down the generation. So there’ll be someone who’s 90 and definitely wouldn’t be running around hunting kangaroos but hold some title and pass knowledge to someone who’s 50 or 30, and then a new person who’s just taking on that totem after rites of passage. Responsibility. So it’s a lifecycle as well, from conception through to death, not represented in the sixth season cycle, and in the totem knowledge of passing that down. So everyone has that role and place of belonging. What I’ve really learned in terms of trauma-informed practice and decolonization is not only was it a privilege to do the work at the Aboriginal Cultural Center and with the Wodan people as I felt I knew that person and have instilled in me deeply, but also then to transfer that knowledge of cultural healing and cultural revival in terms of people’s identity. Because it’s actually through your family systems and kinship systems and your connection to title and land and environment. That is your identity, and your purpose, and your place of belonging. And those things have been eroded through history. And there was actual genocide here. And there’s also social genocide here.

The project that we worked on in terms of Aboriginal families and restoring families is our response to the Stolen Generations. There were policies here that were really around very similar to segregation policies that America would be familiar with. Library. And there are people I work with here at the Center for Aboriginal Studies who survived and were brought into that system, my grandmother was, and my father was. And so cultural healing and cultural knowledge, alongside trauma-informed practice, what people understand isn’t a right of therapy or Yanni, which is really that communal, almost clinical supervision or therapeutic Yarny. Those trends and limitations illustrate the challenges that people face, but most importantly, the strengths and the solutions to that. But it is actually intertwined with cultural authority and wisdom keepers. That deeper spiritual and cultural connection. And it is a beautiful practice that is actually healing. So it’s a trauma-informed practice that goes beyond that; it’s trauma resiliency and healing as a culture, rather than a practice.It’s actually something that all Aboriginal people have the opportunity to practice now and return to self-identity.

 

Lauren Hodge

What you’re saying about the kind of cyclical nature of how things work with the six different spheres, if I’m saying that correctly, but also with elders working together and the totem and coming back to land, and that is where the healing happens, and it’s just, it’s kind of naturally ingrained in what you do as Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. That’s what I’m hearing. And I’m curious about that, like with the yarning and that sort of thing. And I know from my experiences of all the work I think that we did, we would be in a circle. Like, we would always be in a community, yeah, like that was, and I feel like that holds a really important place for me now as well, as in ceremony and that sort of thing, like healing and being with people in that type of way, whether it be women’s circles or plant medicine circles.

But that has, I know for sure, had a huge impact on how I approach healing now. And you can really feel the energy when you’re in that circle, and it’s safe, and you can share that sort of thing. How does that, I wonder, like, you know, with community healing and collective healing, how does ceremony and ritual and that sort of thing fit in with the different circles and healing practices that you have there?

 

Will Hayward

Yeah. So, well, first of all, it’s always quite welcomed, and there’s this sort of subconscious acceptance and respect that the collective nature is how we do business. And it could be relationship building, getting to know people, it could be understanding your challenges, and forming approaches to them. It can be therapeutic and healing. It can also be social, which is always good fun. I’ve actually just conducted two yarning circles, and one I actually did in Vandy up women’s prison here in Western Australia, Perth.

As I said, Aboriginal people are overrepresented in the criminal justice system, not dissimilar to other groups across the world who have been colonized and oppressed. It’s a feature and a socio-economic challenge that we face. I was talking to an amazing elder, who I’d suggest you may want to approach for discussion. No, no, not up. And he’s one of my teachers in my life and mentors and continues to be. So one of the things was that 40 prisoners and their support workers and prison guards, so everyone is equal. And it’s not a division, rather we’re here to share this knowledge and everyone who has that relationship and is connected, Aboriginal non-Aboriginal roles within the prison were seated in a circle.

Because everyone’s equal, and it’s egalitarian, there’s no longer any hierarchy. And this is a model that in the Northern Territory here, it’s called the Darry, and I’ll send you information on that. But it’s very similar to mindfulness. And it’s where we can sit quite deeply on the country end together. And there’s that knowing of where you are at the present moment, your own thinking and what’s in your mind, your own emotions and feelings, and where you feel culturally and spiritually, and also, sitting within that within your being, your body, and beyond. Listen, not to respond, rather than to hear and connect deeply with the other person where they’re at. And then the spirit and the time might come where you do respond, and you do actually reciprocate. And your obligation to that other person in that healing actually really flows quite strongly.

So, Uncle Oh actually set the scene around the important role that women have in our culture, being a matriarchal society, being the keepers and the backbone of our cultural ways, and also our calendars around children and young people. And their place of belonging in our community and the fact that we love the women who are incarcerated and we made them in our community. Then you talk to you and move through the dreaming, which includes the, you know, conception and the life cycle and birthing and, you know, women are the only beings that can take someone from the spirit realm and put them into the physical. And so, you know, that these concepts were shared from a long time ago now, and the fact that our men are very much in need of women within our community, and their important role to all of us, including us as men.

And the fact was, then there were emotions and there was sort of deep thinking from everyone. And people were fully engaged, and it went on for a solid hour. And then there were amazing responses. And there was amazing recognition. And there was also recognition of the duality and the importance of fathers in their lives and men in their lives. So it can be quite organic, it can be really co-led by everyone that’s in a circle.

 

Lauren Hodge

I’m really happy to hear you mentioned this to Darry. I just pulled up the Darry Kwame and like statement the other day, because I was thinking about how, as you said, it’s like mindful listening, is very similar. It’s similar to this practice of mindful listening, but it’s, um, it’s like a spiritual type of listening. Like, it takes it to this other level of respect, basically, for the person that you’re listening to. And I feel like I really utilize that, but also, that’s just what comes naturally to me, is to sit and to listen. So I think I really, I don’t know, it speaks to me on so many levels, to not feel like you have to respond to everything, that you can listen and respond to body language and respond with your presence, basically, with what the person is saying and your relation.

 

Will Hayward

The other thing with that is silence is okay. People can respond, deteriorate, listen, and acknowledge through body language, and might not speak, you know, and I think that deeper connection is like showing that in some of our yarning circles and our healings.

What I really like about Darry is, that that’s the word that’s commonly known from the Guarani, I will send you information on that as well, which is that all Aboriginal people have to Darry and call it different things. The closest thing that I think people more broadly would be aware of was mindfulness to explain that, and then obviously, have that deeper connection then into land and environment and that totemic responsibilities and places in the country which you’re connected to.But Yeah, it very much is a deeper spiritual and self-reflective framework that can be used, and it’s a real positive to sit with that way you may have experienced trauma or be experiencing collective trauma.

One of the other works I’ve done is with Aboriginal interpreters. So across the state of Western Australia, once you get outside of the metropolitan Perth area, the majority of people are language and cultural locators. So English can be their third or second language. Often the English that is spoken is Creole. So it actually has different grammar and different meanings. It’s a form of English but it’s its own language.

One of the greatest works I have done in the trauma space was to implement cultural resilience as a practice in a culture and interpreting service. Many of the interpreters, this is from the Kimberley, Pilbara, and Western Desert, regions of Western Australia, very remote. I guess for viewers in America, it’s absolutely not like Crocodile Dundee, but the land would look very similar. It’s very remote, it’s a beautiful country, Australia with those amazing areas, so many of our people live in communities. Within those communities, we have our own cultural law language. And so the interpreters will be engaged to interpret pretty sensitive and challenging cases.

So it could be in a hospital where someone is on palliative care, and it’s the end-of-life discussion with that person and their family. It could be within the policing system where there’s been a crime against the victim of a crime or a perpetrator of a crime. It could also be in a court setting, where people are being heard, and understanding what’s being said is most important and a human right, actually.

What would happen to the interpreter is that the trauma from those jobs would actually transfer and impact their sense of being spiritually, culturally, emotionally, mentally, and physically, so vicarious trauma. And it would mirror post-traumatic stress. And when you would unpack that, it also related to our shared collective trauma as Aboriginal people.

So I spoke before about the Stolen Generations or the oppressive social genocide policy frameworks. They didn’t finish here until the 1970s. Thus the reality is, that many of the interpreters had a lived experience under those policies and laws. So, this meant the socioeconomic trends or challenges in the job alone, which is traumatic, often it was a lived experience by the interpreter and the survivors themselves. So naturally, post-traumatic stress and vicarious trauma symptoms would present.

We put in a clinical supervision framework around individual debriefing, using two debriefs and mindfulness as a mechanism to unpack those jobs. So it was culturally grounded. We did it by a river, by rolling class, and it was really powerful. And then we also did that as a group and worked together as that collective in that Yarning approach. We’ve mapped the common limitations, the strengths, and the challenges, and it was ranked by a solution-focused, co-designed Aboriginal-led, and First Nations Framework. So that was very fruitful, in terms of advice straight to the culture, the organization as well as supporting individual practitioners.

Alongside that, though, which I think is important to note, not only do we have a structured clinical supervision framework, which is delivered as a social worker, but we utilized what some people might call mindfulness or the theory in this thing and self-reflection within the debriefing element of that, we will also use cultural ceremony around bringing that person back to their identity and healing themselves so they could reach their full potential again, in their holistic vein. The Aboriginal Holistic Health concept and social-emotional well-being, which included connection to land, also included the family and kin, reciprocal relationships around that person.

What was really fruitful as well is we’ve got people here who hold spiritual and cultural knowledge, that’s not only third base but also held by that person in terms of healing. I guess you could call them a cultural doctor. The only thing I can explain in it to be similar is perhaps Reiki, like energy.

 

Lauren Hodge

Healing, kind of.

 

Will Hayward

Yeah, yeah. And so, we would also, as a part of that framework, be connected to healers who would also, alongside the clinical supervision, support individuals in their healing. With the energy and the trauma that occurred in that body, it was then much more secure.

 

Lauren Hodge

Is there any type of plant-based medicine using ceremonies for healing there? I never heard about this, and I was curious. I wanted to ask you, is there—I mean, I knew that there are plants used for healing. I just didn’t know if it was like using ceremony. Are they similar to others, similar to psychedelics, kind of like, you know how there’s a big plant-based medicine movement and a lot of evidence is coming out now in this scientific world, that we’ve known from indigenous cultures for a long time about the healing power of psychedelics?

 

Will Hayward

Yep. So the fact is that Aboriginal people absolutely have plant-based and also animal-based medicines that we use, and are known to treat a range of illnesses. We did and continue to hold ceremonies where plants are utilized. What’s amazing about that, and I think it’s important for modern medicine and any future approaches, is that it is structured. And that is within the collective, and the ceremonial process holds and guides you through that journey. It also finishes it, so the experience is very different in terms of the consciousness shift. The healing that occurs for a person in terms of their trauma or social-emotional well-being or mental health, if you like, is held by healers and the community. People are really guided through that.

What’s also really interesting is rites of passage. I have done a ceremonial process on young people in our country, which is very different from some of the more language capers areas and is quite sacred, minimally shared. But I did do a process where I spent a significant amount of time in my grandmother’s country, and there are ways that you can naturally release what people love within your own body that people may not recognize are released at key points in your life, which also create that journey and that experience.

 

Lauren Hodge

Is it like an energy release from being on that land? Like your particular totem or your particular family, or is it…

 

Will Hayward

Well, I think that what I’m saying is the ceremonial process will release natural chemicals within your body, and with the right intention, actually create a structured journey and experience where you have a consciousness shift, and you’re taken on a path into the dreaming. When I experienced this process, I foresaw that I would create a ceremonial context where I would smoke the Fremantle Roundhouse. It actually brought Aboriginal and non-Aboriginal people together in cleansing in a smoking ceremony, a place that was utilized during colonization to hold our freedom fighters.I can send you the link to it. And, you know, I said the visioning of that was done in a ceremony, and then it became true. And that came to fruition. Isn’t that incredible?

 

Lauren Hodge

Yeah, it’s really inspiring. I think that’s the thing about this ceremonial indigenous knowledge of ceremony and healing all in one. Like, there is so much wisdom there. And then there’s the next thing, which we’ll do a whole other episode on. But like, the next thing is, how do you allow that to stay as indigenous wisdom and knowledge and not capitalize on it, making it this big? You know, where other people are taking information.

 

Will Hayward

I do actually think that as humanity, broader than just in Australia, but also broader than other First Nations peoples, where we do hold that knowledge and that wisdom, and its support, it’s important that that isn’t misappropriated or used in a non-sacred and non-relationship based way, which are sort of intertwined but does remain Aboriginal or First Nations-led and honored.

But there is also another challenge. What we’re finding is that for all people, if you look deeper, we’re all actually impacted by colonization. And in a way, we’re all colonized. And in another way, even non-Aboriginal people here in Australia live with intergenerational trauma because they too have a part of the oppression that was committed in this country, for example.

And if you look even deeper again, everyone, at some point, had ceremonies and was First Nations from somewhere. And I guess an example that comes to mind to me is the Germanic tribes and the Roman Empire. That’s just one quick example. Where they were claiming groups, there were ceremonies. It was, you know, another one in Ireland. The Gaelic cultural revival of Ireland at the moment is very strong, and that has survived alongside oppression from the British Empire. And is now part of the UK. So that’s another example.

And so, I think there is a real need for people or people to return to the ceremony. And these approaches are actually structured and safely guide and hold people, and the steps to doing that more broadly. It is solid and needs to be defined, created, nurtured, and supported. And tested.

Here in my work, in terms of bringing Aboriginal and non-Aboriginal people together alongside elders, we’re moving in this direction. Smoking or the Roundhouse is an exact example of that. We’re moving beyond people witnessing and observing Aboriginal people delivering a ceremony and moving towards truth-telling and healing in this nation, where two peoples are coming together, to heal the past, and to set a new future and a new relationship, which is actually a beautiful moment in time in this country.Canada and New Zealand are also on those journeys. And I think that’s a promising and amazing opportunity for all.

 

Lauren Hodge

And you’re a big part of that work in Australia, so you have to be proud of yourself for all that you’re doing and have done in the community, and that you continue to do. So, I really appreciate it. I don’t want to take any more time, so I really appreciate you having this conversation with us. Is there anywhere where you would like for people to find you?

 

Will Hayward

Well, look, I would like to promote the Aboriginal Centre for Aboriginal Studies. I would also promote Tama Chan, which my uncle runs, we spoke about it at my house, and I’m affiliated with both of those organizations.

 

Lauren Hodge

Great, we’ll put a link in our show notes because I feel like everyone should be able to check that out. Thank you.

 

Kendra Till

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Episode 019: Plant Medicine Therapy

In Shake It Off Episode 19 Lauren speaks with special guest Lisa Jacobson LPC, the founder of Present Life Counseling.

Lisa is a licensed therapist in Georgia and her practice provides plant medicine preparation and integration therapy. She also has a Master’s in Humanistic/Transpersonal Psychology from the University of West Georgia and she’s also a Registered Yoga Teacher, trained in Emotional Freedom Technique, and a Certified Integral Therapist (the first in GA!).

Lauren talks with Lisa all about her journey to becoming a plant medicine prep and integration therapist, how her practice focuses on supporting clients to follow their truth and communicate their needs and boundaries and integrate their plant medicine experiences.

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Lauren Hodge

Hi everyone, and welcome back to shake it off. I’m honored to have Lisa Jacobson on the podcast today. Lisa is a licensed therapist in Georgia and her practice, present life counseling, provides plant medicine preparation and integration therapy, among other types of support that we’ll hear about today. Lisa has a master’s in humanistic transpersonal psychology from the University of Western Georgia, and she is a registered yoga teacher. She’s trained in emotional freedom technique, and recently certified as an integral therapist.

 

Her practice focuses on supporting clients to follow their truth and communicate their needs and boundaries and integrate and prepare for their plant medicine experiences. These are areas that I’m deeply interested in. And I know there will be a lot of listeners also interested in knowing more about Lisa’s journey to becoming a plant medicine preparation and integration therapist, and she has practiced as a therapist for 10 years. Lisa, thank you so much for joining us. I would love to hear about your journey with becoming a therapist. And I’m curious what motivated you to become a therapist?

 

Lisa Jacobson

Thank you for having me, Lauren. It’s not really an easy answer. It’s a very complex answer. So I’ll give you the whole answer that motivated me to become a therapist. Well, when I was growing up I’ve always been a sensitive person. And when I was growing up, there really wasn’t language for that. But I was aware of things that maybe not everybody was aware of, I felt my emotions very deeply in a family where no one seemed to meet emotion in the same way I did, unless I had a grandmother that was diagnosed bipolar and had depression. Although I never saw her depressed. She didn’t cry, she wasn’t the type in the bed, like she was always happy. So it was kind of like I grew up in this paradox. Like I had big feelings. I saw someone that was diagnosed with something that really didn’t seem to line up. I had this big spiritual world. That was that I was kind of aware of as a kid, too. So spirituality was always intriguing to me. I’ve just kind of been a deep thinker. So psychology just really interested me.

 

I attempted to major in Psych 101, at the University of Georgia, and I could not pass it because that’s not the psychology that I knew in my heart. What I have come to know that I’d love is adult development, higher levels of development, which we really don’t talk about, I love to talk about subtle body awareness things which we also really don’t talk about. Which makes sense why a clinical psychology track wasn’t working for me. So I got my bachelor’s degree in Child and Family Development. That’s what I ended up switching to since I couldn’t pass psychology. And that was just perfect, because I love that I like to see how things unfold. I believe in the evolution of things. I believe in generational trauma, generational healing, all the patterns of families and all of that, so development seemed to really fit. When I decided to go back to grad school, I had found Naropa Institute in Boulder and California Institute of integral studies in California. But this was 1999, and I was young in my 20s.

 

I didn’t have the funds for private education, and found this program in West Georgia, which I had never even heard of, even though I had grown up in Georgia my whole life. And so I came here and it’s exactly what I was looking for. We discussed Buddhist psychology, which just blew my mind with a different way of thinking and awareness practices that I think are key for mental health, which a lot of counselors still don’t even talk about. We talked a lot about mind-body psychology and other cultures and the impact of cultural trauma, and the things that I really love that feed my soul but are so fascinating to me.

 

Lauren Hodge

I was just curious, did you know that the program would have all of those things all of the mind body connection pieces?

 

Lisa Jacobson

Yes, and that is why I went at the time I went for a master’s in psychology. So I’m 23 years old at this time, I was not thinking about the future, I was just thinking, Okay, I have an undergraduate degree, and I’m not making enough money here, I should probably go back to school, you know, get some more student loans in that generation, you know, let’s go back to school. And so it interested me, which is why I went, I didn’t do my private classes to be a counselor during that program. I did, however, I did do my practicum during that program, because I’m an experiential learner. So I just chose a practicum because I learned so much better that way, rather than just being in lectures all the time.

 

Thank goodness, I did a practicum because it’s required as part of your degree program now, which they don’t offer anymore at West Georgia in psychology they offer counseling, but not in psychology. So I feel so lucky that I had it. So after graduating with my masters, I went back maybe a year later to do classes in the counseling department. I think I had four classes left for the licensure requirements, and went ahead and took those classes. And yeah, I worked in an inpatient psych unit for about seven months before I realized the mainstream health care, psychology, mental health is not my place. And didn’t do counseling for a while. I taught yoga when I was in grad school, I got my yoga certification, too. So I taught yoga and opened a few restaurants and did something and taught and then not taught but parented, parenting is very important and intentional to me. And so I did that when my kids were young. And then after getting divorced, went back to take my licensing exam, got my supervision. And then after getting my supervision opened my private practice.

 

Lauren Hodge

Wow, I really appreciate that journey of, you know, starting with, it really sounds like even at 20 to 23, new yourself well on how to know, you know that you’re interested in Buddhism and mind body connection, and that sort of thing. And then that you allowed yourself to kind of go on that journey of opening restaurants, parenting, of doing all of that, to come back around in yoga, teacher training, because all like the yoga teacher training, all of these things are important. I think you can tell me they are important for preparation and integration therapy. Part of that is like that mind-body connection. So it’s interesting how all these pieces weave together to become who you are now.

 

Lisa Jacobson

Absolutely. Well, and then as far as another piece to that, which I mean, I’m fine to say, I grew up in South Georgia. So in a small town, there’s not a lot to do, obviously. So the kind of trouble you get in sometimes is going to a cow pasture and picking mushrooms and eating them. So I was never afraid of that. Yeah, like so. And when I think so I’m 45. Now, when I think back on my life, and like my early adulthood, I didn’t plan any of that, like I didn’t even seek out Buddhism or yoga, like all of these things just kind of folded into my life when I was in my early adulthood. So it just naturally integrated into my life. And I think I’m just realizing at 45 that that wasn’t the case for everybody. Because it wasn’t planned.

 

Lauren Hodge

Right? It was like a flow of things. It was just all worked out and which you gravitate towards.

 

Lisa Jacobson

And what I gravitated towards.

 

Lauren Hodge

Yeah, that’s incredible. So I’m curious then, when it comes to now practicing as a licensed therapist and doing the plant medicine, integration and preparation, what does that kind of look like for you? What does your normal day look like when you’re providing that type of therapy?

 

Lisa Jacobson

Well, I will say that it’s not the biggest part of my practice, just because of where we are right now in terms of legal status. And in the country. There’s not too many people that seek out preparation and integration for plant medicine. But it’s not really that different than the kind of therapy I’ve practice because I practice integration therapy and its integration of all of our different layers of body all of our different layers of experience, all of our different layers of consciousness and with awareness, practice being something that I’ve always had in my toolbox.

 

I know that a lot of times it’s about increasing perspective, it’s not about changing how we feel. It’s about making room for how we feel and just increasing perspective being big enough to hold it. And so in that way, whether it’s through plant medicine, or whether it’s someone even using pharmaceuticals or breathwork, or yoga or meditation, to me, it’s all integration and plant medicine is a different doorway in, but it’s like anything else. It’s not a light switch, it’s not going to change. It’s going to be the practice and how do we integrate it? And that, to me, is everything. How we integrate everything is kind of what we’re doing.

 

Lauren Hodge

That’s such an important point. That even if it’s plant medicine, that’s not the silver bullet. It’s your practices, your there’s not a silver bullet that information that matters.

 

Lisa Jacobson

Yeah, because there’s not one, there are 10. But then what we do with that is what matters. Yeah. And that’s a skill, really, and that’s a skill that, in my opinion, many of us were not modeled on, that we’re just to a point and maybe evolution and cultural evolution, I don’t know where, as a generation, we’re doing that. And so we don’t have a model for it. But we there’s a lot of people doing it.

 

Lauren Hodge

Yeah, and interested in that work. Do you mean there are a lot of people that are now starting to work in that space of integration, you think?

 

Lisa Jacobson

Right, and just self inquiry and wanting to, you know, expand awareness? And how do you hold everything you’re aware of? Because the reality is, if, if you’re aware, you’re going to experience anxiety and depression at times. And if you’re, if you’re ignorant, you’re probably not like if you’re, if you’re denial games are pretty good, or you’re pretty good at Stepping Out, or you’re just a very simple thinker that doesn’t question things. You might not experience anxiety and depression, but if you have awareness, you will and that’s not mental illness, it’s something else. It’s just something we experience when we are aware and awake.

 

Lauren Hodge

Yeah. And it’s like how do you what do you do that? And what do you do with that? Yeah, that’s really interesting. I like that way of thinking about integration and therapy work in general. Would you say as far as the king of the labor market goes when it comes to integration and preparation therapy that given that we haven’t yet got to the point of, you know, having FDA approval for MDMA for PTSD or psilocybin for depression and PTSD and that sort of thing? There’s the approval for for ketamine therapy, but that’s been around for a while, too. What are your thoughts on the the labor market? Do you think it’s a growing space where there will be a need for this, like to practice on track?

 

Lisa Jacobson

Absolutely.

 

Lauren Hodge

I’m not trying to put words in your mouth, I’m just curious.

 

Lisa Jacobson

No, and in fact, I tell people a lot. They’re like, I want to be in counseling. But I don’t know, I’m like, There’s only going to be an increased need for counselors as we become more and more aware of the complexities. As we’re shifting, something’s happening in our culture, we’re shifting and last few years, I think things are changing, there’s going to be more and more counselors, and specially with plant medicine work, it’s so important, because it’s not the silver bullet, and some people think it is. And so right now, there are a lot of options. The only options for people are to go to someone that’s not a licensed therapist, and have an experience where someone will sit with them or to go even out of country to to go to a retreat and have an experience. And that to me just feels not complete, because the integration piece is so important. It’s really the most important part to me.

 

Lauren Hodge

Yeah, I completely agree. I know, in the plant medicine experiences that I’ve had, like, that’s been the thing that’s brought it all together, and it’s the one time I didn’t have integration. You know, it was the time where I didn’t get as much from it as I did. I didn’t take the practices and do anything different basically, with my life based on the information that I received during the ceremony. So I can relate to that. So I’m thinking about legal and ethical issues. I mean, we know like we’re saying like the FDA hasn’t approved MDMA and psilocybin yet. Do you think there are other kinds of ethical and legal issues that you have to consider on a day to day basis as far as plant medicine or just therapy in general.

 

Lisa Jacobson

Well, always ethical issues to think about if you’re a therapist, for sure. Main one is just do no harm, you know, so A, I would never, ever suggest plant medicine or psychedelics to someone that that I thought was that had a personality disorder or, or a psychotic kind of tendency, first of all, and because of the legal issues, I don’t recommend it much anyway, I wait for people to bring it up to me. But yes, I don’t, because I have a self-pay practice right now, and it is a lot about personal growth, I don’t tend to have, I tend to have people that just like, they’re seekers, they want to seek truth, you know, they’re just interested in that.

 

So I generally don’t deal with people that have a bonafide mental illness or a psychotic disorder personality. So, but yeah, there’s always ethical issues. And I’m really big. I’m also a norm practitioner, which is the neuroaffective relational model dealing with complex trauma. And so I’m really big on clients, having their agency. I’m not going to tell a client what’s best for them. I don’t think they’re the patient and I’m the doctor. That’s not how I view it, and that’s an ethical thing to me to not make anybody think there’s another person that knows better about them than they do.

 

Lauren Hodge

Yeah, you’re on the same playing field as them. And you’re kind of walking through this journey alongside them.

 

Lisa Jacobson

To help them reconnect to themselves really.

 

Lauren Hodge

Yeah, that’s so important. So it’s kind of like connecting to your intuition, I imagine.

 

Lisa Jacobson

Yeah, because I think when we have experiences in childhood, or maybe they’re learned, whatever it is, and we build these adaptive roles, these survival roles, and then that’s what we’re living in. We’re not being authentic. And I like to help people, like, uncover and shed those in order to live more authentically.

 

Lauren Hodge

Yeah, so whenever I’m thinking about just therapy work in general and plant medicine work, I often think about the importance of respecting cultural traditions of the places where plant medicine comes from, but also for just thinking about cultural traditions of clients. How does understanding and respecting multiculturalism help you or support you as a counselor?

 

Lisa Jacobson

I think it’s imperative, I don’t know what a counselor can do without taking culture into effect. And that is also something that, and that has to do with perspective, like, we all have to realize that we see through the filter of our culture, and that anybody that comes through us, it’s going to be seen through the filter of their culture. And we have to honor that and respect that because it’s a, it’s a huge lens that they’re seeing through and so don’t just just think everyone has the same culture as we do, or to not be, you know, sensitive to that, I think is unethical for a counselor to do.

 

Lauren Hodge

Yeah, definitely. So, one question I am always interested in asking is about your personal, like self care practices. And, you know, when you’re, if you had to choose like one or two self care practices, when you’re in your highest state of stress, or maybe even just day to day, what do you do? What’s your go to?

 

Lisa Jacobson

I feel almost lucky that about seven years ago, I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis. And so that made me have to monitor my stress on a daily level, like it’s a lifestyle thing for me and to the point where it’s also integrated into my life. I have a client that I can manage. I’m not a counselor that can see eight clients in a day. I have a regular yoga practice, I make sure I get eight hours of sleep, and make sure that I get at least 30 minutes of walking, you know, in a day or something. I just have little things now that are built in that are my, they’re my cornerstones and what helped keep me grounded for sure. But then I’m also a fan of just, you know, crying when I’m mad, or crying when I’m sad. And when I’m mad, I release that in a healthy way. I just allow it all and I let it move and I just try not to let things build up.

 

Lauren Hodge

Yes, I like that. I like having a form of being able to release the build up of things or the things daily so they don’t…

 

Lisa Jacobson

Right and I recognize the privilege I have in creating this lifestyle. Okay, this is the hours I want to work and how many you know how many people I can see and that it’s work and I recognize that not everybody has that and I feel very grateful for that.

 

Lauren Hodge

Yeah, I think that’s also, you know, says a lot about, like the work that you’ve had to put into being able to be able to do that too. And to be intentional about, like, how you’re spending your time, that sort of thing. Because I know that that’s not always easy to do, like, you know, to be able to say yes to certain things and know that, like you’re fitting in time for yourself. So important.

 

Where can our audience find you, I know you have presentlifecounseling.com is your website. Your Instagram is interval_LPC and then Facebook is Lisa Jacobson. LPC.

 

Lisa Jacobson

Yes.

 

Lauren Hodge

Excellent. Well, we will put that in the show notes and make sure that everyone knows where to follow you and to get more information on the services you provide.

 

Episode 018: How to Rebuild a Pilates Studio

In Shake It Off Episode 18 Lauren and Kendra speak with special guest Kimberley Garlick, the founder of Northern Rivers Pilates.

Kimberley is a Pilates practitioner, a senior Polestar Pilates international educator and an owner of a successful Pilates studio called Northern River Pilates located in Lismore, NSW, Australia.

Lauren and Kendra talk with Kimberly all about her journey of opening a pilates studio, how she rebuilt her pilates studio following devastating floods, and how she manages running a business and handling stressful life events at the same time.

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Kendra Till

Welcome to “Shake It Off,” a podcast that gives you the tools, strategies, and stories to optimize and prioritize your physical and mental health. Hi, everyone, and welcome back to Shake It Off. Lauren and I are honored to have Kimberley Garlick joining us on our episode today.

 

Kimberly is a Pilates practitioner, a senior Polestar Pilates International educator, as well as an owner of a successful Pilates studio called Northern River Pilates. It’s located in Lismore, New South Wales, Australia, nestled in the absolutely breathtakingly beautiful and lush byron hinterland region. With 30 years of experience, Kimberly is passionate and knowledgeable about health as well as the body. She delivers the absolute highest quality of Pilates and evidence-based movement strategies, as well as personal guidance for not only students but also her clients.

 

She has lectured all around the world on wellness and Pilates. Kimberly was actually my educator when I went through my Pilates training back in the day, and she’s one of my biggest mentors in the field. I’m just so grateful for her and also for her friendship. She has this authentic way of empowering people to not only move better but also have more zest in life.

 

Lauren Hodge

Kimberly, thank you so much for joining us. I’m curious about your opening of your studio and what inspired you to open your studio.

 

Kimberley Garlick

Thank you so much. That was such a beautiful, welcoming Kendra. I have such fond memories in this space and always sharing our learning curve together as well. I guess if I start back when I initially opened my original Pilates studio in Belrose, Sydney, and also one in Bondi. And then we moved here about 15 years ago to the Northern Rivers. I sold the studios in Sydney. And it was like, “Okay, where do I put our Pilates space?” I really wanted to open a studio up here.

 

I started actually teaching just in some of the local community halls, just to get a feel of where we wanted to be. And I was contemplating between actual Byron, Bangalow, or Lismore. And at the time, there was very little available, and there was a bit of a, I guess, risk to put it in such a country town. But the Northern Rivers had this feeling of people needing to move better and have someone assist them in getting wellness through movement. It was an opportunity to bring that into Lismore. So we opened a small space to begin with, and now we’re in a much larger space.

 

Yeah, it was a very exciting time because most people who were calling had no idea what Pilates was at the time. And we have a very large array of people that would come in as clients. So it was a really wonderful time to be bringing Pilates into a community that hadn’t had that exposure before.

 

Kendra Till

Hmm, yeah. And you? And you… I mean, definitely, you know, like you said, coming to a community where Pilates isn’t as well-known. I’m sure you had a lot of potential clients coming in and asking, you know, “What is this and how can I benefit from this?” So what an amazing opportunity just to educate the community on these movement practices and help better their overall health.

So, and you initially started in a space, and you were there for quite some time. And then, did you get a new space within town? Did you move locations? Yeah.

 

Kimberley Garlick

During COVID, we had a smaller space, and everything was shutting down while figuring out what to do and how to run the business without incurring significant losses. We closed the studio because, at that time, continuing in the same location would have meant a really high rent. So we actually closed the space and brought all the equipment home, not knowing how long COVID was going to last.

Someone in the community heard about this and offered a new space. It’s amazing how, when we talk about those sliding door moments, things do happen, and opportunities arise. We moved into this beautiful new, larger space and then reopened after COVID. Of course, there were all the COVID restrictions we had to work with and go through that process. And then, unfortunately, we had the floods. But even after that, we were able to create a new space.

 

Kendra Till

Right? And just… Yeah, so just so the listeners are aware, in February 2021, is that right, Kimberly? The Northern Rivers community was just devastated by these catastrophic floods. And as you mentioned, your studio was sadly impacted by that flooding. It’s hard to even convey the level of impact and trauma that individuals and the community faced during that time. Your studio was completely underwater, wasn’t it, Kimberly? And obviously…

 

Kimberley Garlick

It was hopefully one of those once-in-a-lifetime floods that the world is experiencing in different areas. The entire town was completely underwater. So, we had a flood plan, and we did move everything out of the studio space. But even when we moved it into a warehouse, that warehouse also went under. So we did absolutely everything we could, but it wasn’t just our studio. A lot of our clients lost their homes.

Since then, we have rebuilt the studio, and we have actually made it a bigger space. So now we have an upstairs space, a downstairs space, and we’ve transformed the building into a complete wellness hub.

 

Kendra Till

It looks beautiful. Every time I see it online, I’m just… It’s stunning. It’s a beautiful, beautiful space, and it serves as a nurturing environment for people. Especially following the floods, opening those doors for your community would have been essential for them to take care of themselves during such a traumatic time.

And going on that theme of rebuild, I feel like this doesn’t really compare, but it’s something that I can personally relate to in terms of a rebuild. Just with Jesse and me moving to the US in our adulthood, I underestimated how major of a rebuild it would be for us and how much resilience is required to start over. Even if you have a foundation, you’re still starting over to some degree. So when I reflect back on these 18 months, it has taken me until now to feel steady on my feet again.

So, I reflect and think that periods of rebuild are extremely hard on all facets of ourselves. And I’m curious, could you talk us through some of the biggest lessons you’ve learned throughout the rebuilding process, not only for yourself but also for your business?

 

Kimberley Garlick

I think when you’re going through a process of rebuilding anything in your life, you run on adrenaline for a period of time. And it’s important to have that adrenaline drive you and actually acknowledge it and embrace it because that’s what gets you through initially. Yes. So whether it’s those initial two weeks of having a baby, going through a business transition, or moving across the world, the adrenaline is there, and that fight-or-flight component acts as a bonus. So, first of all, acknowledge and enjoy it and allow it to help you get through.

Then, be aware that after you’ve had that adrenaline burst, there will be a moment of realizing, “Well, okay, there’s been a lot.” And you’ll have to figure out a plan to give yourself some downtime as well. I believe the most important thing is to have a supportive network of people around you that you can rely on. And when I talk about reliability, it’s about having a support structure. It’s not necessarily a financial component. It’s about having someone you can bounce ideas off, someone who can help with anything from making a meal to cleaning. If somebody offers a helping hand, acknowledge it and accept it. So, I really encourage setting aside ego and embracing the willingness to say, “Yes, thank you, I do need your help, and I would really appreciate it.” And if these are the right people in your life, acknowledging and utilizing their assistance and help no longer requires you to repay that help down the line. So, acknowledge it there, embrace it, enjoy the time in the moment, and don’t put it in the back of your head as something you’ll have to repay later.

I learned a lot about accepting assistance and enjoying that process rather than feeling overwhelmed by everyone’s support. Instead, I simply said, “Thank you,” and welcomed their help. And then, use it as an opportunity to remind yourself why you’re doing it. Constantly ask yourself, “Why am I doing this? What’s going to drive me to continue this very difficult process of rebuilding and connecting staff and community together?” Understanding the importance of this hub, not just for myself but for everyone else, became my driving force to reopen.

To me, building this hub was crucial in order to reopen a space that so many people referred to as their church, their safe place, their place of healing. And with that in mind, everything came together in a way that was even better than I could have imagined. So, for me, the driving force behind rebuilding was to create a space that held immense importance for both myself and everyone else involved.

 

Kendra Till

​​That’s beautiful. I can relate. You’re right. It can be hard to initially accept help. For me, I have a tendency to think I can do everything myself. It’s that sense of ego that kicks in. Lauren, you and I have had conversations about this too, acknowledging the importance of accepting help when we’re in these situations is imperative.

 

Lauren Hodge

Certainly. I didn’t live in Australia as long as Kendra did. I was there for about 11 years and moved back to the US probably a year before Kendra did, just three months before COVID hit. It’s been similar to her process of having to rebuild in a way, and you nailed it. Accepting help was so hard for me at first, with my ego getting in the way. I had lived on my own overseas for 11 years, thinking I was a big girl who could do everything on my own. But eventually, I had to reach a point where I had to accept help. Now it comes more naturally to me, especially since I live closer to my family. When I first moved here, I lived in Colorado, and now I live in South Carolina, where my family also resides. It has been a learning process to become comfortable with accepting help, and realizing that there are no strings attached, just pure acts of love and support without any expectations of repayment.

 

Your other point about knowing your purpose and why is so important. Sometimes I forget that, so I’ve started writing it on post-it notes. When I wake up and open my laptop, I have a post-it note reminding me of my purpose and why I’m doing what I’m doing. It helps me stay grounded and focused, especially when things get busy and overwhelming.

 

Kendra Till

Yeah. It just made me laugh. I had a bit of a of a flashback when Lauren and I lived together and I remember just walking into her bathroom and her whole mirror was just covered and post it notes.

 

Lauren Hodge

I liked that. So many things.

 

Kimberley Garlick

I think it’s also about being brave. When you’re writing those post-it notes, you’re brave enough to actually do it. You’ve already put that intention out there, and that intention becomes very real to you. Then, you have to be brave enough to take action and follow through with that intention. It requires bravery in both the thought and the action. And as you know, there are costs involved. You might be taking loans or borrowing money, and there’s the financial cost. There’s also the bravery of putting yourself out there, stepping back from your ego, and embracing the possibility of failure. You have to move forward and see where it takes you.

 

The bravery of accepting help is another component. There are so many aspects to embarking on something new. It’s exciting, and if you can allow that adrenaline to flow through your body and hold onto the enthusiasm, it becomes a driving force that wakes you up every day. New beginnings, despite the challenges of floods and COVID, bring fresh ideas, new people, and unexpected opportunities. What has emerged on the other side is so much more than I could have ever imagined. So, I believe we have to acknowledge that sometimes things close for a purpose. And if we can take that next step, new beginnings are likely to be much better than we anticipated.

 

Kendra Till

Yeah, I love that.

 

Lauren Hodge

Yeah, that is a really good message. So, with all of that, I’m sure there was the adrenaline for a while. And then, whenever you’ve experienced stressors since then or over the last couple of years, what’s your go-to strategy to manage stress and navigate through challenging situations?

 

Kimberley Garlick

Yeah, I think this is gonna sound a little like an infomercial, but to me, Pilates is truly ingrained in every part of my being. If I do a Pilates session, even something simple, it rebalances me. So that is my true go-to. And then, surrounding myself with nature and being outdoors rejuvenates me. I love your ideas as well, so I get excited about creating something new in advance. When things start to feel a bit stagnant, I want to come up with fresh ideas that ignite my passion and propel me forward.

 

So, when facing stressors, my go-to strategies are Pilates, walks in nature, and being around animals. But when it comes to rebuilding my enthusiasm, it’s all about creating new ideas. I focus on how I can make a positive impact in our industry and for my staff. It’s not just about what I want to produce, but also about who it’s going to affect. And that’s what makes it truly exciting because I’m taking many others along on this journey. Going on this ride with a group of people is exhilarating because I get to witness and nurture their own journeys. It makes everything worthwhile and prevents me from becoming too self-absorbed or stagnant.

 

Lauren Hodge

You get your new ideas, usually from like reading or from workshops and like, where do you normally generate your new ideas? Or where do you find that you get your best ideas?

 

Kimberley Garlick

Really, it varies. I get a lot of ideas from clients. When I’m teaching and different questions come up or different scenarios are exposed to me, I feel the need to delve further into them, to understand them better and find ways to produce better results for those individuals. That’s when new ideas start to form. I might then share these ideas with someone else, and they might say, “Oh, I can relate to that,” or the next minute, I’m reading about it somewhere. It’s like starting with a broth and then gradually transforming into an amazing, big, giant soup. Many ideas come together to create that final product.

 

I was thinking, even when the floods happened, I opened myself up to the idea that I needed to go out and earn money to rebuild and open a studio. So, I put it out there and found myself living in Singapore for a period of time, then in Sydney, Melbourne, wherever I was needed. I was doing workshops and teaching a lot to rebuild my bank balance and eventually open the studio. It was during that time that I developed three workshops that have become incredibly popular this year. They just took off. One of them focused on utilizing the barrel, another one was about the components of the spine and scoliosis. These were things that organically inspired me and created a momentum of, “Okay, where can I find more information? What can I do? Where can I go with this?”

 

So, it’s a combination of life experiences and the information I come across that spark new ideas and propel me forward.

 

Kendra Till

Yeah, I love this theme of connectedness and the essence of community. It’s amazing how chatting and discussing different things with clients can generate ideas. Conversations with people within the community and at your studio can lead to incredible insights and inspiration. It really shows the importance of having people and a supportive community around you. They can uplift and support you in so many different ways.

 

Kimberley Garlick

Listening more than talking. As practitioners, we are gifted with a wealth of knowledge, and our intention is to deliver that knowledge and assist people. However, if we listen first, the correct knowledge will naturally come forward for the right client. It’s better to avoid over verbalizing or spewing out excessive information just because we have it. Instead, it’s more effective to retain that knowledge and selectively share small, valuable nuggets when appropriate.

 

Kendra Till

So, I know that following the floods, you also hosted a retreat called “Teach to Preach,” right, Kimberly? I absolutely loved how that retreat served as a way to bring practitioners to your studio. The format of the retreat looks incredible, and it’s such an amazing way to not only bring people to the community but also support local businesses like cafes and grocery stores. I can imagine that this idea was one of the many that emerged during that challenging time of stress and rebuilding for you. It’s truly remarkable. And you mentioned those other workshops that also came to fruition for you. It’s fascinating how these ideas can be generated during these moments when we’re running on pure adrenaline.

 

Kimberley Garlick

Yeah, I know. Adrenaline is given a dirty name. But adrenaline is super cool because it boosts us to move forward. It’s a part of us that we should celebrate, alongside calmness and all the other emotions that we experience. Each of these emotions plays a role at certain times, and suppressing or ignoring them can be dangerous. Allowing ourselves to be human, embracing our emotions, and creating new ideas by embodying everything within ourselves and the people around us can lead to greater greatness, I believe.

 

Kendra Till

I like that. I completely agree, I think that’s a great nugget of information and wisdom that can be carried in many aspects of life.

 

Lauren Hodge

Yeah.

 

Kimberley Garlick

I’m just looking at some of the things you’ve mentioned, and one person who stands out is Madison, who is both the studio manager and my daughter. She played such an integral role in bringing calmness to my heightened energy. We all have our own personalities, and it’s perfectly okay to be a little more outgoing or a little more reserved. The key is to acknowledge and embrace those differences and then utilize the strengths of each person to come together. Madison’s calmness was instrumental in bringing to life everything I was envisioning. While I may come up with ideas and express my desires, having someone else in your life who takes action is essential. They help bring those ideas into reality. So, yes, surrounding oneself with the right people is crucial in achieving our goals.

 

Kendra Till

Yeah, surrounding yourself with the right people is essential. And I must say, Madison is such a calm and beautiful person. Anyone who has the pleasure of meeting her can attest to that. Just being in her presence brings a sense of tranquility. I can imagine how her calmness supported you during that time. Reflecting on my own experiences, I can relate. There are times when I’m in a more heightened state, and my husband, Jessie, becomes my source of calm. It really helps to have that balance and the presence of others who naturally bring that calmness. It’s about being aware of who to gravitate towards and appreciating the role they play in our lives during challenging situations.

 

Kimberley Garlick

Yeah, absolutely.

 

Kendra Till

And so, you guys are also planning another workshop in October. Is that right?

 

Kimberley Garlick

Yes, we are running another workshop in October. We have Darren from Melbourne, Doug Cohen, myself, and Madison as well. The workshop will start on Friday evening, and we’re opening it up to our entire community. It focuses on breathwork and understanding tremors as an amazing tool for dealing with trauma. We want to reach out to the community who are now emerging from the aftermath of the flood and have experienced a lot in the past year.

On Saturday morning, we have a full breath workshop for practitioners only. Doug will be leading a detailed workshop on balance, specifically on the reformer. We’re calling it “Reclaim the Reform” and it involves incorporating various modalities like Cymatics and bioenergetics, using movement in both closed chain and open chain exercises to evoke different responses within the body. I’m really excited about it. We already have eight participants confirmed, and we haven’t even advertised it yet. The response has been amazing.

Speaking of workshops, the “Teach to Preach” retreat was a huge success. The feedback we received was outstanding. Participants mentioned that it was the most amazing experience they had ever had. I believe it was because of the attention to detail that Madison brought to the event. From the warm welcome rooted in local culture to the organic food, everything was thoughtfully curated. The presenters went above and beyond, delivering not only new information but also maintaining an exceptional standard. There was a beautiful energy in the room, making it a truly special and cool experience.

 

Kendra Till

Yeah, that’s excellent! It’s a true testament to you, Maddie, and the team for hosting such an event and creating a learning environment that is supportive and transformative. Providing a space for people to gather and attend workshops, events, and retreats is integral for those who feel called and drawn to it. It sounds absolutely amazing, Kimberly. I’m genuinely excited for you and your team. I only wish I could be there to experience it firsthand.

 

Lauren Hodge

I was thinking the same thing. That sounds like a great workshop. It sounds like something I could use.

 

Kendra Till

Exactly, yeah. Oh, that sounds amazing. And what a beautiful time in the Northern Rivers to be there to October is such such a beautiful time. I mean, it’s a beautiful time, all the time. And so where can I our audience, find out more about your Pilates studio and yourself and also the workshop that’s coming up and potential more workshops that might be popping up.

 

Kimberley Garlick

We have our website, NorthernRiversPilates.com.au, where you can find more information about us. Additionally, you can reach out to us through Instagram at @NorthernRiversPilates and on Facebook. We are highly responsive and strive to answer any messages or questions promptly. While I may not be a huge advocate for social media, I believe it is a brilliant tool for communication, allowing us to share different skills and aspects of our work. We aim to go beyond sharing beautiful pictures of the studio and also highlight our clients and the reasons behind what we do. You can also find articles on our website, as I am constantly writing journals and providing fresh information for our audience. So, it’s not just about the aesthetics of the studio, although it does create beautiful pictures. Thank you for mentioning that!

 

Kendra Till

I highly recommend checking out Kimberly’s articles. Her knowledge, expertise, and years of experience in the field of body and movement, coupled with evidence-based strategies, make them truly valuable. If you’re interested in diving deeper, I encourage you to visit the website and explore more.

 

Well, Kimberly, thank you so much for joining us. This conversation has been incredibly enlightening, and I truly appreciate you sharing your story. Your presence and insights are greatly appreciated. Thank you once again for joining us.

 

Lauren Hodge

Thank you Kimberly. You can find Kendra on Instagram @kendratillpilates or kendratillpilates.com. If you’re at the Montage and Bluffton you can do a private class or group class with her. And you can find me on Instagram @drlaurenhodge or drlaurenhodge.com. My online course Flow is available right now with strategies to help you get unstuck, prevent burnout, set habits and manage stress. So the links to all the resources that we mentioned are going to be in the show notes. Be sure to click on those if there’s anything you want to check out that we talked about. And if you liked what you heard today and find the tips useful please give us a five star review on iTunes podcasts or Spotify and tell us what part you liked about the episode we want to hear everything.

Episode 017: Emotional Healing

In Shake It Off Episode 17 Lauren and Kendra speak with special guest Rachel Kelly, the founder and CEO of Rachel Kelly Coaching.

Rachel’s coaching business specializes in emotional wellness, trauma processing, nervous system healing, inner child work, assertive communication, and self-love. She helps those struggling with anxiety to create internal safety in their bodies so they feel safe to expand and create the life they desire.
Lauren and Kendra talk with Rachel all about her transition from a therapist to starting her own healing coaching business. They dive deep into the intricacies of emotional healing, anxious attachment styles, and the healing process for the nervous system.

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Lauren Hodge
Hey, everyone, and welcome back to Shake It Off. Kendra and I are speaking with Rachel Kelly today. Rachel is a therapist with a master’s degree in clinical social work. For eight years, Rachel worked as a therapist before deciding to start her own healing coaching business. Her coaching business specializes in emotional wellness, trauma processing, nervous system healing, inner child work, and effective communication and self-love. Rachel helps those struggling with anxiety to create internal safety in their bodies so they can feel safe to expand and create the life they desire. She also hosts her own podcast called “Feel It to Heal It,” which I was listening to today and found a lot of valuable insights. We’re thrilled to have you here with us today, Rachel, and excited to discuss the incredible work you’re doing.

 

Rachel Kelly

Thank you so much. I’m really excited to be here.

 

Kendra Till

Thanks, Rachel. Could you share with us how your own healing journey inspired you to start your own business?

 

Rachel Kelly

Yeah, absolutely. So my journey and my work are deeply intertwined. I’ve been on a healing journey for as long as I can remember. Therapy has been a part of my life since childhood, as both my parents were therapists and met in social work school. It runs in the family. Even when I entered the traditional therapy field, I continued attending therapy myself. However, everything changed when I discovered the world of online coaching. I found a mentor who has taught me everything I know about the work I do today. Combined with my clinical training as a therapist, this experience propelled me into an unexpected and thrilling adventure of starting my own business.

When I met my mentor, it was only three weeks after launching my business, and the timing was incredibly aligned. This encounter prompted me to focus on my own deep healing journey. I began working on processing my childhood trauma, rewiring my nervous system, and cultivating secure attachment while addressing anxious attachment patterns. These personal transformations significantly influenced the way I worked with my clients. Previously, I relied on traditional therapy methods, such as talk therapy, goal-setting, and teaching coping skills—those conventional approaches you typically associate with therapy. However, my deeper self-work, which involved somatic processing and exploring the subtle energy driving our behavior, completely shifted my perspective.

I realized the immense benefits I was experiencing—feeling safer in my body, reduced anxiety, and a stronger connection to my authentic self. The healing methodology developed by my mentor was truly remarkable. I quickly recognized the potential it held for my clients. Incorporating this approach became an immediate priority for me. Witnessing the rapid progress my clients made was foundational to the growth of my business. The modality became an integral part of my practice, allowing me to define the kind of clients I wanted to work with and the offers I wanted to create.

Essentially, my entire business was born from my own personal healing journey. I wanted to extend and share the gift of healing with others. It has been a continuous cycle of growth and gratitude, as each step of my journey has unfolded new opportunities and blessings.

 

Lauren Hodge

That’s incredible, and it’s fascinating how you transitioned from talk therapy to somatic work. I’ve personally had experiences with both approaches, and like you, I’ve found that somatic work resonates better with me. While I believe both are essential in my healing journey, the somatic approach has become my go-to method for navigating difficult situations, whether they arise in relationships or at work. It’s truly been transformative for me, and I can genuinely appreciate the power of this modality.

I noticed that you specialize in anxious attachment and I’m interested in learning more about your upcoming course, the Secure Entrepreneur. By the way, speaking of experiences, I remember Kendra and I once took an Anxious Attachment quiz together. Just yesterday, I started working at a co-working space, and it’s about a 25-minute walk from my home. I chose it specifically because it allows me to be outdoors and around other people. Currently, I’m in my home office because there isn’t a soundproof room available for recording. So, after this conversation, I’ll be walking back. It’s a learning process, but I’m realizing I need to adjust my attire for the office and then de-layer for the walk back, considering the temperature can rise here in Charleston. By the way, where are you located right now?

 

Rachel Kelly

Where are you? You said Tulsa?

 

Lauren Hodge

Charleston.

 

Rachel Kelly

Oh, Charleston. I’m in San Diego. So it’s, it’s actually kinda hot here today.

 

Lauren Hodge

That’s nice. Kendra and I were discussing your work on attachment styles. We’ve both taken attachment style quizzes in the past. In fact, Kendra recently took the quiz to determine her own attachment style. So, Kendra, what was your result? I’m curious to know.

 

Kendra Till

I was secure, secure attachment.

 

Lauren Hodge

Yeah, that doesn’t surprise me at all. You’ve always been level-headed and easygoing in your relationships. You create an environment where others can grow and explore, which makes perfect sense to me. As for my own experience with the attachment style quiz, I remember taking it for the first time about four years ago. At the time, I struggled with hot-and-cold patterns in relationships. Everything would be going wonderfully, exceeding my expectations, and then suddenly, it would escalate into an explosive and unhealthy experience. I reached a point where I realized I needed to address this issue.

I recall a specific incident when I was dating a guy in New York while living in Australia. We hadn’t yet defined the relationship, and I hadn’t fully understood how to communicate my needs or establish feelings of safety and security. One night, we went out to a club in Brooklyn with his friend and his friend’s girlfriend. In my anxiously attached state, I perceived him as flirting with his friend’s girlfriend, who happened to be significantly younger. I pulled him aside, while we were at this amazing club I had been eager to visit, and I confronted him about his behavior. Looking back, I realize that my approach was not okay. He decided to leave, and as I was staying with him in New York, I impulsively insisted on leaving as well. I hastily packed my belongings, snuck out the back door with my backpack, and hailed a taxi to the airport. That incident marked the end of our connection. It left me wondering why I had reacted so strongly when he seemed to embody everything I desired in a relationship.

This experience initiated a journey of self-reflection, during which I delved into understanding the underlying causes of my reactions and identifying my own role in the situation. It was a process of uncovering and addressing my attachment style, which I had been projecting onto others due to my lack of self-awareness. Since then, I have participated in courses focused on attachment styles, but I acknowledge that certain triggers can still arise. I experience moments of jealousy and other emotions, but now I am more aware of them and understand what is happening within me when they occur.

So, in working with a client who exhibits anxious attachment tendencies, my goal would be to support them in not becoming overly anxious when their partner creates space or pulls away. Although I have personally transitioned to a more secure attachment style, I recognize that certain triggers can still be present. The key is to foster self-awareness and assist the client in understanding their own attachment patterns and reactions. By providing a safe and non-judgmental space, I would encourage open communication, exploration of their emotions, and the development of healthy coping mechanisms. It’s essential to empower them to identify their needs and communicate them effectively to their partner. Ultimately, the aim is to help them cultivate a sense of security within themselves, enabling them to navigate relationships with greater ease and resilience.

 

Rachel Kelly

Yeah, so first of all, thank you for sharing that, because it’s totally relatable. I have so many stories like that, where my anxious attachment got very activated and projected, behaved in a way that my highest self was…

 

Lauren Hodge

You’re like what’s happening. Yeah.

 

Rachel Kelly

And actually, it was my own experiences of being triggered in relationships that led me to dive into this healing work. After a breakup, I realized that there were some deep wounds that needed to be addressed. Romantic relationships have a way of bringing all of that to the surface. So the first crucial step, as you mentioned, is awareness. We aren’t typically educated about attachment styles and the fact that we all have different percentages of each style. It’s important to understand that as humans, we possess a blend of attachment styles, and our goal is to move closer to secure attachment.

Becoming aware of our triggers, whether they occur in relationships, friendships, or other aspects of life, is key. When we experience a trigger, it’s important to recognize that it’s our inner child reacting. Inner child work is something I came across during my time in grad school and therapy, but it wasn’t emphasized as much as it should have been. Our nervous systems are wired in childhood, so if we don’t address the root of that wiring, we miss a crucial piece of the puzzle. That reactive inner child is feeling threatened, scared, and uncertain about having their needs met. Whatever triggered the response from our partner is reminiscent of a time when we felt helpless as children, dependent on our caregivers for survival.

The next step is to orient our bodies back to safety in the present moment. This begins with awareness. When we realize our inner child is scared, we can ask ourselves, “What would a scared child need?” They would need comfort, validation, reassurance, and a sense of safety. By showing that care to our inner child, we can help regulate our nervous system. It’s important to recognize that our nervous system and inner child are interconnected, and when the inner child is activated, our nervous system becomes dysregulated.

Instead of projecting our fears onto our partners or engaging in hurtful behaviors, we can take responsibility for our own healing. This may involve taking time alone, going for a walk, or communicating to our partner that we need a break. During this time, we can practice grounding techniques, breathing, and allowing ourselves to feel the fear. Understanding that we are simply feeling scared in that moment can be transformative. It’s important to recognize that our partners are not responsible for saving us or making it all better. We, as adults, have the responsibility to attend to ourselves, to learn how to regulate our own emotions, and to communicate our needs. While it’s okay to seek support and co-regulation as we learn, we must understand that ultimately it is our responsibility. So it’s kind of one of those both damn things.

 

Lauren Hodge

That’s such a good point. Going back to what you mentioned about your inner child, my anxious attachment stems from a deep fear of abandonment. I’ve had multiple father figures who either weren’t present or abandoned me in different ways. My biological father and my mom’s ex-husband, who would have been my stepdad, both contributed to this ongoing fear that the person I’m with might leave. I fear that if they’re upset or dissatisfied, they’ll just walk away. It’s a constant worry in relationships. However, as you mentioned, it’s a process of growth and healing.

Now I know that at the beginning of a relationship, it’s essential for me to clearly communicate my needs to feel safe. I value integrity, where a person’s words align with their actions. I also need validation, even if my partner will be away or busy for a week. It’s important for us to touch base at least once a day, even with a small gesture that shows they’re thinking about me or that they care in some way. Of course, not everyone will be able to meet those needs, and I’ve learned that sometimes I need to provide that validation for myself. I have post-it notes scattered everywhere as a reminder to validate myself instead of constantly seeking it from others. These strategies have been really helpful.

As you said, once we start learning ourselves and understanding our needs, we can effectively communicate them to our partners. It’s a journey that also involves reconnecting with our inner child and tending to their needs.

 

Kendra Till

Well, it sounds like you now have the tools in your toolkit to navigate this, as it can manifest at different spectrums. It can be an intense experience of anxious attachment. And as Rachel mentioned, having those tools that you can rely on and pull out of your backpack is crucial. It allows you to regulate yourself and understand what’s happening within you. But as you mentioned, Lauren, self-awareness is absolutely essential.

 

Lauren Hodge

You’re absolutely right, Rachel. It’s a learning process. Once you become aware of your attachment style, you can then explore what typically triggers that attachment style in others. Additionally, you can discover strategies to support yourself in returning to your emotional center.

 

Rachel Kelly

Absolutely, you’re spot on. Processing childhood pain is a significant aspect of this work. The deep fear of abandonment, which underlies insecure attachment, especially anxious attachment, requires us to address stored trauma and pain from our past. When clients share triggering experiences in their relationships, I guide them to connect with their bodies and identify where those feelings manifest physically. By delving deeper, we explore the familiarity of those sensations and trace them back to childhood experiences. While conscious recollection of all childhood memories may be challenging, our implicit memory retains those emotional imprints. Even if clients cannot pinpoint the exact origin, they can locate the feeling in their bodies. Through holding space for these emotions and allowing their release, clients can establish a present-moment connection free from historical wounds that become triggered. In essence, attachment and trauma healing enable us to feel safe in the present. To cultivate internal safety, we must address the stored pain that our bodies perceive as a threat. By acknowledging and embracing fear, sadness, and shame that stem from childhood, we can allow these emotions to flow through us, grounding ourselves in the present and relating from our adult selves rather than the inner child. It emphasizes the importance of creating a safe space to feel and process our emotions. This understanding reinforces the earlier point that coping skills alone cannot suffice if we do not feel secure enough to confront and embrace the triggered pain. Without establishing a sense of safety to fully experience our emotions, they will continue to resurface persistently. That’s why my podcast named Feel it to Heal it.

 

Kendra Till

Yeah, that’s so fascinating. Personally, I find myself in a space where I’m genuinely intrigued by your expertise in nervous system healing and the overall process. There are moments when I feel immensely overwhelmed, and my nervous system is undoubtedly in overdrive. For instance, at present, I’m working more than usual, and I’m fully aware of the necessary steps to make changes and establish healthy boundaries. However, despite this awareness, I find myself consumed by work, which becomes a challenge. What particularly stands out to me is the end of the day when I embark on a 45-minute drive home from work. During that time, I experience heightened anxiety, overwhelming feelings that can become so intense that I may need to pull over on the side of the road, as I recently shared with Lauren. In light of this, could you walk us through some strategies for healing the nervous system and shed some light on the overall process and what it entails?

 

Rachel Kelly

Yeah, definitely. So I mean, first of all, very common experience driving home probably stuck in traffic, you’re like, I just had this long day, I’m so tired.

 

Kendra Till

Yeah, I’ve been there too, feeling overwhelmed. I often find myself with a pile of text messages and emails that I haven’t had the chance to respond to because I dedicate a lot of my time to working directly with people. It leaves me with limited time to check in on my messages. So by the end of the day, when I know my partner will be home, it just adds to the overwhelm.

 

Rachel Kelly:

Yeah, absolutely. I have definitely been there, especially in New York traffic. It’s no joke; it’s actually one of the reasons I moved. So when it comes to healing the nervous system, the first part is processing that pain so that your nervous system feels safe in the present and can navigate through stressors. Another way to support your nervous system, especially during busier seasons, is to establish daily non-negotiable practices. These practices should not disconnect you from yourself. In the past, my practices would involve binge-watching TV or getting lost in work, which only numbed and distracted me. Instead, choose practices that support the nervous system, such as daily journaling, meditation, yoga, cold showers, chanting, or singing. These practices tone the vagus nerve. Personally, I commit to three habits every day: meditation, chanting, and journaling. You need to select practices that feel sustainable for you. For example, I love yoga, but I understand that there may be days when I can’t attend a class. So I don’t want to set myself up for failure by committing to daily yoga sessions. I meet myself where I’m at. Journaling every day, even if it’s a quick list or a brief reflection on my day and emotions, provides consistency for my nervous system.

The nervous system can be seen as having two parts: structure and flow. The structure is like the divine masculine energy, providing a foundation through daily habits. The flow represents the divine feminine energy, allowing flexibility. We don’t want a rigid, controlled nervous system that depends on specific practices to avoid feeling overwhelmed. Similarly, we don’t want a nervous system without structure or consistency, as it leads to feeling scattered. It’s about finding a balance—a container of daily habits that support your nervous system and allow you to connect with yourself. By practicing these habits consistently, you’ll gain more flexibility. Taking time to come home to yourself, breathe, and address any arising feelings will help you navigate the highs and lows of the day. I highly recommend establishing daily habits, even if you start with just one. For example, commit to three minutes of stillness and deep breathing every day or take a walk in nature to ground yourself and appreciate the surroundings. Your nervous system needs that consistency to build a sense of safety. If you don’t provide some anchor of stability, your nervous system will feel more burnt out and dysregulated.

Additionally, we often forget the power of our breath. For instance, when driving home in traffic and feeling stressed, you can place a hand on your heart or lap, take three long, deep breaths, and allow your nervous system to recognize that it’s safe. Sometimes we forget to breathe fully as we go through the day, rushing from one task to another in a sympathetic state. We treat every email or task as an emergency, creating unnecessary stress. By prioritizing self-care, we become better equipped to show up for our clients, businesses, and loved ones. If we constantly neglect ourselves and run on empty, we’ll become resentful, exhausted, and our nervous system will shut down, leaving us with no energy except to numb out through activities like watching TV or mindlessly scrolling through social media. Incorporating intentional deep breaths throughout the day, checking in with our bodies, staying hydrated, and nourished are essential ways to care for ourselves and lead our nervous system. By sending signals of safety to our bodies, we counter the constant chaos and trauma of the world. Providing anchors of safety throughout the day will reduce anxiety and help us feel grounded and present in the moment, allowing us to truly enjoy life.

 

Kendra Till

I love these tips, Rachel.

 

Lauren Hodge

I love routines too! Having a routine around journaling and gratitude is crucial for me. It helps me transition into the day and then transition out of my workday. I absolutely agree with all the suggestions you mentioned. Having an anchor at the end of the day is so important. Now, I have a question. I noticed that you have a Secure Entrepreneur Program and an Admins Healing Group coming up. Could you please share some information about where our audience can find details about these programs? And could you also provide a brief overview of what these programs entail?

 

Rachel Kelly

Yeah, absolutely. I’m really, really excited about this. It combines my two passions in life, which are healing anxious attachment and entrepreneurship, and helping people build their dream businesses. The course is called “The Secure Entrepreneur.” It specifically targets entrepreneurs who struggle with symptoms of anxious attachment. Now, keep in mind, we all have some degree of anxious attachment. So even if someone only experiences a certain percentage of it, this course can still be incredibly valuable. The concepts and teachings can be applied to anyone. However, it’s specifically designed for entrepreneurs who want to establish healthier boundaries, more structure, and greater consistency.

We work on releasing those protective mechanisms and trauma responses like people-pleasing, comparison, and perfectionism (oh my god, perfectionism!). It’s amazing how these traits can be so sneaky, as they are ingrained in our bodies as safety mechanisms. The course is for those who desire to relate to their businesses from a place of secure attachment and, most importantly, to feel the way they want to feel in their business. When we think about why we started our businesses as entrepreneurs, it’s about feeling free and having a lifestyle of freedom. It’s about getting paid to do what we love, serving the world with our unique gifts, magic, and medicine. We can’t fully achieve that if we’re constantly exhausted, burnt out, resentful, undercharging, and overworking. This program is all about fully embodying what we teach, walking the walk, and practicing what we preach, so we can authentically experience the way we want to feel in our businesses.

 

Lauren Hodge

Sounds like every entrepreneur could benefit from that. Can they find that on your website? Or is it Instagram?

 

Rachel Kelly

My instagram handle is at rachel_kelly_coaching. And the waitlist is in the link in my bio, and it’s going to open one week from today.

 

Lauren Hodge

Yeah, absolutely. And what about your men’s healing group? Is that also coming up? Will it be available?

 

Rachel Kelly

Definitely. We are currently launching our men’s group called Real Men Heal, which I co-lead with Anna. It’s a three-month group coaching program that focuses on full nervous system transformation and deconditioning the societal expectations of what it means to be a “real man.” The program consists of nine modules covering topics such as nervous system healing, attachment theory, inner child work, abundance, power, and money. If you’re interested, the application for the program can be found in the link in my Instagram bio. And if you have any questions, my DMs are always open. I love connecting with the community and meeting new people on my page, so feel free to reach out and say hello.

Episode 016: Mountain Madness

In Shake It Off Episode 16 Lauren and Kendra speak with special guest Ariel Zimmerman, the founder and CEO of Motivational Madness.
Ariel is a certified personal trainer, licensed massage therapist, and behavior change specialist who will help you achieve your health and wellness goals.

Lauren and Kendra talk with Ariel all about her passion for strength training, holistic health, and getting into nature which is intrinsically woven into her business, and her upcoming annual retreat Disconnect to Reconnect.

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Kendra Till

Welcome to Shake It Off, a podcast that gives you the tools, strategies, and stories to optimize and prioritize your physical and mental health. Hi, everyone, and welcome back to Shake It Off. Today Lauren and I are excited to chat with Ariel Zimmerman who is the founder and CEO of Motivational Madness. Ariel is a certified ACE personal trainer, a behavioral change specialist, and a licensed massage therapist. She specializes in helping women reclaim power over their body and their life.

 

Ariel also offers one on one coaching as well as an online program designed for anyone who wants to stay active and get stronger and take control of their health. Her program, which is called Mountain Madness, is focused on the complete integration of the mind, the body, and the spirit, which is very convenient that you can actually do it from the comfort of your own home, which is awesome. So Ariel is also a women’s wellness retreat host for Disconnect To Reconnect, which is going to be hosted in Garden City, Utah later this year. Ariel is super passionate about strength training and holistic health and getting into nature, and living out of Utah was very convenient as well, which is awesome, and those aspects are intrinsically woven into her business.

 

Lauren Hodge

Ariel, thank you so much for joining us today. We absolutely love that your business focuses on helping women reclaim power over their health. And I’m just curious what led you to this space and fitness and empowering women to get stronger?

 

Ariel Zimmerman

Yeah, well, first, thank you both so much for having me. It’s truly an honor. And I’m so excited. What kind of got me started was really my own transformation. So for those that don’t know, I used to be a completely different person. I always tell people I used to be a depressed drug-addicted dropout. I had a really rough childhood growing up, my dad left my family on Christmas Eve when I was nine. And that really hurt a lot, and I watched my mom struggle to raise three kids on her own. I mean, had it not been my grandparents we would have been homeless, it was just really rough. And so from that, you know, I had a lot of hurt and feelings of abandonment. I used to be like a straight-A student and then after that just stopped caring and just kind of gave up and got introduced to drugs and alcohol really early. Anything to kind of just numb the pain and escape. And it actually took almost dying in a car accident to finally kind of get my life together. So I showed you guys the car accident.

 

Lauren Hodge

Yeah, it looks like you could have nearly had your head taken off by that pole that went through your car. That fencing was absolutely crazy. I can’t imagine what the injuries that came out of that, but also what your experience would have been like in that near-death situation.

 

Kendra Till

Right?

 

Ariel Zimmerman

Yeah, it’s pretty wild to think that like, this dimple that I have like is leftover trauma from it, and like who comes out of a car accident, it wasn’t cute for a while. It did graze me and I had to get 17 stitches in my head. And my face was swollen. I wore hats for like weeks because it just looked terrible. And you know, I was in massage school at the time. And with the accident, I fully own this, I was drinking and driving. I don’t do that anymore. You know, one accident was enough for me. So I had an accident and it took them over a year to charge me. So for that first year, I was in a lot of denial and just continued to kind of follow that path of self-destruction. But when they eventually charged me that’s when it was like, “Oh man, I really messed up”. And when I was like I mentioned I was in massage school at the time, so I went all the way through massage school, passed the exams, you know, sent off my packet, all this stuff, you have to have like get your license. And they denied me my massage license because my charges hadn’t been charged yet they were pending at the time, right? And so, you know, this is my chosen career path, and I just got told that I wasn’t going to be able to do that. And it was going to be years before I was going to be able to reapply again. And so I had to completely transform my career paths.

 

I went back to school, I got a second job, I started just working really hard to become a better person, it was really tough. Because I was on top of getting my license, I lost my driver’s license for a year. So I had to ride around on this little scooter to get to work, my two jobs that I was thankful for, they were both in the mall, so that was great. But like somebody stole my scooter, three months before I got my license. And it was tough. When I got my license back, I also had to have a blow and go in my car, which is just extremely embarrassing, expensive, and just very humbling. And so you know, it was kind of that rock bottom, when I realized like, “hey, no one’s coming to save you”. I was like, pissed off at the world, right? But like, the reason that I was in the situation that I was in is because of my own choices, my own actions, and my own negative mindset. I was really negative, like completely different from who I am now, which is Motivational Madness, right? Like, yeah, totally negative. And so, yeah, just like I said, went back to school, got a second job, and started reading self-help books. I think the first one of the first ones I started reading was like the universe has your back. Have you seen the show My Name Is Earl?

 

Lauren Hodge

Yeah. And he has to go around and tell people he needs to tell people that he is regretful about something, I think.

 

Ariel Zimmerman

Yeah, well, he discovers karma, and he’s like, oh, okay, if I start being a good person, then maybe good things will happen to me, you know, and he starts trying to, and I was very much like, on that same. I was like, okay, I need to start being a good person, and not doing terrible things, right, and not getting in trouble with the law. And, I mean, this was not my first like, run-in with the law either. And so I was like, really tired of court fees, and being a criminal.

 

Lauren Hodge

Yeah, it sounds like you had this terrible childhood experience of your father leaving, and then through that, you’re numbing and trying to fill the void with alcohol or drugs or whatever. And then through that experience of being in the accident, but also that series of events for three years, I swear, you know, from the accident to than going through the process of not being able to get licensed as a massage therapist. And then all of that kind of culminated into you saying something has to change. And so then you started reading these books like, how do I do things differently? Wow.

 

Kendra Till

That’s cool.

 

Lauren Hodge

And you’re a massage therapist now. So did you get you’re not trying to skip ahead, but I’m just curious, did you eventually get the thing?

 

Ariel Zimmerman

So that’s an even funnier part. So yes, I eventually did get my license years later. By the time that it was time to reapply that was like, right when I have just gotten a job in the fitness industry, like I took a big leap of faith because I wasn’t happy at my current job and was like, I’ve never run a gym before but I’ve been working out like, let’s give this a shot and took the leap right. And then I was thinking, okay, well, now that I’m back into wellness, let’s try a massage again because I’m so passionate about it. Yeah. I went to apply well, they changed the test that you need to take to pass in order to get licensed. I was like, okay, so I study really hard to pass the test, reapplied well, because I had been denied before. They made me have not one but five letters of recommendation from different massage therapists.

 

Lauren Hodge

Oh, wow. Like a test.

 

Ariel Zimmerman

It was a little excessive.

 

Lauren Hodge

Did you have the connections there? Did you have five?

 

Ariel Zimmerman

Yeah, so it was kind of funny because I had a breakdown, and then within that same day, I found all five people to give me letters.

 

Lauren Hodge

And do you feel like those people now support you and your career? Or do y’all know each other? Or like to communicate at all?

 

Ariel Zimmerman

Yes, actually, I can’t there’s like a couple that I don’t talk to. But one of them actually helps me facilitate my retreats. Now… I forgot to tell you about Al. I met him three days after my accident. He also had a near-death experience at age 19, which was the age that I was when I got in mind. And it completely transformed his life. And when I was in massage school, it was while he was doing the demo, and everyone was like, Ariel’s the guinea pig because she needs the healing. You know, because like they have all messed up. And he really helped kind of open the door to breathwork. And like bringing everything back to breathing and understanding that you can control your own stress and relieve so much stress just by connecting to your breath. Especially the exhale. So now he helps me with my retreats, this is going to be the second one that he’s helping me facilitate, and it’s just like a really full circle.

 

Lauren Hodge

That’s incredible. It sounds like he’s a true mentor and like a guardian in a way because of how he was there three days after the accident. And you know, it has been a part of your life since then. I think we all need mentors like that, and people in our life who care about us, like family, you know, and here is really the wisdom that these people hold.

 

Kendra Till

Yeah, what a special bond and just that relatability that you’d have with him and continue to have with him. And the fact that you guys are growing together, especially through these retreats. I just think that is very cool.

 

Ariel Zimmerman

Yeah, shout out to Al Bailey, he is amazing. And I’m just very grateful that he believed so much in me. And it’s been I mean, he’s helped me multiple times, like with getting the license when I was writing a paper in school that ended up becoming the mission statement of my business later. He helped me let me interview him. So it’s been a really, really great experience overall.

 

Kendra Till

I’m guessing then you obviously with your personal training background, and obviously the behavioral change specialty that you also focus on just really amalgamated along with your massage therapy, just amalgamated your business or into what you’ve created, which is just so cool.

 

Ariel Zimmerman

Yeah, and it’s such a funny story. So I got the massage license, then I moved to a different state. And that was right when I started working for Drew Mobile in South Carolina, and my passion had shifted more towards personal training and trying to build my reputation there as a new trainer. So when I moved, there were so many hoops to jump through and get that massage license that I just let it expire. You know, and I didn’t get a chance to really take off on that. And I was like, but I’ve always hoped, like, let me just, I’ll come back to it. I’ll come back to it. So last year, after we moved out to Utah, I was like, you know what? Let’s give this one more go, let’s try this again. Let’s try to get the massage license because I’ve built my reputation as a trainer. That’s what everybody knows me as. And I want to bring massage into it.

 

So I got all the stuff that I needed. I felt like it’s been eight years since I’ve been licensed. So I was really nervous about them. saying no, I like writing my own letter of recommendation. I know doing this, but I’ve still been working with the body. Please let me have it. You know exactly. They did. I mean, it was so easy. They immediately gave it to me. And here’s the coolest synchronicity. I got it on November 7 2022. On November 7, 2012. It was 13 years ago. So 2011 was the date that I got the notification that I was denied my massage license. Oh, wow. 13 years later to the date. Wow. And I was finally granted something I’ve worked so hard for.

 

Lauren Hodge

Because yeah, it’s I think that speaks to something around like sometimes the timing is not right. Like maybe if you would have gotten the license back then your route would have changed in a way that’s not conducive to who you are now or something like that. So, I don’t know, I love that you kept trying to and kept going for it afterward because I think that just because something doesn’t work out the first time doesn’t mean it’s not meant for you it just means you need to find a different route in or, you know, fine wait and see what happens down the track. So I think it’s incredible that you did that. Yeah,

 

Ariel Zimmerman

yeah, definitely divine divine timing. I mean, that’s how it was with my business too. I tried to start my business in 2014 with an app, and I had my website, right, now’s the time I’m going to do this, like this was before COVID. Right? So I was like, virtual coaching is the thing, you know, and, but I’m really scared, but cannot because it was not going to work because it did work pretty much immediately everything lined up and I got like real I was like, Oh, wait, I don’t know. And I got busy with my main job and was like, okay, you know, this will come another time. And then when the pandemic hit. It’s actually when I started my business was like September 2020, like August, September, I made it official in September. And, you know, so just divine timing.

 

Lauren Hodge

Yeah. And what inspired you to start the business? It was this process of working through these different things. And then you have the massage therapy certificate and the fitness experience, what inspired you to start the business?

 

Ariel Zimmerman

So what actually inspired me, was working with a business mentor. I mean, I started working with her to start a business. It is more like a money mindset, and in life, and like a kind of life coaching. And so I started working with her and I was telling her one day, you know, her name is Breanna Moser, by the way, she’s amazing. I was like, you know, I’d really love to be like a life coach one day and have my own business, you know? And she was like, okay, well, then why don’t you do that? And I was like why don’t I do it, you know? And so I read together, just like a little mindset kind of coaching program. That was like seven weeks is called Mindful Madness.

 

Everything is madness to me, from playing roller derby, and yeah, so that’s another thing I didn’t even mention. But yeah, so threw that out there, threw it together, threw it out just to see. And immediately started to make more than what I was making at my current job, where I had moved to Utah and started working for another Anytime Fitness. And that was kind of like the push. I was like, oh, I can do this. I can be successful. I’m just going to do it. And my boss at the current time, thankfully, told me no, when I asked him for a race, and I was like, okay, but you know what, then I’m gonna go by. And like, I discovered that virtual coaching works during COVID, because our gym got shut down, and I immediately started doing Zoom coaching and found out that I can train people just as well. And with the behavior change coaching as well, that was something people really needed when their entire life was getting turned upside down. Right. There was nothing like this new normal that we had to get used to. So helping people create new habits and behavior changes, instead of just sitting around their house.

 

Kendra Till

Yeah, definitely.

 

Lauren Hodge

That’s so cool.

 

Kendra Till

I’m really curious because I’m a pilates instructor. And so what I find when I’m working with people, especially on a one-on-one basis, even if it’s online or in person, um, you know, sometimes it’s hard to even look after our own health and well-being I find I’m actually a little bit in that realm right now, where it’s like, I just need a little kickstart just to make sure that I’m looking after myself. So I’m curious, what are your strategies to look after yourself, especially because you’re running your own business now? And yeah, just working with people? How do you Yeah, how do you look after your own physical and mental health?

 

Ariel Zimmerman

Yeah, such a great question. I actually have a formula for this, and it’s made up of five different principles. And basically when I say principles, like things that you should do every day to help you manage your stress and anxiety and overwhelm, and just you know, life, right. So the first one is movement, some kind of movement. My favorite is strength training. I believe everybody should do strength training just for the like bone density, especially for women at greater risk of osteoporosis and so, lift weights at the same time, just move your body. It is the most underrated antidepressant in the world, and it is just magic. So whatever movement you love, and do it every day, even if just walking, I don’t care. Right? The second one is meditation.

 

So I am one of those people who can sit here and say meditation has really changed my life. And I’m not talking about necessarily having to, like, sit down on a meditation mat, close your eyes and try to like, quiet your mind. Right? It doesn’t work for everybody. I bet. It’s sometimes what I do. But I also, one thing that Al has actually created is this walking circle meditation. And so he’s even got this patented map called the Lutron Therapeutic Multipurpose Map. It’s got this circle on it, and it’s eight feet, it’s a whole thing that we do. And I have a class where I combined functional fitness with this meditation. And what it does is, you know, it helps you get out because you don’t think walking in a circle is very hard. But it is when you’re not allowed to look at your feet, you know, and you’re like looking up certain ways to do it. And sometimes they make people walk with their eyes closed. It’s really cool. But you know, meditation is just all about getting you out of your head and gets you into your body. And really cultivating that sense of energy from within.

 

Instead of like people, I feel like so much trying to attach things to external circles, and external sources, but we all have so much within us. And you know what, so when I say meditation, I’m talking about connecting with your breath. It’s, you know, it’s not that hard actually, to meditate, just focus on your breathing, and boom, you meditate. Yeah, that’s right. And so that’s really helped me and so whatever kind of meditation works for you. The next one is mindfulness practices. So you know, being mindful of the thought patterns going on in your head, what you’re telling yourself on a daily basis is really, really important. Being really mindful of what you’re putting into your body. Because nutrition has such an impact on how you feel, you know, if that’s your body, with nutritious and nutrient-dense foods, you feel better, and it’s great. And so being mindful of all kinds of things like this could even involve going to therapy, right, which is a really big thing that I preach, everybody should just go there.

 

Lauren Hodge

Like a maintenance check. Is there some kind of thing, even if you’re absolutely experienced in anything major, you can go and like, excavate what’s happened recently and, and make sure that you’re processing it? So I fully agree therapy is always a good option.

 

Ariel Zimmerman

Yeah, yes, therapy is actually what really helped save my life and mental health last year, because that dad that I told you about locked out on us. Well, I became his primary caretaker last year. And, and his financial power of attorney, which involves moving him into this room, actually, for about six weeks while I got his finances in order because he’d been scammed on all his money, and had 10s of 1000s of dollars in debt. So I had to get all of that together. And what you know, during that time, it just brought up a lot of a lot of childhood trauma that I didn’t realize I had. Yeah.

 

Lauren Hodge

So you feel like you got to work through things with him as well? Or was he not really in a space to receive that type of conversation for you?

 

Ariel Zimmerman

Um, we have worked through a lot. You know, it’s still a process every day, there’s a lot like with my dad, he has a personality disorder. He’s bipolar. He has dementia. And he’s 83. So he’s much older than most people my age, I’m only 33. So there’s just a lot of layers. Right? But I can’t sit here and on the other side of it, say we have a much better relationship and healed so much of that relationship over the last year in therapy was a big reason why,

 

Lauren Hodge

yeah, I’m sure I can relate to that in some way. So you have exercise, meditation, mindfulness therapy, and what was the fifth one?

 

Ariel Zimmerman

So there’s a well, mindfulness therapy was like, kind of part of mindfulness. Oh, got it. Fourth, fourth one is massage. So obviously, I’m a big advocate for getting you know, therapeutic massage, but also just like, you know, using like a Thera gun doing a foam roller like self-massage, myofascial release, our bodies hold a lot of tension and need. It’s a great way to, you know, relieve some of that shift that energy, shift that energy. Exactly, and then the very last one is mountain views. I just go out.

 

Lauren Hodge

There’s a difference. I know what you mean, a friend of mine is in Colorado right now and is sending me pictures in Durango. And it’s just so stunning there. I’m like, why did that move from Denver? Are we sure we made the right decision there? Like it is stunning. So I agree with mountain views. You’re right, I like nature, but mountain views are like having this really specific kind of feel to it that makes you feel better. That’s awesome. Okay, so those are your strategies I think anyone can relate to and use those. Now, there’s a lot of research to back up those things as well. So I think, yeah, just doing it daily is a good way to go. Lately, on top of your mental health and that sort of thing. I’m curious, so you work with people on strength training and that sort of thing. And you have the massage piece in it. And it sounds like you know, different stress management strategies as well.

 

When it comes to people that you’re like, when you have clients and they’re facing, you know, I guess my experience of one like myself picking up different things, I’m thinking specifically about exercise routines and new habits around exercise. I know how important they are, like, I am fully aware of all the evidence on how it’s good to move each day and all of that. But sometimes when I’m trying to get into a routine, it’s like, pulling teeth, just to get me out of bed earlier enough to get to work. So I’m curious, like, what are you? What do you notice with your clients like the fears that they face or? Or the difficulties and in getting them through that threshold of like, okay, I want to do it. I know, it’s important, like, and now like getting to that point of doing it and making it a habit? Is there anything that you noticed that comes up? That’s kind of common. Or? Like, I don’t know, I want to hear all about like, what, what do you do with clients?

 

Ariel Zimmerman

Yeah, I mean, it’s very, it’s very common that no one ever wants to work out. I don’t want to do it, and that’s definitely why I recommend working with a coach or a trainer, you know, someone to help keep you accountable to show up on those days when you don’t feel like it. Because the reality is you are going to have those days, and you’re gonna have more often than not, so many people wait around for motivation, they’re like, I don’t feel motivated, and it’s like the motivation comes later.

 

Lauren Hodge

Yeah, we take accountability piece like 100%. The reason I work out is that I sign up I go to The Works, it’s a yoga hot yoga studio here and wherever I go, the thing it has to have is a class that I sign up for that you know, you’re on the mind-body thing app and like I get charged if I don’t show up, and that is my accountability is the reason I wake up in the morning. It’s how I start my day. And because I work from home, it’s not like I have other things that are gonna force me to get out of bed. So anyways, I completely get that without that accountability. I mean, without that accountability, I might go for a walk, but I’m not gonna like working at the gym. It’s just happened so I get that 100% And you have a retreat that’s coming up when your retreat disc is disconnected to reconnect retreat? I saw that on your website. It was so fascinating and amazing, like something we all need to go to. When is the date of your retreat?

 

Ariel Zimmerman

Yeah, so this one is going to be September 21 through the 24th. So it’s like a Thursday evening. We don’t start until five o’clock on Thursday. So Thursday evening to a Sunday morning. I did extend the stay for my facilitators for this retreat. So like people you know, it’s not like a mad dash to leave in the morning. But you know, so you can hang if you want to if you have a later flight or something but it’s a Thursday to Sunday, and it is in Garden City, Utah. So it’s this beautiful Airbnb that is literally right on Bear Lake. So we have this unobstructed view of this beautiful blue lake because there’s like a certain type of mineral in there that makes the water really really blue. And then you’ve got mountains in the background, magic mountain water. It’s like everything.

 

Lauren Hodge

That sounds incredible. Yeah, that does. We’ll definitely have to check it out and you pick the perfect time of year I feel like going to Oh, yeah. It’s like the weather’s perfect. It’s gonna be like, you have some beautiful sunsets and sunrises and

 

Ariel Zimmerman

Oh, yeah. All the fall colors. It’s gonna be so great..

 

Kendra Till

And Ariel, you mentioned that you’ve done a strongman competition. Is that correct?

 

Ariel Zimmerman

So not yet, I’m about halfway through the training program right now. And this is my very first one. I’m like, not even at the bare minimum of what you have to lift yet. I’m excited.

 

Kendra Till

What compelled you to is that just a hobby of yours? Or is it something that you’re passionate about? I mean, I know you’re very passionate about strength training. And, I guess what compelled you to join that competition or to join in the future?

 

Ariel Zimmerman

Yeah, awesome question. So actually, last year, one of my friends, Rachel Dawn Prairie, and she’s big in this world, helped me with my retreats. She had a competition at this gym and it was here in the gyms called the sweaty pig. It’s awesome. Like a strongman gym, and I went to just go cheer her on and when I was there, I was like, why is this I was like, This is awesome. The community was great. It very much reminded me is like roller derby because it’s like in this warehouse, you know, and it’s kind of like grungy and really raw, and then the people that my favorite thing about Strongman is, these people don’t look like your typical bodybuilder fitness influencer, people, you know, like strongman have, like, really big bellies. And like, they’re all rounded and like, they just don’t, don’t look like your typical fitness person.

 

But I watched this dude overhead press 480 pounds the other day with the log, and I was like, Whoa, yeah, I love it. Because I’m very much against this idea that you need to look a certain way in order to be healthy, like, fineness does not equal fitness. And, you know, if you can, like, as long as you’re working out, that’s awesome. And so stop, like comparing yourself to people in magazines, who are photoshopped or whatever, you know, like, just, yeah, compete against yourself. Right? Yeah, that’s what Strongman truly is. It’s not like this ego-based competition. You know, everyone is just so friendly, and they have great snacks.

 

Lauren Hodge

well, I love that’s such a good message too. It’s not about losing weight, or what’s on the scale. It’s about just making sure you’re feeling good and getting in time for exercise. I’m a huge proponent of that.

Episode 015: Winged Women’s Wellness

In Shake It Off Episode 15 Jess Mulligan, who is the co-founder of Winged Women’s Wellness.

Jess is a toddler mom and co-foudner of a business that is rapidly taking off. Her supplements are in Whole Foods, Sprouts, Wegmens, and many other natural health shops, boutique markets and food stores.

Kendra and I talk with Jess all about her product line specifically formulated to support women with stress, sleep, mood, and skin and how it came to be. We hear about her journey with stress and how she copes when she’s juggling all the things.

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Kendra Till

Welcome to shake it off a podcast that gives you the tools, strategies and stories to optimize and prioritize your physical and mental health.

 

Lauren Hodge

Hi everyone and welcome back to Shake It Off Podcast. Today, Kendra and I are speaking with Jess Mulligan, who is the co founder of Winged Women’s Wellness, a supplement product lines specifically formulated for women to support our stress, and sleep and mood and skin. And Jess is incredibly inspiring. She is a toddler mom and a co founder of a business that is rapidly taking off, her supplements are in Whole Foods, Sprouts, Wegmans, and a lot of other natural health shops and boutique markets.

 

Jess I have to tell you this, I struggle with sleep, and I know whenever I was looking for solutions, firstly, and something to get me back on track, I learned from sleep researchers that when we’re sleep deprived for an extended period of time, the emotional center of our brain is basically blown. And so that’s why when I haven’t slept, for example, I feel like a toddler and can cry at the drop of a hat, and I’m so emotional. My sleep is so much better now, but I do struggle at times, so I tried a lot of different sleep supplements. I even set up all these different sleep routines that I have, over the years I’ve basically tried probably like six or seven different sleep supplements. Then I tried the Winged Sleepyhead supplement, which is that blend of L theanine, five HTP and melatonin, and it is literally the only thing that has worked for me.

 

This is not an advertisement guys, like I’m just saying, it is a Christmas miracle because I started taking this last year, and I literally cannot speak more highly of this. I know different things work for different people, and it might not be like a miracle cure for everybody. But for me, it has been incredible. So I’m very grateful for you and your team for creating this Sleepyhead blend, and for everything that you do.

 

Kendra Till

Yeah, Jess, it’s so nice to have you joining us today. We are so excited, and we have a lot of questions for you today. We’re really curious about your story and your own personal experience with stress and sleep deprivation and moods, etc. So I guess even going back to the start, what ultimately inspired you to start Winged?

 

Jess Mulligan

Sure. Well, Winged was started from a low point in my life, actually, which I think a lot of great things come out of right when it’s when we get really really uncomfortable that is often a catalyst for great things and major change. But about four years ago, I went through a series of pretty significant life changes in a really short amount of time. I felt like everything about my identity was like rapidly stripped away, like relationship change, job change, lost some loved ones, things like that. My dog that I had had for 16 years. It’s like a sad country song. But I had for about a solid year I had really debilitating anxiety for the first time in my life. And I was always very easygoing growing up, my nickname was smiley, I could literally sleep anywhere I slept standing up once on a train, my grandma will tell you, I was nine years old. Other things that I always took for granted and never thought twice about them. And then when I went through this period of this anxiety that was like straight up debilitating, it manifested in so many ways, sleep in a major way with my sleep, but also social anxiety. I was all of a sudden very uncomfortable in my own skin, and not just with strangers, even with people that are close to me that I’ve known my whole life. Like I just felt like I couldn’t authentically connect to anyone around me.

 

So I dove into the research and I was like what is going on? Am I ever gonna feel like myself again? Is this just the new me, like God I hope not, you know, did a lot of different things, I went to an endocrinologist, like really dove into therapy. I went to South America did Ayahuasca, I did a lot of things, and I think that that many of them helped. One of the things was a specific protocol that my business partner Tim who’s a Master Herbalist put me on. There were different herbs and botanicals that were really studied to help women specifically balance hormones. And then I was on other things for stress like CBD. So I was taking like eight different supplements really for stress and anxiety and sleep. And I started to feel better, and I remember, there was one night and a light bulb went off, I slept through the night, and it was the first time I slept through the night in eight months. And I woke up and I was like, holy shit, I’m cured. I mean, it was still a long road ahead, you know, still rears its head at me even today. But I just started to wonder why there were no specific blends that were designed for women’s bodies, which ours are.

 

So that’s really the big differentiator with Winged versus a lot of other supplements on the market. We are specifically designed for a woman’s body. So for example, in the Sleepyhead product that is helping Lauren, there’s chaste tree berry in it and chaste tree berry helps balance hormones and women and often women have estrogen and progesterone peaks and valleys when they sleep, and that can wake us up. It’s like taking this holistic approach that is really very very targeted, and very very specific. So through this process, I also was talking to so many women in my life, and that there was a common theme, like so many women that really looked like they had it all together on the outside, like on Instagram or whatever. So just like so many women that really looked and we’re balancing so much, handling so much, were having these bouts of overwhelm or anxiety almost every single day. So really, like learned through that period, that this is something that wasn’t unique to me that there is a big, like stress epidemic in this country.

 

And it’s only gotten worse after we all and through COVID, the collective like shitstorm I don’t know if that’s a good way to put it. Yeah, we all went through people are in sleeping people are very, very stressed out. So, you know, that’s like our singular focus is how do we make products that can help women overcome stress? Because when you’re stressed, you can’t sleep. When you’re stressed, you have no energy, you’re when you’re stressed, it affects your skin. Yeah, so that’s what Winged is. And the brand name Winged means that when you’re on solid footing, solid foundation, and you’re not bogged down by stress, overwhelm, anxiety, that’s when you take flight.

 

Lauren Hodge

That is, it’s like the ultimate freedom whenever you can ride the waves of stress or manage stress or work through it. I just think about your saying whenever we’re stressed, it impairs our ability to focus and to problem solve, and to just like function as a human. So whenever I was experiencing chronic stress, my big thing was sleep, like you’re saying, so it’s interesting that common factor. And then there’s also another number of things that were going on, but I thought to myself, if I can first start, if there’s only one thing I can do it’s to get my sleep right. And to start getting hopefully eight hours, I was for basically like four years getting about three to four hours of sleep, just because of my workload and convincing myself that that was okay. I didn’t look into the science, I don’t think I wanted to know, I was just like, I’m fine. I can do this, I got this, and then it all came crashing down. And it’s so interesting you mentioned that around wanting to look like you’re okay on the outside. Because I would say that was my key priority was I just wanted to look like I had it together. Because I didn’t want to be a big red flag walking around work. And I didn’t want everybody to be like, oh, she can’t hack it or whatever.

 

Kendra Till

So many, and how your relationships get affected. I mean, it’s just a whole flow on effect from that foundational sleep aspect.

 

Jess Mulligan

100% I’m so happy that it seems you know, there was I think like probably five to 10 years ago, everywhere would be like hustle, hustle, hustle, hustle and grit hustle and grit like five hours I get up at four in the morning and do XYZ and it seems that the wellness community is now like very backing away from that. Study after study that getting restful sleep is a key factor in longevity. It’s just so important for for everything we do. It’s counterintuitive, but our bodies are actually like really hard at work when we’re sleeping. They’re repairing everything, you know, just setting up for the next day. So when you’re not giving your body the chance to do that work your I mean, you guys know, it’s not a good place to be.

 

Lauren Hodge

Yeah, I mean, it does make sense. In hindsight, I’m like, well, no wonder. Like, everything came crashing down.

 

Jess Mulligan

I know, I sometimes think like, at the time, you were probably like, what is wrong with me when I did that? And then, you know, of course, hindsight is 2020. Like, I look back, and I’m like, I just want to give that girl a hug and say, like, it’s understandable what you’re going through, you’re not going crazy, like, it’s just a lot, babe. But at the time, you’re like, why can’t I overcome this, and especially women that are, you know, I don’t know if type A is the word, but we’re like uncomfortable with the fact that we can’t figure it out.

 

Kendra Till

It’s kind of switching the off button really, isn’t it?

 

Lauren Hodge

So yeah, I have a question. How do you manage, you know, running a business? And like the stressors that come along with that, along with having a family and all of that? What are your big strategies? And how do you manage it all?

 

Jess Mulligan

I think the biggest difference for me the last couple years has been just being more relaxed about everything, about not feeling really overwhelmed if I don’t get to all the emails, and prioritizing, like starting the day with, hey, if I can get like these two big things done, then I feel really good about about what I you know, whatever it might be, my gosh, it’s done in a day. My early 30s, I was so like, oh, my gosh, I used to fall asleep with my laptop in my lap, like I was such a workaholic. And I really helped so much of my self worth to like doing and producing. The biggest change has just been kinder with myself. And I think I rationalize it, because I’m like, hey, if you get out of the hamster wheel, you are going to be a better leader, you’re going to be able to like think more strategically than if you’re constantly going going going. So maybe that’s why I feel good about it.

 

Lauren Hodge

And you can be really creative, I feel like right, like when you give yourself the space in your day, I love that strategy of prioritizing one or two things each day and saying, okay, if I can get those things done, I’m happy. And then other things, if they can happen, great. But that’s the priority.

 

Jess Mulligan

It’s so easy to answer emails and get in the minutia, unload the dishwasher, like whatever, you know So oh, let me go organize my son’s jean drawer or something like that. Just being kinder with myself and realizing. There was an epiphany, I went on a vacation once and I gave my laptop. It was like a wellness retreat, and I did not have my laptop or emails for a week. And I noticed by like Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, I hardly got any emails. And what I realized is there’s so much work that gets created by answering emails and the back and forth.

 

Lauren Hodge

As soon as you reply to an email, there’s something else for you to do. Because usually it’ll come back.

 

Jess Mulligan

It’s like, how do you manage that? Like, maybe you do it all on one day, a week or two days? I mean, I know that’s not realistic, because obviously we have 911 things but I think time blocking, which I’m starting to do a lot more of and I can definitely can get better at but I think is probably one of the most effective things for time management is just, hey, I’m gonna do emails in these two hours. It’s so hard. It’s so hard not go to your email. But the days when I’m able to actually block out are without a doubt, like the most productive and efficient days.

 

Kendra Till

Yeah, just being able to compartmentalize it and focus on that. Yeah, I’m the same I if I do that I feel like I’m flowing.

 

Jess Mulligan

It’s hard, it takes a lot of discipline.

 

Lauren Hodge

I have to color code things too when I time block because then I know like, which part of the project I’m working on and it helps me, like the biggest thing I think for the last like three years of time blocking has been getting realistic about what I can actually do in a set amount of time for whatever it might be if it’s emails, or if it’s like working on a specific project or doing a slide deck, and I think I can like finish it all in this amount of time. I’m starting to get realistic about what I can do, which is nice, because I used to overshoot it daily.

 

Jess Mulligan

We overshoot, and then we disappoint ourselves. I think it just chips away at our integrity that we have with ourselves. So that’s yeah, it’d be like kinder to myself. Like, I don’t want to make broken promises. I’m gonna be like, yeah, I’m probably not going to be able to do it.

 

Kendra Till

Yeah, and feeling okay saying that, you know, being okay saying that.

 

Jess Mulligan

Lauren, I would love to see your time block color coded. Send it to me.

 

Kendra Till

And Lauren is always a post it note queen. I’ve always, when we lived together, Lauren had just like post it notes, and I just used to love all of her post it notes everywhere.

 

Lauren Hodge

I just moved recently, so I had took down all the post it notes that were at my apartment, and I like saved them because I feel like they’re really important. They’re always like messages from books or whatever. Those are your main parties like prioritizing your main strategies or prioritizing, and really making sure that you’re kind to yourself about, like, what can be done and what you’re not able to do?

 

Kendra Till

I really like that. And just I really love your singular mission of helping women feel good. I just love the simplicity of it. Yeah, how it’s all encompassing. So I just think that’s a really powerful statement. What would you say is one thing that helped your business to successfully launch and take off?

 

Jess Mulligan

I think that it was probably actually I know, it was probably the targeting the really specific targeting, like figuring out that we wanted to serve one particular need, which actually ends up being a very big need with a big customer base. But you know, just being able to talk directly, I think a lot of businesses, especially like products, they try to be everything to everyone. And we are bombarded by offers and products and just so much noise all hours of the day, and we don’t want any more, right. But if somebody talks specifically to you, then you’re gonna listen. So when we originally launched in 2019, our products did have CBD in them. And we have some CBD products still on our website. But we, because we were specific to women, there were 3000 CBD brands that launched that year. By the way, if I had known that I probably wouldn’t have had started with CBD.

 

Lauren Hodge

I knew the market was saturated.

 

Jess Mulligan

The vast I would say 99% of CBD companies are not here today because we had we were really specific targeted to women, it was how we were able to get shelf space. You know, when we soft launched in March, and by July, we had orders for about 1000 stores, you know, because they were like, hey, this is different. This is a different thing to add to my assortment. So I just think anytime anybody starting a business, obviously make sure that you’re filling a need in the market. But then kind of think like really what is my competitive advantage and like how can I make sure that I am offering something that is different than what is already offered?

 

Lauren Hodge

I like that, did you guys do a lot of market research to determine that or I’m just curious about like the process.

 

Jess Mulligan

Yeah, it was really organic. It was it was a really organic situation. So it was I was basically having a mental breakdown. I was taking, like I spoke to you. And you know, I called Tim who had put me on all of… we had been at a company together for 12 years that had just gotten acquired that is actually now owned by Clorox. And we were talking about another nutritional supplement company. Isn’t that funny, Clorox bleach companies buying vitamin and supplement companies. So we were like, what’s next? And what are we going to do next? And that’s when I called him and I was like, wait, why are all these things you have me on? Why isn’t this in one product? Why don’t we do something like that? So he was the only man at the last company we were at so automatically, like, he was like, no, no, no. I can’t do something just for women again, like I want to be able to talk to the audience.

 

But you know, it was when just diving into the research. And so statistically, women are twice as likely as men to experience anxiety disorders, depression, and insomnia. So when we learn that, like, coupled with, you know, after I was also saying, Tim, I’m like this thing I’m going through. So many women are going through something similar, maybe not as severe, but people don’t feel good right now. Like, we got to help them. And then actually, there was like, this big body of research to back that up. He came around to it, but that was sort of the process. It was it was really organic, which was nice. It very much felt like the universe was so behind us on this.

 

Lauren Hodge

I bet a lot of work as well. But like, I can appreciate that that would have been great to know that like it was falling together in the perfect way. So then I’m curious, because I know the Sleepyhead products work for me. And you’re mentioned research on who do these, like stress and mood and sleep supplements typically work for? Like, what kind of women or what have you guys found there?

 

Jess Mulligan

Well, the majority of women. Upwards of 60% of women have sleep issues 60%, and anxiety, depression, insomnia is through the roof. Like I said earlier, we’re twice as likely as men to experience these things. Those numbers have increased even, you know, after COVID and everything women went through. So I think anybody, like you know your body, right? If you’re not feeling well, you’re not sleeping well, there is a good chance that something’s going on with your adrenal system or your endocrine system, which is your hormone system. Most of our products will help with your cortisol response, which is your stress response. And many of them also help with hormonal balancing.

 

So if you’re not feeling good, I would give it a try. You can always also, if you’re more comfortable and you want to verify what’s going on, which I always recommend, but not everybody has the resources or it’s inconvenient, you can do bloodwork that will test different nutritional deficiencies. It’s nice to do something called the Dutch test, which actually tests your hormones to see where you are on that. Estrogen dominance, which we’re launching a new product, which I want to tell you guys

 

Lauren Hodge

Tell us about it.

 

Jess Mulligan

It’s called Balance Babe, and it’s two veggie ccapsules a day two of these. So this addresses estrogen dominance, estrogen dominance is probably in fact, I think it is the most common hormonal disorder affecting women. And basically what estrogen dominance is, is when you have too much estrogen in relation to progesterone, and how do we get too much estrogen? Well, lots of different ways. But one of the things that’s so different today versus you know, 50 years ago is all of the endocrine or hormonal disruptors that are in our environment today. Pretty much anything that has a scent to it is is an endocrine disruptor.

 

Lauren Hodge

This is so interesting to me, because I don’t know a lot about hormones at all, so I’m curious about that. So anything that has a scent to it.

 

Jess Mulligan

It’s unfortunate, but like to tell you guys this, but I saw this thing on social media, And I think it’s pretty true. They said, the fragrances of today are like the secondhand smoke of yesterday. And they are just in everything. You know, garbage bags come with your laundry, your dryer sheets, all of your beauty products. So a really important thing to do is start buying unscented, I promise your laundry, it’ll be fine. It’s not going to smell like lavender. Our cleaning products, like there’s a great, there’s a great online product called Branch Basics. I recommend that for cleaning products, but we’re just really like assaulted from everywhere with these endocrine disruptors and it’s caught and there’s a lot in our food, there’s so much. So basically what can happen when you’re in estrogen dominance, these are the signs of it. Really bad PMS, cramping, weight gain, irritability, mood swings, breast tenderness, that’s another one. Just not feeling good, feeling lethargic.

 

So you can do a Dutch test to determine it. Or you can, you know, go on the checklist online, look up estrogen dominance. And if you’re checking all the boxes, there’s a good chance that you have it. So I got my bloodwork done and did a Dutch test. And I found out I was in estrogen dominance. And I also got my first mammogram around the same time, I was told that I have an elevated risk of that, which I don’t want to name but anyway, I elevated risk of breast cancer. And so I really dove into the research is about a year and a half ago on what can I do to… estrogen fuels cancer as well. What can I do to you know, try to control the situation? It isn’t really something you can control. But anyway, I tried that. And one of the things I learned at the same time was that estrogen dominance can cause breast cancer and different cancers. So how do I get the excess estrogen out of my system, I started taking these three products Dim, which is basically from cruciferous vegetables like broccoli, cauliflower, kale.

 

Okay, so this is an extract from that because you have to eat a ton to get the amount that’s in a pill, calcium blue krait which you can you pull the bad estrogen out estradiol and then it has to go metabolized through your liver and your lipid pathways. So calcium lootcrate does that and then burdock root, which also helps her liver pathways. I’ve been taking all of these for about a year. This together is probably about $80. So I will say one of the craziest things is my PMS has completely disappeared. I do not even know when I’m getting my period anymore. Because it just shows up. I have no cramping. I have nothing. Okay, so a passion project of mine. There wasn’t this specific combination on the market, you have to buy it separate. So I’ve been spending a lot of money on it. So I said can we put this together so that’s what Balanced Babe is so Balanced Babe. Those things dim, calcium blue krait, burdock root and also trans resveratrol from Japanese knotweed, which is a antioxidant that’s also going to help you detoxify through your liver. So this is gonna be like a superstar product for hormonal imbalancing.

 

Lauren Hodge

We’ll put a link in the show notes to that and to your website, but also to that product so that people can go and check it out.

 

Jess Mulligan

I’m excited. I’m so excited. I think it’s gonna be really a game changer for women’s health.

 

Lauren Hodge

I think all of your products are, especially with the hormonal imbalance that we’ve all experienced and absolute where can our audience find you on like, what’s your website or Instagram?

 

Jess Mulligan

Our website is wingedwellness.com, and our Instagram is @wingedwomen and then we’re sold that retailers like Whole Foods Market, Sprouts, all the different health and wellness stores throughout the country. Wegmans, like you said earlier, Vitamin Shoppe so we’re we’re pretty widely available. My personal Instagram is @luckyjess917, if anybody listening has a question about any of our products, you can feel free to DM me and I’d be happy to help you in any way I can.

 

Kendra Till

You can find me at kendratillpilates.com or on Instagram @kendratillpilates. Or if you happen to be in the Bluffton or Hilton Head area, you can do a private or group class with me at The Montage. You can find Lauren on drlaurenhodge.com. Her online course Flow is available right now with strategies to help you get unstuck prevent burnout set habits to manage stress and enhance your mindset. Links or resources that we’ve mentioned are included in our show notes. If you liked what you heard today and find the tips useful, please give us a five star review on iTunes podcast or Spotify and tell us what part you liked about the episode today.

Episode 014: Hygee cooking & living

In Shake It Off Episode 14 Lauren and Kendra speak with special guest Louise Rakers, the founder of Nordic Cooking.

Louise is a dutch plant-based chef, and recipe creator, as well as a plant-based restaurant consultant, that focuses on a less is more plant-based approach.

Kendra and I talk with Louise about our travels and work abroad over the past decade and how to incorporate more plant-based eating into our everyday lives, as well as different ways to shop more cost-efficiently and sustainably.

You can find all the podcast episodes at https://www.drlaurenhodge.com/podcast/

We created this podcast to give you the tools, strategies, and stories to handle the unexpected BS that life throws your way.  We plant ourselves firmly at the gates of truth-telling and we discuss how to optimize and prioritize your physical and mental health.

If you like what you hear, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify and Apple Podcast and tell us what part you liked most.

*This is not medical advice. Please get in touch with your doctor or healthcare practitioner before making any changes to your healthcare plan.*

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Kendra Till 

Welcome to shake it off a podcast that gives you the tools, strategies and stories to optimize and prioritize your physical and mental health. Hi everyone and welcome back to the Shake It Off podcast. Today Lauren and I are speaking with Chef Louise Rakers who is the owner of Nordic Cooking, which is based in Charleston, South Carolina. Louise is a plant based chef, recipe creator, as well as a plant based restaurant consultant.

 

Lauren Hodge

Louise, thank you so much for joining us. We are really excited to have you on the podcast because we love your lessons and concepts of plant based cooking. And what I love about having all three of us gathered here on this podcast today is that we all have so many stories from having traveled the world and worked in different countries. Louise’s from Denmark, I actually spent about five days in Copenhagen, probably five years ago now, when I was speaking at a conference and the food and the culture in Denmark really centers around hygge, and to me, this is really everything that you embody Louise and everything that your business really stands for, and it’s a Danish word that kind of describes the cozy and charming feeling that you get in a special moment in time. Is that right?

 

Louise Rakers

Absolutely. There’s a saying if you don’t feel it, you’re not doing it right. It’s a word you can use and it actually translates into so many aspects of what we do. So it’s more than just a word.

 

Lauren Hodge

Yeah, I definitely can say that, after attending your plant based cooking workshops, that everything there with the candles, and the whole feeling is really based around that hygge. So while you were studying and learning about other cultures, and how they eat and how they nourish their ecosystem, both for their family and the environment. I’m curious to hear how all of this kind of transpired into you moving into doing the plant based cooking, and maybe just take us back to the beginning and tell us how you started to incorporate plant based cooking in your life. I would love to hear more about that.

 

Louise Rakers

Of course, and thank you so much for having me here. I am a big admirer of you Lauren, like all the stuff you’ve done so far. It’s always exciting to hear about your work and your travels as well, and I know that’s where we started connecting. Because I too, had been in Australia for some time and love that place more than anything. But yeah, back to the beginning. I mean, where do we really start right? We have to go all the way back to my young years in college where we partied a lot and ate a lot of steak and did all of the good stuff. You know, we as we were living like there was no tomorrow and boom, I hit 25 I’m done with college. And I started working in a very stressful job as a social worker and I walked into working in family consulting and getting deeper into very stressful and hard areas of that environment. As I navigate through that, at that point in my life, I know absolutely nothing about how to take care of yourself with yoga and meditation, or food.

 

So I started numbing all of that pain that I’m feeling were like all that stress I’m feeling with food with wine with maybe an extra party here and there and before I knew it, my body was just in a burnout state and I was 26 at the time and probably ready to retire my body, my mind my soul everything I was done. And I had gained a lot of weight and I felt miserable where I was at in my life at that time. And I actually go on a vacation where I run into my old friend Natasha who’s a holistic health coach and the thing about Danes were very direct you know, it’s like if you see someone and they gained weight since you saw them last they will look at you and say oh hello, you gained weight, huh?

 

Lauren Hodge

I did not realize that okay,

 

Louise Rakers

Yeah, and she didn’t exactly say like that, but she did have the look in her eyes and she was like, are you doing okay? And I was like, “yeah, what are you talking about? I’m fine. I have this amazing job and I have all the things I want and an amazing car, an amazing apartment.” I have like materialistically seen like, right I had everything. Except for the fact that I was deeply unhappy. So she probably spotted that on my face because she used to know Louise, the one that’s always bubbly and smiley and loves life and all of that. And she said, “Why don’t you move to Spain and live with me?” And that sounds a little bit crazy. So I went home, right? I was like this crazy person telling me to come live in Spain. Who does that? But apparently, about a month later, I did.

 

I sold everything I had, and I moved to Marbella, and Spain and I moved in with Natasha, which was the beginning of the plant based journey. Natasha from day one put me on a plant based diet, I couldn’t drink alcohol anymore, there was no more gluten, there was no more nothing. So I spent a long time really detoxing from stress and detoxing from the environment I had been in. And I was very shocked to see how long it actually took me to really detox fully from that. But that’s also then where my traveling starts, because I realized that I am full of parasites at that point. And I’m very, very, very ill. So Natasha takes me to Thailand, and we are doing a parasite detox retreat.

 

Lauren Hodge

Can I ask a question? How do you find out or know that you’re full of parasites?

 

Louise Rakers

So after doing about a month and a half of really intense detoxing, like just eating fruits, yoga, meditation, all of that I was still not getting better to the weight like it to the extent you you should be at that point. My stomach was still really bloated, and I felt this extreme fatigue and anxious and depression feeling and it would just wouldn’t leave my chest. And Natasha said that it could be a sign that this might be happening. Then we did a liver flush, we did all the things like basically cleaned out the system, we fasted, and I was just not getting better. And we took that phone call with the lady in Chiangmai, who runs the detox retreat. And she’s like, it sounds like you potentially could be a candidate for this retreat, and I went out there. And the thing is to learn, most of us have parasites, if we’ve ever had sushi, or had a steak that wasn’t cooked all the way through, we probably have them and they live in our gut system and create a lot of small or bigger problems.

 

And I think that everyone could benefit from a detox retreat for sure. But it was the beginning of mine, and whenever I went out there three days in, I started purging the parasites. And that’s when I told myself I’m never ever again in my entire life eating meat. And it’s just, I’m done with it. Like I’m not, it’s not worth it. And then on top of it, I started realizing that I felt so much more happy and light and my whole metabolism was working for me, for the first time in my life, I had struggled with my weight my entire life. And for the first time in my life, I felt like whatever I was doing, it wasn’t about a diet or weight loss or whatever it was just eating what I wanted to eat. And I felt so nourished, and so happy. So I wanted to learn. So that’s where the whole thing started. And that’s when I decided I’m going to become a chef, and I’m going to cook for other people and teach them what I now know.

 

Lauren Hodge

That’s incredible. I bet so many people can actually relate to that feeling of being burnt out and being in that state of your body being so fully depleted and fatigued and anxiety and all of those things. Because I guess the question is, is it the burnout that comes first, or is that the partying that leads to the burnout? But either way, usually if you’re at that habitual stage of burnout, there are a lot of things happening as far as what you’re eating and what you’re taking in, whether all or drugs or whatever.

 

Louise Rakers

Whatever works at that point, right? I was 25 years old, and the only thing I was focused on was, why am I still single? It’s all about the fact that I’m actually taking care of myself and nobody can go into a relationship when you’re in that state. I had to learn to take really good care of myself before I could let someone else come in, and supply me with all that love and the gift of a relationship is.

 

Kendra Till

Did you find too, for me personally, when I was on a very similar journey, and I found when I really stepped back and started really looking at the foods that I was eating and you realize that eating is such a mindful practice and even before that, how do you get your food. I know my husband and I really enjoy going to the local farmers markets and that end itself just creates this mindful practice of like, what am I buying? Where’s it coming from? And what am I putting in my body? So did you find a similar journey for yourself?

 

Louise Rakers

Slowly, but I also do believe that for me, that element comes in from being Danish. We’re so focused on sustainability and farm to table, it’s all about what can we get and what’s in season, what’s local. I would always pick up things from the neighbor if they had something growing in their backyard. If you look at Copenhagen right now, they’re aiming to be 100% self sustainable on green energy sources. They’re not relying on gas or anything like that. They want everything to come from Mother Earth. Then when I moved here, I was mortified in so many ways to see, there’s no sorting of trash, there’s nothing going on that really takes care of the environment and all the plastic wrapping at the supermarket. I mean the list is long, and I can keep naming things that I was really shocked by, but yes traveling taught me a lot about sustainability. But my upbringing, and really my childhood was probably more so my biggest lecture on sustainability and doing local things and close by stuff.

 

Kendra Till

So I’m curious. So in regards to eating a plant-based diet, in your opinion, why is it important, and who can really benefit from eating plant-based?

 

Louise Rakers

I think everyone can benefit from eating plant-based. So here in Charleston, I host cooking classes that aim to help everyone really to incorporate more plants into their daily lifestyles. And probably 90% of my clients are not plant-based. They just enjoy learning how to incorporate more plants into their daily lives. I always say don’t subtract add. So instead of trying to remove all the things that are a no-no, and you can’t do this, and it’s so strict it and I always say well start adding stuff, and then naturally, you’re going to start shedding some of the things that you already know that doesn’t make me feel great, and that’s really what we aim to do.

 

Lauren Hodge

What should we eat more of if we’re eating plant-based? What would you recommend people add in?

 

Louise Rakers

To be honest, one of the biggest fears in the US is fruit. I would recommend people start to integrate more fruit, fruit, fruit fruit, but eat it on an empty stomach, for example. Don’t start mixing it in salads or eating it with a big steak like it just doesn’t pair well. Now, I’m not a nutritionist, but living with Natasha for a full year, I definitely got my fair share of education from that beautiful woman. I do believe that fruits are like a major misunderstanding. We need it, and it’s not a bad thing. So if people could incorporate fruits more, that would be really good..

 

Lauren Hodge

So to clarify, you’re saying normally, you would recommend that people kind of add in new types of foods instead of taking out.

 

Louise Rakers

Yeah, nobody goes from a McDonald’s diet to plant-based overnight. It took me many years to learn how to cook for myself in a good way and like a plant-based way. So have some grace and just go slow with it. Practice makes perfect. I’m still learning, I still go study with other chefs, I still get out of my comfort zone and learn all the time. So, you know, one step at a time and try not to overcomplicate things. I think we talked a lot about this to Lauren in the class. It’s like you see all these amazing cookbooks, right? They’re vegan, plant-based, all of that and they look beautiful. You start looking at the ingredients, and you see a picture of ashwagandha. You see all these difficult ingredients, and you’re like, where am I going to find the king lion mushroom? It just over complicates things and people close that book and they never open it again and they think that’s just too much for me. That’s not what I do. I make recipes that’s easy to incorporate into a family that is busy. And I want that to be the keynote, right?

 

Lauren Hodge

Yeah, what are your top three tips if you had to give someone tips who wants to start eating plants based on what they would be?

 

Louise Rakers

Come to my cooking classes. I think a great thing is go through your pantry really quick and start reading the labels. See what you have in there that might contain something that you necessarily don’t love, like casein or whey or maybe it has like that sauce that nobody can pronounce Worcester sauce. It’s just like all those things where you might be consuming animal products without knowing it, you could start shedding those that would be easy because you might not even know it and there is a better alternative out there.

 

Also, I would start doing meatless Monday just to make it something that you can go and TikTok, you could write meatless Monday, there’ll be so many easy recipes that will just jump in your face. Then start there one day like you will be surprised how much that one day will do to you. Your digestive system is going to feel better and if we just look at the environment alone, one day, of a family not eating animal products at all. It’s 17 bathtubs of clean drinking water that’s saved just by that one family. I think that’s pretty impressive to think about what one day can do.

 

Lauren Hodge

Wow, that is incredible. I did not realize that statistic.

 

Kendra Till

I like that approach, though. Just starting out small, easy, digestible steps, no pun intended. But just getting those easy steps like you said, meatless Monday is a great way to get started. And it’s probably an easy way, especially as you mentioned, a busy family. You know, I’m sure there are a lot of parents out there that are just trying to just get through the days and the weeks. And so that’s just such a great approach.

 

Louise Rakers

I’m a mom now, too. I understand when you come home, and it’s already 5:30 like you don’t have two hours to study a recipe and then realize, oh, I don’t have three of the ingredients, and now I have to go grocery shopping, you need to learn how to cook with what you have. That is a lot of what I try to educate everyone about is like look in your fridge, what do you have, if you have zucchini and onion, and you have a few staples in your pantry, you should be able to make a solid dish out of that. So I want that part to be more normal, because that’s how I was brought up.

 

My dad was great about that. I don’t think he ever looked in the recipe book, he just basically looked in the fridge and then created stuff. That’s how I cook here at home. But I realized that doesn’t just come overnight. It’s something you have to be exposed to. But I do think we have the responsibility to like to do that for our family, but also do it for our kids. So they can take that with them when they have a family themselves.

 

Kendra Till

I really like that because not only are you producing less waste, you’re actually going through the items that are in your fridge and being more mindful about that approach. But also probably, it’s going to be more affordable too. Because you’re not spending as much money if you have a fridge full of really healthy food, utilize that instead of having to go out back to the grocery store and buy things that are not necessary.

 

Louise Rakers

I have a lot of clients that when I go to their houses and help them either set up pantries or I do a private chef service, I realize how many products they actually have. And they asked me, “What can I do with this particular vegetable?” because a lot of people in Charleston get that farm fresh box where it’s like a bunch of vegetables from local farms, and they’ll get like a beat and then I don’t know what to do. When I answer most questions about this, like people, clients ask me like, “Oh, what do I do with the eggplant, I have an eggplant and I don’t know what to do with an eggplant.” And then you know, my favorite thing is being able to chop it up in the crock pot, and then just dump this and then you have a stew within 30 minutes because they’re busy people and so am I and I need something fast. But I need to know that I’m eating and fueling myself and my family with food that is going to nourish us in the long run.

 

Lauren Hodge

I remember a conversation that we had. This might have been right when we met like a year ago about the importance of being really mindful when you go to the grocery store. You don’t need to go to Whole Foods, and spend your whole paycheck to get healthy food you can go to the farmers market or to Aldi or you know these different places, but to also be mindful when you go to those places of how much is in plastic because that’s one of the biggest contributors to the waste that’s in the landfills and that sort of thing, which I had only just thought about, maybe a month before a friend of mine is an environmentalist and she was telling me that it’s interesting. She was visiting here and Charlson she was saying it’s it’s interesting how well the campaign has gone, alerting people to the importance of using straws that are recyclable, to not use plastic straws, but that that actually doesn’t have an impact, it has such a small tiny slither of an impact on the actual environment that what would really matter. You are saying that you should use less plastic whenever you go to the grocery store, and I would just remember you telling me different strategies for using what you already have.

 

Louise Rakers

Right, and I think that using what you have at home is one thing. But now talking about the beginning of traveling, my time in Thailand, one of my favorite things was that everything was wrapped in banana leaves. And I saw recently when I went to Mexico, I went into a loom for a job down there, and I saw that a lot of places wrap things in the supermarket in banana leaves. That was great. But sometimes, to me, what’s so shocking is, it’s like a lot of the things that are wrapped in plastic are things that you have to peel anyways, it seems so unnecessary. I don’t understand it, but, but it is what it is, right. And I think as a consumer we have a responsibility to choose the right product. But I fear when I say that, for someone who’s not used to grocery shopping every day like me, for my business and my profession, that it would scare them.

 

Oh, now I can’t buy bell peppers anymore, because they’re always wrapped, or I will have to pay $4 for an individual bell pepper. And that’s not really what I’m saying. I’m just saying Be mindful of how you purchase your items. Think about maybe not picking every single item that has the plastic, if you see laying there, and you could just, you know, bring your own little bag or put them in there like the apples, put them in there loosely, you don’t have to take a plastic bag to put them in there. It’s not necessary,

 

Lauren Hodge

Right? I am actually used to that practice from living in Australia because that’s kind of how we always did things. I don’t remember us having little plastic bags to put fruit and stuff like that in the grocery stores. But I guess we went to the markets like the farmers markets are huge there. So that’s kind of just where you shop. And you just have your own take away bags, that you’re just getting all of your groceries in.

 

Louise Rakers

That’s what they do in Spain.

 

Lauren Hodge

So when I’m here, I think people, whenever they go grocery shopping with me, they’re like, “What are you doing, you’re not putting your things in plastic.” I just kind of lay them in the cart, because like you said, as if they have the peel on the outside or the shell on the outside, they don’t really require a bag but I fully relate to that. As far as for yourself, you’re a new mom, and you’re like planning meals for your family and that sort of thing. How has that shifted for you as far as mealtime prepping and any tips or things that you’ve been picking up along the way as far as managing all that?

 

Louise Rakers

Well, so I have to say, I’ve been shocked about how little time you actually have. I remember my friends telling me who said don’t have time to stand there and peel it, shred it and then just like, do all these other things and then cook for an hour. Like I need something fast. And I always thought “yeah, you just don’t want to.” But I realize it’s not because you don’t want it’s because you really really have your hands full.

 

Lauren Hodge

You literally have your hands full.

 

Louise Rakers

I will have Jack on one arm and be mixing with the other, then he wants to play with what I have in my hand and he’s falling into the pot. I plan more probably I would say, I definitely sit down every week, and I don’t necessarily write it down, but I at least think about what I could cook, and then I really think about cooking something that I can make a big batch of. So if it is a simple lasagna right? It’s a great way to use leftover vegetables from your fridge, you can just chop up anything in the lasagna and dump it in there. And then with some tomato sauce and you’re good to go right and you can just layer that up and it will always taste great. It literally never fails.

 

So but there I can make a massive batch and then I’ll freeze half of it and then that will feed us for like a few days right and my husband works from home I’m home a lot I’m home with Jack a lot during the day and he eat solids now to so it’s like we constantly just have food rolling. Then when I’m not thinking in terms of cooking in big batches that’ll last me for multiple days and be smart about that part. I really look to see what I have in my fridge and in my pantry and then once a week I do a haul to the market. I love that part because I love talking to the local farmers and I really enjoy what’s in season and I alternate a little bit between where I go but I am a big supporter of shopping as local as you can.

 

Lauren Hodge

What is your favorite market here in Charleston?

 

Louise Rakers

See, I do like the one that is downtown whenever, during the season when it’s there, it’s just more like the aesthetics of it. It’s so cute and all that, I feel like I’m back in the 1940s and 50s And I walk in with my little basket.

 

Lauren Hodge

There are a lot of options there, too. That’s like a bigger market, right?

 

Louise Rakers

I do like the bigger markets because I do think when you see something at a farmers market, and you know that’s not in season, it probably comes from somewhere else. They have collaborations too, and I’m not sure how it’s connected. But I just like to find things that are full of dirt and I can go home and scrub it and I also think I have the responsibility to my son to show him like “hey, vegetables grow in the in the ground and on trees as the fruits and stuff”, because I used to run cooking classes in Spain for children. That’s actually what I did when I came back from Thailand from my retreat. I started doing cooking classes that are plant based for children. I had this amazing boy in there, and he one day said to me, I know where the carrots come from. ” And I said, “Oh, really? Where did they find it?” “they grow in the supermarket!” yeah.

 

Yeah, well, not quite. I was like they have dirt on them when you pull them out. And he’s like, “I’ll never eat carrots again. That’s so gross.” So we planned a field trip out to a local farm where they all saw carrots come out of the ground, and they have dirt and you can actually eat them straight out of the ground. That’s what I did growing up. Education, education, education. I think every kid has a right to learn and understand where foods are coming from, and I think if we can get that part integrated a little bit more here in America over the pizza and burgers that they serve in schools here. That would be great. That’d be gold for me to be able to go to school and like helping with some education.

 

Lauren Hodge

That’s a great goal to kind of…if you’re wanting to do something like that, that’s a useful thing for the schools hereafter kind of growing up in South Carolina and going to all schools, public and private,. Just learning about healthy eating and where food comes from. I definitely didn’t pick up on a lot of that until I got to Australia.

 

Louise Rakers

Australia is just so clean.

 

Lauren Hodge

Yeah, I went to McDonald’s, and I was telling a friend of mine that I was gonna go to McDonald’s, and they were like, you eat that, that’s actually something you’re willing to put inside your body. I was 21, I had no idea.

 

Louise Rakers

It’s so normal in the US to eat fast food. Whenever I went to high school when I was 15 for a year, they told me St. Louis Right, and they sent me off to the cornfields about an hour outside of St. Louis. I was very excited about Big City Life and I got something very different. But that’s where I found my husband Kendra. I love that area for everything it stands for, but one thing that I noticed was there was such a fast food culture like it’s normalized. A healthy option is like a chicken burger over beef, right? Growing up McDonald’s was not in the question the same way, it was very different and expensive. I remember Happy Meal, it was like $20 my parents were like, “no way, how are we paying $20 for you having like a tiny little french fry and a burger and a toy? I’ll make that for you here at home.”

 

Kendra Till

Right.

 

Louise Rakers

Got to eat that way.

 

Kendra Till

I’ve noticed there are subtle changes. So, my husband, and I drove through the Midwest coming back for the holidays, and when we stopped at a gas station or a service station, I noticed that they actually have a section now where they serve carrots as an option or cut apples. And it was just nice to see that, especially at a gas station because normally it was all processed, and it was just nice to see those options. So I felt I was like, wow, this is a nice little change. It’s little, but at least it’s something’s happening.

 

Louise Rakers

Well, I do believe that the industry is headed that way. That’s also why I know for a fact that what I do for a living, it’s not going to… I’m not going to be out of a job. I won’t have enough years even to complete all the things I would love to do, but the industry is definitely growing and it’s going in that direction because we can’t keep doing what we’re doing. It’s just not sustainable. People are getting more and more sick, we’re seeing cancer like never before, and heart disease like never before.

 

I actually didn’t know that South Carolina was one of the leading states in heart disease, it has to change. People are going to start demanding it because it is a right that we have to have access to food that is healthy and not full of chemicals. I definitely believe that we should all stand up for that right and demand that we have options that are better for us.

 

Kendra Till

Absolutely, I concur. I think what you’re doing, Louise is just phenomenal, and education is key, as you mentioned. I think it’s great that you’re working with kids in particular as well, just educating them through your career. It’s just awesome. So it’s just so amazing what you’re doing. So keep it up.

 

Louise Rakers

Thank you so much.

Episode 013: MDMA-Assisted Therapy for PTSD

I am honored to introduce Shake it Off listeners to Dr. Raymond Turpin because this discussion builds awareness about a groundbreaking treatment (MDMA-Assisted Therapy) for treatment-resistant Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), a condition that traditionally some people live with for a lifetime and are not able to successfully treat.

Ray is the Clinical and Executive Director of Pearl Psychedelic Institute in Waynesville, North Carolina. He is a clinical psychologist and psychedelic therapist. The Pearl Psychedelic Institute is currently the only clinic providing MDMA-Assisted Therapy in the Southeast (USA). In this episode, Ray covers the latest research on the effectiveness of psychedelic therapy for treatment-resistant PTSD, depression, and other mental health conditions.

Kendra and I talked with Ray about how he started working in psychedelic therapy, how MDMA impacts the brain when it is used to treat PTSD, and what the protocol and experience are like if you were to access MDMA-Assisted therapy for PTSD.

You won’t want to miss out on this episode, Ray has decades of experience in trauma therapy and gives us a unique insider’s perspective on what is known about the effectiveness of this type of therapy. He also covers the incredible services they provide at Pearl Psychedlic Institute.

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Kendra Till

Welcome to shake it off a podcast that gives you the tools, strategies and stories to optimize and prioritize your physical and mental health. Welcome back to shake it off podcast today Lauren and I speak with Dr. Raymond Turpin, who is the clinical and executive director of pearl psychedelic Institute in Waynesville, North Carolina. Bremen is a clinical psychologist and psychedelic therapist, pro psychedelic Institute is one of the 10 clinics in the US that are approved to offer MDMA therapy for treatment-resistant PTSD through the Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies expanded access program. The Institute is a nonprofit that aims to provide psychedelic assisted therapy to mainstream practice through research, treatment and training, while reducing the barriers to patient access.

 

Lauren Hodge

We are really excited to have you Raymond on the podcast because the institute is currently one of the only providers of MDMA therapy in the southeast of the US, and we are both really fascinated with the research that’s coming out that shows the effectiveness of psychedelics on treatment resistant PTSD, depression and other mental health conditions. So thank you so much for joining us. Take us through how you started to work with MDMA therapy and your story and experience with it.

 

Dr. Raymond Turpin

My story was psychedelic started in the mid 80s, I was a sophomore at the University of Georgia, and I was an advertising major actually, and I’d kind of been convinced that what I needed to do was to try to use my creativity and make as much money as possible. That’s kind of what I thought I wanted to do. I had an initial experience after reading some Timothy Leary much to my parents consternation, I had my first psilocybin experience in October of ‘84, and basically what it did was, it was quite profound, and it more or less projected me into a future where I saw myself probably about my age now, at the top of my game in the advertising world, and felt this just profound kind of existential emptiness is the only thing I can explain, and there was almost a voice in my head going, what are you doing, you’re going to try to convince people to buy all this stuff, is that really what you want to do with your life. So that kind of woke me up, and I realized that this knowledge wasn’t in the mushrooms I’d taken, that this actually allowed me to access a part of myself that had either been socialized out.

 

So I became intensely interested in what happened to me and started to go to the UGA library back in the day when you actually had to go pull volumes off the shelf, and was just astounded at how much research had been already done, particularly with LSD, in the United States and Canada, and in England, in the 50s and 60s, and it was just also surprised at how all of this research, which even though there were lots of criticisms about it, it did end up producing some pretty amazing results. And very encouraging results, let’s just say certainly results that encourage further research. Then the idea that the government stepped in and just squashed all this research. And basically, it was forgotten. For a hobby, I would ask people that went to med school or grad school, “Hey, did you guys ever recover psychedelics in your training?” they’re like, “it got mentioned, but we never really talked about it.” So I started just researching all of the old research, I would go pull these journal articles off the shelves and make copies of them and keep them in a little file., and I was just collecting all this. So I made the decision back then around ’84/’85, that I wanted to switch my major to clinical psychology, and that I really wanted to spend my life trying to understand these compounds and how they could be used, not only for healing mental health issues but also for growth and personal development, because there was quite a bit of that going on in the 60s as well. So that’s kind of what got me going on it and then I just quietly told myself, I’m gonna try to get a good clinical psychology education, get licensed, and in the meantime, continue to do this research and to continue to educate myself about these things in the hopes that one day, I would potentially be able to legally use these compounds to help treat mental illness, which is hopefully we’re on the verge of maybe being legally able to do that now.

 

Lauren Hodge

Wow.

 

Kendra Till

And could you explain why MDMA therapy is important and also perhaps what mental health conditions MDMA effectively treats when used along with therapy?

 

Dr. Raymond Turpin

I’ve been a psychologist for a long time, been in mental health for a long time since the late 80s. About 15 years ago, it just struck me that almost everything I’d ever treated, the etiology of it goes back to some sort of poorly integrated traumatic experience, whether it was PTSD or depression or an anxiety disorder or in kids oppositional defiance, usually traced it back to some type of poorly integrated traumatic experience. So, I began to realize that if we’re going to really get anywhere with treating mental illness, that we’re going to lead to learn how to effectively treat trauma. And so that’s kind of where my focus began, was treating trauma and working on particularly complex trauma. I’ve worked with kids and teenagers and families for many years, and really just saw how intergenerational trauma just gets passed down and just affects generation after generation, and then fuels all these very different mental health and functional issues. So I figured we needed something that was going to effectively treat trauma number one, and there was actually MDMA which is a very old compound that was first discovered in 1914 when it was first synthesized by Merck Pharmaceuticals.

 

Then it kind of disappeared, the army played around with it a little bit, and in ‘53 when they were trying to do some looking into see if it could be used. They did some animal tests that were unremarkable, and so they moved on. So it was essentially a forgotten compound until 1976, when chemist Sasha Shogun resynthesized it in his lab, tested it on himself, and realized once he got the psychoactive effects that this could really be a nice tool for mental health. Brockman, one of his old friends who was a therapist on the verge of retirement, Leozef, and gave him MDMA, he realized, this could be great for therapy, and went out and spent the rest of his career training therapists how to use psychedelics safely, and also treating patients and all kinds of modalities: groups, individuals, couples. So for a window there between about 1977 and 1985, MDMA was legal, it wasn’t regulated, and so therapists were using it in their practice, but by the time the DEA stepped in and made it a schedule one, there were around 4000 therapists using it in their private practices and doctors using it as adjunct to their mental health practices. So we had a pretty sizable amount of knowledge about how this compound could be used. And it showed up even back then, that it was going to be an extraordinarily potentially effective treatment for trauma and PTSD. But they also saw that it can have incredible uses for any types of intergenerational problems like couples therapy, marriage counseling, things like that. They also were able to successfully treat some depression cases and anxiety, so it looked like it had lots of utility potentially. But definitely it looked like getting is going to be a potentially very effective substance to help people with their traumatic experiences and working through that.

 

The reason I think that MDMA therapy is so important is because that we have this body of knowledge from the late 70s, and early 80s, and then ever since the formal research got started again, with Charles Grob and his phase one FDA research with MDMA, it started to move into treating PTSD and they wanted to treat treatment-resistant PTSD, they wanted to have some of the toughest cases that was not responding to conventional treatments. So the phase two and phase three research, which phase three is just now concluding, which is the final phase of research before MDMA can be put before the FDA for potential approval. All of these treatments had been really targeting some of the most refractory difficult to treat PTSD cases that were out there. The results from phase two and three, which is where they were treating this PTSD what they showed was, when it’s used in the context of a specialized therapy protocol. It’s not just given the drug, but if you use it carefully in the context of a protocol, then what they found was that people that went through this protocol, in which they received three MDMA treatments roughly, what they found was after they were done with treatment, about 68% of these PTSD folks no longer qualified for a PTSD diagnosis, and about 88% of the participants felt like they had had at least some significant symptom remission, whereas some of those folks even said, “gosh, if I could get one more session, or one or two more sessions, it might do it” but because of the strict structure of the clinical research, they weren’t allowed to get any more. So it seems to be that we’ve got to find something that treats trauma, and I’m talking about intergenerational trauma, domestic violence, sexual and physical abuse for kids. We’re talking veterans come back traumatized with PTSD, and then their families have to cope and deal with it. So if we could find something to interrupt this transmission of trauma, then I think we could potentially be on the verge of a huge leap in psychiatry and psychology treatment for this. So that’s why I think it could possibly provide a key for helping us get in there and interrupt this transgenerational generational transmission of mental illness.

 

Lauren Hodge

Certainly. So you mentioned that like three sessions are required, is that three sessions with the MDMA? And are there more sessions required around that for the full therapeutic kind of package?

 

Dr. Raymond Turpin

Yes, generally we have 12 non-drug talk sessions that are about 90 minutes long. Generally, when the patient gets started in the protocol, they have basically three prep sessions that are about 90 minutes, where we just meet and get to know the patient. It’s about building rapport, building trust, getting familiar with the patient’s trauma history, and also familiarizing them with the effects of MDMA, what it’s going to probably feel like, how do you work with it when the MDMA brings up a difficult traumatic memory, how do you use your breath, how do you stay with and work with the memory, so there’s a lot of prep that goes into it. Then they have their first dosing session, which is generally six to eight hours long, there’s two therapists in there. We have two teams, a male and a female in each team, and we’re in there with the patient for six to eight hours for their dosing session. And then they have three more sessions of 90-minute non-drug, and these are called integration sessions, and this is where we’re trying to make sense of what came up in the MDMA session, and how did they take what they learned in that session, and maybe bring it into their everyday life and prepare for session two dosing session. So it’s three prep sessions, a dosing session, three integration preps, dosing session two, three more non-drug 90-minute integration prep sessions, and then you have your final third dosing session.

 

Then at the end, we have three more 90-minute integration sessions before the protocols end. So it’s really 12 sessions of 90-minute non-drug therapy, and then in the middle of that about a month apart are these six to eight hour MDMA assisted therapy sessions.

 

Lauren Hodge

So there’s a significant amount of work that goes into the process for both the person and the therapist. I was kind of thinking about this, noticing that you do work in integration, and there isn’t a lot of awareness and attention given to the need for the entire kind of therapy package, including the preparation and integration. I think a lot of people expect that you just take the medicine, you trip and you’re done. Like the trips, the only part when really, it’s a small part of the entire process, or the experience for long-term change. I wonder, for example, I think about how, during the psychedelic experience and for a period of time afterwards, you are in this incredibly expanded state, and if that is followed, oftentimes by it’s a contracted state, or maybe the environment isn’t supportive, or maybe your peers or your spouse, or your job is resistant to the change that you feel like you need to make, or the information that comes to you during that session.

 

Maybe even you’re experiencing extreme financial stress, but whatever it is, the environment isn’t set up to support that expanded state and for you to act on that expanded state, then you can see your potential and your future possibilities while in that expanded state, but you can’t actually make the changes or act on those changes that you need to make if the environment isn’t supportive. So if you don’t have all of this information that you’re providing around the importance of the process. So I just wonder how do you set up a client to have the most potential for change and to foster long-term results from the experience?

 

Dr. Raymond Turpin

It’s the integration piece, if just taking psychedelics made you wiser, kinder, more expanded, then our society would be a whole lot better off right now. So what we find is that just like you said, I look at psychedelics a lot of times, they’re like a disrupter. They go in and they break up patterns, they allow you to step outside of your normal way of seeing things. And like you said, you see possibilities, you’re able to see options, you’re able to see things with fresh eyes sometimes and in different ways. So what we’ve learned is that it is so important to spend the time following these experiences because these types of experiences are not very well accepted in our culture.

 

We don’t have any social blueprints out there for people that if you go out and have a powerful psychedelic experience, we already have things in our system in our society that are set up to help you integrate and make sense of it, those don’t really exist very much. We’re moving in that direction, but you’ve got to be able to take what you experienced, what you saw, what you felt, what you learned, things that you might have glimpsed, possibilities, and potentialities. Then the real work is after the session where you figure out how are you going to make sense of these things, and then how are you going to bring them into your everyday life in a way where they’re relevant and that they are supportive and encouraging of the changes that you want to make. And to me, that’s the real work. One of the issues I have with ketamine clinics popping up all over the place is that you have some that do a really good job that recognizes what’s going on and that you have an opportunity to make some real changes, and they put the time in for the prep.

 

There’s someone in there supporting the patient during the ketamine and then you have the integration work afterward. But there’s a lot of them that are just you just come in, you get hooked up to the ketamine and then you’re kicked out the door after a while and there’s no follow-up, there’s no support during the session. These are the ones that I feel like they’re just relying on the ketamine to do the work, and the first thing I tell the patient that’s coming in that’s interested in doing our ketamine-assisted therapy program is don’t expect the ketamine to do the work for you. You’ve got to work with the ketamine between sessions if you’re going to make this work. So the integration is I think the thing that we probably learned all through the 60s where we had a lot of people experimenting, they weren’t very well prepared, they weren’t using it in situations that were very conducive to the psychedelic experience, and then like I said, because there was no social or societal or cultural blueprint for how to make sense of these experiences, people were just often left to their own devices to try to figure out what was that? Was it just some weird thing where I left a lot of music sounded good, or were there things that I learned that I need to carry forth into my life. And so I think that’s probably the biggest difference between psychedelic-assisted therapy and research these days than what was going on in the 50s and 60s is that we have recognized that if we don’t take that time to really work with the integration process, and to help these people bring these insights into their everyday life, then we’re not maximizing the potential of these medicines.

 

Lauren Hodge

Yeah, certainly 100%. I’m just curious about a couple of things there that I’m thinking about, how long does that MDMA trip experience last for a client? Thinking back to what the model looks like and what it feels like for a client whenever they’re going through that. I don’t know if you can talk us through what that would look like, especially for someone when they’re trying to identify whether this is working or those types of things.

 

Dr. Raymond Turpin

Well, for expanded access, and the protocol that was used for the phase two and the phase three MDMA-assisted therapy protocols, what happened was after all the preparation work, basically, the patient would come in usually in the morning, and they would be given their initial dose of MDMA, which typically was somewhere between 80 and 120 milligrams. Then what happened was about an hour and a half after that first ingestion, maybe two hours later, then they’re offered a booster dose, which is typically half of what the initial dose was. So let’s say someone got 100 milligrams at 10 o’clock in the morning, then around 1130 to 12, they’re gonna get a 50-milligram boost, they’re asked if they want it, they have the right to refuse it, but most people take the booster dose. The idea is not that this booster dose is going to make the person higher, but what happens is that when MDMA is fully active in the brain, several things are happening, which I can go into later if you guys are interested, but for the sake of brevity for this answer. What happens was MDMA tends to put the brain and the patient in what is considered to be an optimal window of tolerance, meaning that as their trauma material is coming up, certain things are happening in the brain to where they’re able to sit with those memories, and they’re able to do the processing that they need to do.

 

One of the problems conventional PTSD treatment has is that when people start to encounter their PTSD or their trauma memories, very oftentimes they go into fight or flight or freeze mode, and they can’t engage with the therapy and sometimes they flee therapy and they never go back. But MDMA does some things in the brain that allows the person to be able to tolerate these memories and there are other things going on that really are encouraging the processing of this material like it should have been at the time of the trauma if you weren’t in survival mode. So what happens is by taking that booster dose, it keeps that top of that optimal window of tolerance open longer, so that the person can stay in this optimal therapeutic space and do the most possible work. So I would say probably when you take that first dose of MDMA, most people are going to feel the effects within about 20 to 60 minutes, and then the booster dose will, like I said, leave that window open longer. And I would say, typically, people feel those effects for anywhere from five to eight hours, six to eight hours is what we expect to use when we have a patient in there for one of their dosing sessions. After six to eight hours, I would say most of the real processing is over at that point, people are tired, and people are ready to just kind of get some rest and take a break. So it’s still a long day for the therapist, you can’t sit there and check your emails or on your phones or any of that you got to be fully present, providing the safety in this container, and to be really ready to provide support should it be necessary if the patient’s having a hard time or asking for support.

 

Lauren Hodge

That is incredible. I actually have PTSD, I was diagnosed with PTSD when I was 19, and I experienced those symptoms all the way up until I was in my early 30s. I actually first tried ketamine therapy at a clinic, and they didn’t, as you mentioned, have the appropriate integration therapy, they didn’t have any, there was no integration. It was also about where I was at in life, at that time, I was actually living in Australia, but I went to a clinic here in the US, and I needed to get back to Australia for work, and I wasn’t able to do the follow-up and all of that. So therefore, the effects lasted for about three weeks, and then things went back to how they were before with my PTSD symptoms and being triggered and sleepless and all of that.

 

And then I had psilocybin, I went to the synthesis Institute in the Netherlands, and I took a sabbatical and moved to Berlin, so I did a weekend retreat, but they did all the preparation online beforehand, and the integration afterward, and that was the first time that I really experienced those healing effects. Now, I didn’t go through the process of processing it with somebody, there was no talk therapy involved in that, it was a group setting. But the symptoms that I was experiencing, and the ruminating thoughts, and all of that completely dissipated. So I can definitely relate to what you’re saying around like how that works in a way. But it sounds like MDMA might work a bit differently than psilocybin. I actually have no idea. Does it impact the default network like psilocybin, or what happens there?

 

Dr. Raymond Turpin

No, it’s different. And one of the things about psychedelic-assisted therapy, which is such a paradigm-changing idea is that psychedelic-assisted therapy practitioners believe that we all carry the wisdom that we need to heal ourselves, there’s this thing we call the inner healing intelligence, but when you think about things like homeostasis, the idea that the body is wired to kind of have this optimal temperature, heart rate, respiratory respiration rate, the idea that the brain would be wired for psychological balance, to me isn’t all that much of a stretch.

 

And if we could just get our egos and get ourselves out of the way the brain knows how to balance ourselves and rebalance. I think that’s what it’s trying to do at night when we’re dreaming, for example. So when we’re doing psychedelic-assisted therapy, there’s very often not that much of a need for a therapist to be an active guide, and to be in there manipulating the session, you just basically stand back and you provide the support, the containment, the sense of safety, and you let the person work with the compound internally and let them do their own healing and the healing can look a million different ways. So that’s one of the big differences between psychedelic-assisted therapy and some of the old medicines that we’ve used in psychiatry.

 

Lauren Hodge

Thanks for clarifying that because I didn’t actually know whether or not MDMA therapy included talk therapy or not, but my experience has been with the other types of psychedelic therapy that there wasn’t. So, that’s good to know.

 

Dr. Raymond Turpin

I would say with MDMA, there seems to be a little more talking than you see with psilocybin like with psilocybin so these people just really kind of go in for hours and very little interaction. MDMA, you’ll see people will sit up and take off their headphones and eye shades and they’ll want to start talking about what just happened and what they just experienced. So that’s also part of the healing process, putting words to your experience. So there is a good bit of interaction between therapists and patients, usually during MDMA-assisted therapy, but it’s not directed by the therapist, we’re just there. But oftentimes, people want to get up and talk about their experience, and so that’s one of the things we do is we’re there to listen and talk about their experiences. But when you’re treating trauma with psilocybin, psilocybin is what they call one of the classic psychedelics like LSD, mescaline, DMT, and they all work very similarly in the brain. And one of those mechanisms that makes it so effective for things like depression, PTSD, basically, most of the things that they treat, is they do take that default mode network, and it basically shuts down, which allows all these other areas of the brain that don’t normally communicate, to come online and that’s why you see things in novel ways.

 

That’s why you see, do you have different ideas and see things with fresh eyes, it’s like your brains coming online, and this default mode network, that was the seed of so much rumination and depression, and that all just kind of goes away for a while and allows you to see things as they are a little bit differently than you’ve been accustomed to. MDMA is different, basically what happens is with PTSD, when your five senses are absorbing information, and you’re not stressed, and you’re not being threatened in any way. Basically, the information processing system is where it comes into the thalamus, which is this egg-shaped structure in the middle of the brain. It’s like the cook in the kitchen organizing information, it checks to see if there’s any danger in the environment, that’s the amygdala, the smoke alarms that fire when there’s danger that starts the fight or flight or freeze reaction. And then basically, if there’s no danger, the information goes up to this part of the brain called the prefrontal cortex, where it checks to see where we have encountered something like this before it checks your past experiences, language is assigned to it. But the memory is organized as to what is happening to you, and where have we experienced something like this before, and then it goes back down to the thalamus and the hippocampus, and then eventually, it gets stored up in a long term, like a long term memory. But with PTSD and trauma, what happens is this information is coming from the five senses to the thalamus, but then there’s some threat in the environment that it’s picking up, probably maybe life-threatening. And so what happens is once that threat is picked up, the amygdala fire, and then the brain switches into a very primitive mode of processing because you’re going into survival mode, you’re in fight or flight. And so what happens is that the whole prefrontal cortex part of the brain just goes offline. And so there’s no language getting assigned to your experience, there is no context, there are no reference points for what is happening to you.

 

So all this experience, this traumatic experience that’s happening to you gets basically jammed into the wrong area of the brain and a very fractured, highly emotionally charged bits of information. And because it’s improperly stored, this is what causes a lot of the problems with PTSD, the intrusive memories and nightmares, the flashbacks. It’s basically all this fragmented, highly charged information that is improperly stored in the brain, and that’s what makes PTSD so difficult to treat. I had a Vietnam vet at one of our movie nights a while back, he had PTSD for over 40 years, and he was still suffering. He said for the first 20 years, he was just so angry, and for the last 20 years, he’s just really sad. So what MDMA does, which is why in my book, I think psilocybin is a very effective treatment for many things. I think MDMA is so well true to treat suited to treat PTSD because what happens is, as the MDMA becomes active in the brain, what happens is that amygdala, the fight or flight structures, they go down 95%, they get shut down, so that fight or flight or freeze reaction is almost turned off.

 

The other thing that happens is it hyper-activates the prefrontal cortex, which is the area of the brain where you need to do that higher-order thinking that processing where language is assigned. And so what happens is in MDMA therapy, when the MDMA becomes active in the brain when the amygdala goes down, and the fight or flight is shut off, it allows trauma memories to rise up and to come into consciousness because typically, we’re always fighting to keep those out of consciousness. So when the amygdala goes down, the trauma memories can come back up, and people can live them and go back through them without the fight or flight or the freeze kicking in. The other thing that happens is that these memories are allowed to go up to the prefrontal cortex where they’re sorted in a given context and language and a narrative is established about what happened to the person.

 

It’s exactly what should have happened at the time of the trauma if they weren’t so freaked out about dying or getting hurt. And so what it does as it goes on, it finally processes these memories like they should have been processed and then they end up going up and eventually being stored up in the frontal lobes like a normal memory. It doesn’t create any amnesia, you don’t forget, it’s still a terrible thing that happened to you. But because this information has now been put together in a cohesive narrative, and stored in the part of the brain where it always should have been, it’s no longer interrupted. It’s no longer intruding on consciousness, it doesn’t have the power to disrupt people’s lives as it once did. So that’s why MDMA is so well suited for treating PTSD.

 

Lauren Hodge

Interesting. Are people eligible for this expanded access program? Do you have to meet certain eligibility criteria?

 

Dr. Raymond Turpin

Yes, I’m not allowed to discuss them in detail, but there are a large number of exclusion and inclusion criteria that the FDA and maps had to agree upon in order for the FDA to approve expanded access. They’re pretty extensive, and to be honest, we have been recruiting for our first MDMA patient, we’ve been recruiting to recruit since about March, and we’re just now I think about to get our first guy because we’ve had so many screen fails for various reasons, some of them because of the criteria, others have been for other reasons. But basically, in order to qualify, you need to have what’s considered treatment-resistant PTSD. I will say the definition of treatment-resistant is pretty lax, basically, you just need to demonstrate that you’ve had some attempts at either therapy and or medications.

 

There are medical issues that we need to get screened out for. One of the things we do know is that with MDMA it does increase blood pressure, and it does increase heart rate. So if people have cardiovascular issues, strokes, and things like that, they’ll get screened failed. Then they also because, we’re trying to find that pool of treatment-resistant PTSD folks, we also are trying to screen out folks that have bipolar, anybody that has any kind of psychotic disorder screened out. So there are actually a lot of criteria in order for somebody to make it all the way through the screening process. But right now, I would say if anybody out there has PTSD that they’ve been trying to get help for, and it hasn’t been effective, I would encourage him to at least possibly holler at us and give us their information so that we can have them in our database. And we can at least maybe hook them up when the time’s right, because hopefully there’s going to be clinics all over maybe in a few years, and then we’d like to be able to help these people find treatment.

 

Lauren Hodge

Great. Where did they find you?

 

Dr. Raymond Turpin

Yeah, if you go to our website, it’s pearlpsychedelicinstitute.org, And if you go to our website, there’s the page for how to get considered for the study for the program.

 

Kendra Till

Now I’m curious Raymond, so what’s next for the institute then? In terms of where you’re at with the research, etc, where are you guys at? What do you see for the future?

 

Dr. Raymond Turpin

Well, right now, we are focused on getting the MDMA-assisted therapy going, we have an exciting project going with Duke University, they have a center for Psychedelic Studies that they opened up. And so MAPS has approved where they’re going to come in and work with us, and they’re going to take a look and work it with our MDMA patients. And what they want to do is they want to take EEG readings of our patients’ brains before treatment, and then in the middle of treatment, maybe after one or two MDMA sessions, and then they want to do another EEG reading at the end of treatment. So this is going to be fascinating, because by looking at the EEG before treatment, there may be the possibility of delineating what subtypes of PTSD people are coming with. And then we can also take a look at it in the middle, in between treatments, and then at the end so that they can see, what happens when people get their PTSD is essentially well treated. What changes in the brain? What kind of things do we see differently in the EEGS? And are there particular types of PTSD that don’t respond to MDMA? And which kind can possibly do?

 

There’s a dissociative subtype of PTSD, which is historically very, very difficult to treat, because when people start to get up close to that traumatic material, they dissociate, they go away, and it’s not something they choose to do. It’s an automatic primitive defense system that they’ve used for years. And it makes it very difficult to treat these people with conventional methods. And so there was some question about whether these folks would respond as well as non-dissociative PTSD folks to MDMA. And there was a study that was published out of phase three, it was published in May of 2021, I believe, and they looked at, I think, 90 patients, and around 30% of those patients that had a positive response to the MDMA-assisted therapy had the dissociative subtype. So it does seem to work with the dissociative subtype as well. So we’ve got this exciting project going with Duke that we’re looking forward to partnering with. And we really want to kind of partner with them and help them, they really want to do a lot of research, and they really want to find some community places out there around North Carolina that could actually help them conduct the research. So we’re hoping to have a nice fruitful relationship with the folks at Duke. So we’re going to focus on the expanded access. We are ramping up our ketamine-assisted psychotherapy program here in Waynesville, we’ve been doing it for a few years, so we feel like we kind of know what we’re doing.

 

So now we want to bring it to parole because one of the drawbacks of ketamine-assisted therapy is it’s quite expensive usually. So we’re looking at some group models and with our nonprofit, we’re going to look at some funding models and ways to really try to open up access for people so that they can come to get this treatment if they want to try it. So we’re going to focus on the ketamine-assisted therapy program, and we also are rolling out in January, our psychedelic integration services, and these can be online. People can come to Waynesville and see me or we can meet online. But these are for people that have had psychedelic experiences, also other deep experiences, maybe of the unconscious that they don’t understand. But the idea is if you’ve had a psychedelic experience, and you got in contact with some information, or you’re having trouble understanding what it meant, psychedelic integration is about helping folks make sense of those experiences. And what do those images mean? How do you bring them into your life? How do you incorporate them so that they’re relevant? And how do you maybe use them for growth? So that’s something we want to do, and probably preparation. We don’t want to look like we’re encouraging people, but we know people are out there. As this is starting to grow, people are wanting to experiment, and so we do want to also make it so that if there is somebody out there thinking about experimenting, we would love to be able to at least show them how to use it safely and responsibly so that they can hopefully have a good experience, and just more than anything, do it in a safe way.

 

Lauren Hodge

All right, certainly. Well, I think in North Carolina, and in the southeast, we’re really lucky that your institute is there. And for anybody that is curious, if you meet the inclusion criteria, please go on to the Pearl Institute Psychedelic Institute website, we’re going to put those links in our show notes so that you can find the information that you need in order to attempt to apply for that.

Episode 012: Debunking Pelvic Floor Myths

In Shake It Off Episode 12 Lauren and Kendra speak with special guest Jen Martin.

Jen is a certified cancer rehabilitation phyisotherapist with the PINC & Steel international program, and the owner of a boutique physiotherapy and wellness clinic in Tugun on the Gold Coast, Australia. Her and her team are passionate about helping clients build strength and improve mobility through personalized programs.

During this episode, Lauren, Kendra, and Jen talk about the misinformation of pelvic floor health and just how important the pelvic floor is to your overall health and tips for a healthy pelvic floor.

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We created this podcast to give you the tools, strategies, and stories to handle the unexpected BS that life throws your way. We plant ourselves firmly at the gates of truth-telling and we discuss how to optimize and prioritize your physical and mental health.

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Kendra Till

Welcome to shake it off a podcast that gives you the tools, strategies, and stories to optimize and prioritize your physical and mental health.

 

Lauren Hodge

Welcome back to the Shake It Off podcast today. Kendra and I are speaking with Jen Martin about the common pelvic floor myths that are out there. Jen, thank you so much for joining us. We’re really excited to talk to you about the pelvic floor today. I feel like this is a topic that is really relevant at this age for so many people. Gravity takes its toll as you get older, and there are problems that come from that, especially related to having to urinate all the time or in different scenarios. Thank you so much for coming on today.

 

Kendra Till

Thanks so much, Jen. And you’re right, Lauren, pelvic health just isn’t something that people think of when they’re going through their health checklist. But obviously, pelvic floor muscles are essential for overall health to keep your bladder regulated and bowel function and sexual function. But it does seem like there’s a lot of misinformation out there regarding pelvic floor health . Essentially just want to talk about the ones that we experience and also the ones that our friends experience that we’ve talked about at the dinner table.

 

Jen, just to give our listeners a little bit of an overview of you. You’re a certified Cancer Rehabilitation physiotherapist with the Pink and Steel International Program, and you have an absolute wealth of experience prescribing strength and conditioning programs, and having worked in the fitness industry for over 20 years. I personally have had the pleasure of working with Jen for a number of years, and I’m just so thankful for everything that you’ve taught me along the journey and just the things that I’ve learned from you and your expertise. Jen also has a boutique physiotherapy and wellness clinic in Sheboygan on the Gold Coast in Australia, and she and her team are really passionate about helping clients build their strength and essentially improve their mobility through personalized programs. So Jen, thanks again for being here, we’re just so excited for you to share your knowledge and expertise in this area. So we’re going to kick off their first question, and ask are pelvic floor issues only for women?

 

Jen Martin

Thank you Kendra and Lauren for having me on your podcast. No, everybody has a pelvic floor, males and females like any other muscle group that we have in our body. But just to give you a bit of background, your pelvic floor muscles are a group of muscles that form a small sling or a hammock from your pubic bone in the front to your tailbone at the back. And their role is to hold in or support the organs of your pelvis which is like your bladder, your bow your uterus or in males, the circumstances of the prostate to empty waste, such as feces and urine, and to maintain your core strength, and that sort of protects your spine and keeps your abdominals strong. And the muscles, the nerves that innervate your abdominal muscles also innovate your pelvic floor.

 

So in males, males can have issues with their pelvic floor, it’s generally as they get a little bit older, and they will start to develop an enlargement of the prostate, not all men, but generally, most men will develop an enlargement of their prostate, or some men will develop prostate cancer, and that will require certain treatments such as having their prostate removed or radiation for any cancer cells outside of that to capture any of those cancer cells. But it’s really important for males to know what is normal for them. Males generally feel… not self-conscious, but they generally don’t talk about their penises too much.

 

So it’s really important for males to know what is normal for them. So if they notice a change in their penal functions, such as even having a bending or a deformity in their penis, incontinence, which means like you’re leaking a little bit of urine, after you finish this will be dribble at the end, or any other erectile dysfunction can be a sign of pelvic floor dysfunction which requires some intervention. But most importantly, I think what’s lost on most males is that your erectile dysfunction is actually related to your heart and your cardiovascular system. There’s a saying that Craig Ellingham, who is a physio in Australia, male pelvic health physio in Australia has said multiple times that your hard health is related to your heart health. To be able to get an erection, you’re basically increasing the blood flow to your penis. So if you’re noticing any changes, even just the shape of how their penis is when it’s erect can be an indication of something going on with their heart as well. There is a window of opportunity for you to address those cardiovascular issues before they will ultimately become an issue and may cause heart disease or a heart attack or any of those sorts of things. For most males, that’s probably easier to get their heads around. It’s a heart thing, not their penis thing.

 

Kendra Till

Yeah.

 

Jen Martin

Tell them to seek advice and help. So if you have noticed that your husband or your partner is having issues with their pelvic floor, you really need to encourage them to get a heart or a cardiovascular check as soon as possible, because most of these issues can be treated, and can be resolved if they’re caught within that three year period. So there’s that good window to act and fix things.

 

Kendra Till

Yeah, and improve the quality of life.

 

Jen Martin

Yeah, absolutely. But they’re often quite embarrassed to talk about those sorts of things. Often, the first person that will know about those issues is their partner.

 

Kendra Till

Hmm, yeah, and like you said, that’s probably much easier for them to digest if it is something with their hearts versus directly with their penis.

 

Jen Martin

Exactly, and if you think about some of the medications that that men use, like Viagra, Viagra is a vasodilator, which is to increase the blood flow to your penis, which has a systemic effect on your body and increases your blood flow to all of your organs and all tissues. That’s why you can sort of see it’s interrelated. There is an interrelation, but it’s often lost on people. So yeah, it’s not something to be embarrassed about. It’s something you can fix, if you can switch it around to your partner and go, “Oh, maybe it’s something with your heart.”, they’re more likely to go and fix that and talk to someone about that.

 

Lauren Hodge

When you strengthen your pelvic floor in order to fix these things, like the strengthening pelvic floor supports this process, and can you strengthen it even?

 

Jen Martin

Absolutely, we often see patients that have been diagnosed with prostate cancer, that will have their urologist come and refer to us to strengthen the male pelvic floor before they have radiation or have a prostatectomy, and then again afterward, so at least they’ve got their background before they start, there’s a lot of information that comes and goes once they’ve had their surgeries and their treatment. So if we can teach them how to engage the pelvic floor before they’ve started, they’re sort of ahead of the game, basically.

 

Lauren Hodge

So is it possible to strengthen your pelvic floor? Is that a thing that we can do in men and women?

 

Jen Martin

Men and women, one of the little sayings I use for men is to engage your pelvic floor, you want to imagine you’re going into cold water, and you want to draw your testicles out. And most men know what that means. Straightaway, they just go “Oh!”, something that they know how to do.

 

Lauren Hodge

And what about some women? Because I can imagine that.

 

Jen Martin

Kendra would know one of the things that I often say is to imagine you are sucking a thick shake through your vagina. So it’s a lifting motion to contract, it’s not a bearing down motion, whereas I find most women especially athletic women, think of flexing their abs as bearing down and pushing and making some been hard, but it’s more of lifting and elevating and supporting your pelvis, all the organs focus, which is different when women are doing heavy things like heavy weights, CrossFit, jumping, running, and holding their breath and bearing down to contract their abdominal cavity, but that actually puts pressure on your pelvic floor basically pushes your insides out. We want to keep everything up and in.

 

Lauren Hodge

So can that cause… if it’s pushing everything out that’s in if you do it the improper way. Can that cause… What is the word that I’m thinking of?

 

Jen Martin

Prolapse?

 

Lauren Hodge

Yeah, yes.

 

Kendra Till

Incontinence

 

Lauren Hodge

Yes!

 

Jen Martin

It can cause all of the above, yes. If you think of your abdominal cavity, like your mouth, if you blow air into your mouth, and you close your mouth, your cheeks will fill up and they’ll become hard. But they’re hard because you pushed air into them, they’re not hard because you’ve contracted the muscle, you’re actually stretching that muscle. When you want to engage a pelvic floor, it’s like you want to suck up any like you want to suck a big shake up and in your actual cheek muscles should draw inwards and upwards. And that draws it back into your mouth, and in that same analogy, will draw your pelvic organs up and away from being pressed out. But most people think of bearing down and holding their breath and going up, and then feel hard on the outside, so they think that it’s actually hard, but it’s more that you’ve just pushed air into that cavity, it’s because there’s air in there.

 

Kendra Till

That makes sense. So if you do experience urinary leakage, for example, that is definitely a pelvic floor issue, is that correct?

 

Jen Martin

Generally, there are a certain number of cases where there can be a spinal cord issue or a nerve issue. But for most women, especially since they’ve had babies, most women over 35, generally as we age, will start to notice little issues, and generally nine times out of 10, it’s a pelvic floor issue.

 

Kendra Till

So with age is that generally with the strength of the muscles then essentially? They’re just losing that strength..?

 

Jen Martin

Think of your muscles like your skin, so you have collagen in your tissues, or your muscles and your skin. And the reason you have wrinkles is that you lose that collagen. So your ability for that tissue to contract or reform its shape is lessened over time. When you go through menopause, that really causes a reduction in your estrogen levels. That in itself reduces the amount of collagen you can produce, and that’s why you’ll see those general signs of aging all over your body. Women that have gone through, say breast cancer treatment and have had to minimize their estrogen levels to prevent cancer from coming back, will generally go through early menopause, and so they will experience that earlier. Everyone’s hormones are different, people have a lot of different things going on, and they’re things that you can’t generally control so much.

 

Kendra Till

Essentially, if you are experiencing that it probably is worth it to go and see a specialist or someone in your position that can assist with that.

 

Jen Martin

Absolutely, yes, yes, it is. So generally women that have had two or more babies have a 70% chance of developing some sort of urinary incontinence. But there are certain risk factors that will increase that not happening for you, where developing urinary incontinence and that is your age or the onset of menopause, the type of childbirth the delivery method that you have, so if you have a vaginal birth or have forceps during that vaginal birth, that increases your chance of having incontinence or prolapse and so does having previous pelvic surgery or ceases. So essentially they are cutting through your abdominal wall, and that is also cutting through the muscle and the nerve. So sometimes lots of times when you’ve had pelvic surgery, often women will say I can’t feel those muscles when I’m trying to activate them. I can’t feel them. But it’s often because those nerves have been cut, the muscles have been cut, and that neuromuscular connection needs to regenerate and come back for you to actually feel it.

 

So it’s not anything in your brain that’s wrong. It’s just that that actual physical connection is no longer there. It will come back, but it does take time and it will take about two years for your nerves to regenerate and reform into another path. But there is that period where you don’t feel like you can feel anything, but you do need to encourage blood flow to the area and try to do those exercises. So you’ve got that neural connection that your brain is telling you the nerve to innovate that muscle, and you have to keep trying to send the signal to stimulate that response. So even if you can’t feel it, yes, it will come, you’ve just got to be persistent. And sometimes it’s just the way someone explains it to you. Someone could just say, breathe out, lots of different things connect with different people. So sometimes it’s just the way that movement is explained to you that creates the connection for you to have that light bulb moment.

 

Lauren Hodge

Wow, I did not realize that. So you’re saying if you’ve had children, and you’re in that two-year period of time, where your neural connections are still kind of reforming, they should still try to do those exercises that you mentioned, because eventually that will switch back on, and you want to continue to encourage the blood flow to the areas to still try to do that.

 

Jen Martin

Absolutely, and your body around that time is in a really important and receptive growth phase. Like you’ve just made a baby, and you’re making milk and there’s a lot of things going on in your body, but you can’t really see, but it’s actually quite receptive if you just train it the right way. The worst you can do is say, oh, it’s all over, I’ve just got to accept it.

 

Lauren Hodge

I even know, as far as neuro-kind of plasticity goes, the time after having a child for men and women after you become a parent, is one of your biggest times for high volumes of neuroplasticity. So that’s many different parts of your brain. But then, as you’re saying, you can retrain your brain to embody it in the beginning.

 

Jen Martin

Your body will always find a way, you just made a baby. People just discount what’s just happened, but it takes about two years for your body to get over each birth and pregnancy. And generally, most people are wanting to have another baby by that time, and they’re generally pregnant within that two-year timeframe. So their bodies just got over that process, and then they’re pregnant again. And then there’s pressure on their pelvic floor again. So it’s essentially your uterus is going to be 40 times its size by the time you get to 40 weeks to get to full term.

 

So you’ve been carrying that around, it’s been stretched and it’s been loaded all of that time. And then you’ll often see people that look like they’ve just bounced back. But I’d say there’s an awful lot of photoshopping there. For most people, your body has a lot of skin, and all of your organs have to move back into another position. Everything’s been pushed out to the side and everything has to resolve and come back.

 

Kendra Till

Interesting.

 

Lauren Hodge

So if I do kegels, will I stop peeing a little bit whenever I laugh or jump on a trampoline? Is that true?

 

Jen Martin

Yes it’s true!

 

Lauren Hodge

Are kegels the thing that you described as if sipping a milkshake with your vagina, is that a kegel exercise?

 

Jen Martin

Yes, yes it is. So you’re learning to be able to close off that orifice and then lift the muscles up to keep them supported in your pelvis. Kegels are a great way to increase your pelvic floor strength but think of it like any other muscle, you want to train it. So first, you’ve got to learn to get your base fitness, which is your endurance. So you’ve got to learn to hold it for a certain amount of time. So most people struggle to even get the connection at first, then once you do, you might be able to hold for between five or 10 seconds for each contraction.

 

But ultimately, you want to be able to do that and hold it for at least two minutes, when you can hold it for two minutes, that’s a functional level where you can not have to think about it anymore. It just happens naturally. But then when you’re adding load to that to say when you go back to exercising when you’re squatting, you’re sort of moving into a position where you’re stretching your pelvic floor muscles, essentially putting a load on them, especially if you hold your breath. They’ve got to learn to then take that a step further and increase your strength and your power and your pelvic floor to keep it up under load. So it’s like a base level that you start with but it’s like any other muscle you want to train it to sustain the loads that you’re placing on it.

 

Lauren Hodge

So would the highest load be doing a squat?

 

Jen Martin

Squat with heavy weights and then jumping or jarring movements and with weight. But most importantly, if you’re holding your breath when you lift something heavy that helps you to feel stronger because it braces or splints your abs, but that splinting pushes against your pelvic floor, and if it’s overly stretched still and weak, the pressure has to go somewhere. And it finds the path of least resistance, and that’s when you’ll find you get the issues like incontinence or prolapse, which is where your insides are coming out.

 

Lauren Hodge

Okay, I didn’t know what it meant when it’s coming out.

 

Kendra Till

There are a lot of women that experience that. I know a handful of people that have experienced prolapse at different ages.

 

Jen Martin

It’s very common. I’d say 60 to 70% of women have experienced it, maybe more even. A lot of people just don’t really get those things checked, they just think that’s what it’s gonna be like, forever.

 

Kendra Till

But again, going back to the quality of life, it’s so important to talk to a specialist about it, because it is something that can be fixed, and so that you can improve and not have those issues.

 

Jen Martin

There are a few things that you can address yourself. So obesity is a big issue, obesity increases the weight on your pelvic floor. And that tends to lead to chronic long-term stretching of your pelvic floor. Smoking generally leads to coughing and prolonged coughing is a frequent burst of pushing against your pelvic floor. Having COVID, and if you’re coughing or a condition where you cough a lot increases the pressure on your pelvic floor.

 

But mostly for new moms especially, it’s when they’re lifting their baby, which they have to do all of the time, their baby is dependent entirely. They don’t realize how many times they lift their baby, just to feed, change them, to put them in their car, they get into awkward positions all of the time. But generally, as the baby gets heavier, they start to hold their breath as they’re lifting the heavier thing, just maneuvering a pram is quite uncomfortable, and it requires a lot of strength. And if you haven’t got that strength, you just hold your breath and push. But that’s how you gave birth. Essentially, you want to keep everything up.

 

Lauren Hodge

So when you’re pushing the pram, keep it up and lifting.

 

Jen Martin

Usually women start running, but they’re pushing their pram at the same time. So it’s kind of a double whammy on your pelvic floor because you’re pushing the pram but you’re jumping at the same time.

 

Lauren Hodge

I’ll mention that a pram for Americans that pram is a baby stroller.

 

Kendra Till

Terminology.

 

Lauren Hodge

Translating a little bit.

 

Jen Martin

Yeah, with this often that when you’re pushing when you get to start exercising, the first thing you can do is generally go for a walk and then you’ll want to start to run than if you’re running and pushing a pram at the same time. That’s when you sort of sometimes run into a little bit of trouble. Often women just go “oh, that’s just normal. That’ll go away eventually.” But they don’t make that connection. You’ve done two things that are increasing the pressure on your pelvic floor and you’ve just had a baby. That’s like a triple whammy.

 

Lauren Hodge

So instead of holding your breath, is it breathing as well? So it’s like holding it in, but then making sure you continue to breathe and do that.

 

Jen Martin

If you breathe out the air, the pressure will come out of your mouth instead of down into your pelvic floor.

 

Lauren Hodge

That makes sense.

 

Jen Martin

I usually say to my clients, if in doubt, breathe out.

 

Lauren Hodge

I even do it when I’m just sitting here.

 

Jen Martin

I often find if you tell someone to breathe in, it makes them hold their breath a little bit more. When you breathe out, there’s a reflex that makes you breathe in again. So you haven’t got to even think about it. In doubt, breathe out, and then you’ll naturally breathe in again. We tend to hold our breath a lot, and you don’t realize it. It’s the other thing that increases the pressure on your pelvic floor.

 

Kendra Till

Yeah. Interesting. Jen, that’s useful information, and I learned so much, just from what you’ve mentioned. So thank you so much.